5 Reasons Not To Date Your Co-Worker!

Ever heard the phrase – “don’t number two where you eat?” Or is it – “don’t eat where you number two.” LOL, I could have this mixed up, but one thing is for sure–dating a co-worker is 99.9% a potentially bad look.

Don’t get me wrong, there is the .1% percent of couples who have successful relationships, but I’m not sure taking the chance to see if you’re that lucky pair is worth the risk.

What’s so harmful about it?  There are several different levels to this.

Here are my 5 reasons not to date a co-worker:

1- For those who work more than they socialize, they tend to date people that they work with.  (Don’t believe me? Check out hospitals, music studios or just refer to every actor/actress in Hollywood.)  Which means, you aren’t the first co-worker they’ve baited.  Nothing special about that, is it?  Who wants to be the fourth woman/man that the person has dated in the office?

2- If you are extremely professional, you’ll want to keep it a major secret. That means you can’t really be seen together in public or at least lip-locking and holding hands.   You know that once nosey Nancy sees you two together on Saturday, by the time you walk into the office Monday everybody and their mother will know.

3- when other people mention your new boo in an interesting manner, it’s going to drive you crazy wanting to either protect your love interest or claim your him/her.  For example, a friend of mine secretly dated a co-worker and she would cringe when an associate of hers would comment on her guy in a negative way.

4- What if the job requires you two to make a difficult decision?  Could you fire or place the blame for an issue on the person that you date or even worse, sleep with after 5?

5- dating a co-worker and getting serious with him/her means that you will begin to expose and share details about you that are known to few people.  And if all fails–-what will your work environment be like when it doesn’t last?  Are they the type to make your work environment miserable or can you two act like it never happened?

Some people roll the dice and get lucky, others have to change jobs because being in the same space as someone they used to rumble in the sack with makes them sick to their stomachs.

A wise person once told me to never mix dark and light liquor.  Once i realized how right they were, I figured mixing business with pleasure would most likely have the same conclusion–me holding my head in my lap saying WHY DIDN”T I LISTEN! LOL.

-Ashley Charisma is the author of School of Black Love.  For more info on Ashley Charisma and the novel visit www.ashleycharisma.com.

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  1. Dating in the workplace can always be a tricky thing to do especially for the woman. If things go wrong and the man is bitter or immature there is a good chance he will spill all your secrets in the office.

  2. This post makes me want to know what went wrong in your relationship Ashley. Details. We want details. 🙂

  3. Don’t knock finding love in your work space. I met my husband at work. We didn’t work for the same company but we did work in the same building and frequently crossed each other’s paths before finally introducing ourselves one day in the elevator. The key to a successful work space relationship is keeping things private. Don’t feel the need to let people in your place know the minute you start dating. I suggest keeping it under wraps until you either marry or do something else that may absolutely require your colleagues to know. The less you put out there and the less you share publicly, the less you will have to explain if things fall apart.

  4. a wise person once told me “never get your bread, where you get your meat.”

  5. I would add that dating someone who lives in your building is also a very bad idea.

  6. There is a very good reason why relatives are, generally, not allowed to work in the same department. This same principle can be applied to people who date co-workers. I have seen cars vandalized, work stations destroyed, crank calls made, and deliberately dating the very person that was most hated, after a bad break-up. All of this is childish, ridiculous behavior, but people can do crazy things when they are angry, hurt or jealous. It’s bad enough to have to deal with this at home. Why have the drama at your place of employment?

  7. i work in a prison with 500 male co workers. so far i have bedded 3 of them, all my juniors..with 496 people to go..i have my work cut out for me. if anyone cries wolf..theyll have to prove we shagged!

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