5 Reasons Why Women Should Hold Out

When it comes to sex, men and women view the act in completely different ways. For a woman, sex is more of an emotional connection whereas for men sex is just a physical act, satiating their sexual appetite. There is the age old debate of when the right time to have sex in a relationship is. Well I’m here to tell you that the longer you wait the better. I have compiled a list of five reasons why you should hold out (for as long as humanely possible) when you meet someone and get into a relationship.

1. Sex clouds people’s judgment. If you are with someone who mistreats you, but the intimate side of the relationship is enjoyable, women tend to stay in that unhealthy relationship because they are being satisfied sexually. How much sense does that make? There are six billion people in this world; I’m sure you can find someone else to satisfy you and treat you well.

2. If you are out here giving your goodies to every Tom, Dick, and Harry, you depreciate you own self worth. A basic principle of economics is the law of supply and demand. Anything that is in low circulation will have an increased price and value. Not that I am saying a female’s body parts can be priced but I am speaking hypothetically. You lose exclusivity when you exploit yourself and allow any and every man to have a piece of you. Make yourself a commodity.

3. Something as intimate as intercourse should be shared with someone you actually care about. Any intimate experience shared with someone that you love and care about makes that experience much more enjoyable. Many people claim that they would never hold out in a relationship because that would be like buying a car before you test drive it. Be that as it may, like I stated earlier, if you are doing something with someone that you care about, the experience will be much better than if it were with someone you barely knew. Practice makes perfect. No one starts out doing something well. They must perform it until it becomes a well-refined skill. The same can be applied to being intimate with someone.

4. Waiting to be intimate leaves something to look forward to in your relationship. If you meet someone and the first thing you do with them, before you even know their last name is have a one night stand, it doesn’t leave anticipation for anything else in the relationship. You’re handing something so sacred and intimate to someone on a silver platter. What have they done to deserve something so precious?

5. A man will respect you if you respect yourself. If you carry yourself with confidence, your mate will have no choice but to follow suit. Sleeping with a man just to appease him will show that you lack morals and values. At the end of the day, if you wait until you’ve gotten to know a person, you will save yourself a lot of heartache that comes with sleeping with someone too early.

Janice Gassam is a graduate student currently getting her degree in Industrial Organizational Psychology. To contact Janice her email is gassamjz@gmail.com
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  1. I just don’t think that women should advertise how long or how little time they need before sex, sleeping with a man, should be on the womens term, and on her terms only, he male opinion does not matter since you are the one being entered, be very careful as to who you let in , that’s my motto. Oh and for the christians celibates sisters who sleep with dudes the same day they met, please shut the f-ck up

  2. I’m not saying there’s a certain amount of time that one should wait before being intimate. I was just saying that many women should think twice before doing the deed. I understand everyone has needs that they want to satisfy but a few minutes of pleasure can cause a mountain of repurcussions. Just make sure you get to know a person well enough before giving them that part of you.

  3. As a man, i only have one thing to say, wise words i got from a certain someone you might say, “Good things come to those who wait”. As long as guys make that their motto, it shouldn’t be a problem waiting for their female partners to have sex with.

  4. I believe n waiting…gives the Person something 2 look 4ward 2 but also n 2days world u can’t b jumping n2 bed with everyone u meet bcuz that can get cha killed….also u lead by example practice what u preach if gonna talk-the-talk then walk-the-walk hopefuly u will have.a mature,understanding,adult that can get on the same page as u if keep on truckin’.

  5. Monday February 7, 2011 — Nearly thirty years into the HIV epidemic, AIDS continues to be a leading cause of death for Black women and men who have sex with men, despite the availability of life-saving treatment.

    African-American women alone account for 65% of new AIDS diagnoses among women, though Black women make up only 12% of the overall U.S. female population. And data continues to show that nearly half of Black gay and bisexual men are living with HIV.

    With Stat like that not only am I holding out, I’m holding back. 5 SECONDS of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of pain

  6. IF YOU TELL HIM NOOOOOOOO…HE WILL FOLLOW YOU ALL THE WAY TO MEXICO!!! MY Pastor quoted that in a sermon years ago…I am glad I listen!! I married a wonderful man!!

  7. Some men will tell you that if you don’t give up the sex right away they will find someone who will. Let him go and give his STD to someone else then count your blessings.

  8. I’m older italianpuertorican.man very well muscle tone man.attractive. man and down to earth have two jobs one military commander the other hospital at the e.r. going out with a beautiful nubian young woman i don’t mind waiting but she’s just cold she says. Only old school people hold.hands and kiss she’s been through hell and she respects but what can i do the last boyfriend was really an ass i was there for the bad and.now for the good she’s planning a lot of things for and.her mothers happy well the.sex can wait but the other stuff please respond

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