I cannot count the numerous times in my short soon to be 28 years on this lovely earth that I have heard men having conversations about women and how many women they have had and blah, blah. Which brings me to this conclusion. It is 2009, are we not over being pimps and players? I mean come on! Does having a flock of women or constant cheating really make you feel like you are of importance? Are you that simple? With that being said, I have concocted a short list of reasons why being a player in 2009 is played out. Feel free to add on.
1. Diseases and Other Eww-Wee’s!
Oh yeah, and I’m not talking about Ebola. There is a lot of hot s**t running ramped in 2009. I just do not think that a piece of a** ,as my mother so eloquently puts it, is worth catching something. Men and women are so relaxed with their sexual behavior, having unprotected sex with people you have known for a month or even a few weeks. I don’t get it. What is so wrong with wrapping up the goodies before going to dessert?
2. People Are Crazy.
Let me first say that I do not mean any disrespect by the following statement. I take the act of violence on others very serious. Now that we have that disclaimer out the way. Shew! When I say people are crazy, I mean that is not safe to play with everyone’s emotions. Some people are unstable whether you want to see it or not and they cannot handle being played with or even dumped. Case in point, Steve Mcnair. God rest the brothers soul but if he had not had been cheating on his wife, trying to be a “player” he would never have messed around with the chick who led to his untimely death. Was her reasoning and actions right? Hell no! Neither were his. I am in no way implying that he deserved to be killed however women like her should put some fear into these so called “players”. She knew the man was married yet she still became emotionally involved with him. Not everyone can handle being “played”. Be weary of who you “play” with fellas. Some chicks are crazy and they do not play that!
3. Having A Herd Of Women Will Not Make Up For Whatever It Is You Are Lacking.
From my experience, guys who date lots of women at once, or are constant cheaters are usually lacking something emotionally. Something happened to them or they witnessed something that makes them feel like they are missing something. The only way they know how to make up for that void is by dating numerous chicks and running up in them. They use this to stroke their ego. What is the problem? Did your mother never show you love and now you need to get it from various women? Do you REALLY feel that you are ugly and need constant reaffirmation via various women in order to assure that you are attractive. There has to be something deeper going on within than you simply enjoying the company of various women. Love yourself boy!
4. Some Guys Become Addicted To The Attention Thus Never Learning To Settle Down.
I do not know about you ladies, but in my humble opinion, it is especially unattractive to be a 40 year old man who has never been able to hold down a stable relationship in his entire life. That makes me think that something is wrong with you. What are your issues? Why are you unable to maintain at least one or two adult relationships by this point in your life. There has to be deeper issues there than “these women be tripping” or “I just haven’t found the right one”. Screw face. I do not believe you brother.
5. Unwanted Pregnancies.
Sure you can say you are careful but nothing is 100 percent. One wrong eww-wee and you have an unwanted child and perhaps an unwanted life long connection to a woman that you only wanted to spend one night with. Too many guys chase after women, sex them down, get them pregnant and then realize that the chick is crazy. Too late! Now you are stuck with a kid and its crazy a** momma! Should have been more selective while “playing”.
6. It Makes You Less Attractive.
This connects to number 4. It is not attractive for any man of any adult age to to feel the need to have a stock of women. It really does make you look unattractive. One of the first things that crosses my mind when a guy who is known to be a whore approaches me is “when was the last time you have been tested?” Other thoughts like ” don’t ever put your mouth anywhere on me” and “go brush your teeth”, also come to mind.
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I AGREE WITHA ALL 6 ESPECIALLY #3…
Having A Herd Of Women Will Not Make Up For Whatever It Is You Are Lacking.
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I’ve always believed that men who sleep around have psychological and self-esteem problems, I think a lot of “so called” players have feelings of inadequacies and feel like they have something to proove..Look at these dog ugly, ghetto, ebonic speaking rappers and Athletes who only date the girls who look like Alisha Keys or Halle Berry..I think women often make up for what a man is lacking whether it be personally, sexually or looks..I also think that men learn this behavior from other men around them, some cheat because they grew up in a cheating household..It’s really sad that a man thinks that being a h0 makes him a man, grow the f**k up already!
I agree. I was never stupid enough to fall into the pimp/playa game. I never found that attractive regardless of how the guy looked or what he was buying. It was never worth it to me. But, some sistas would put up with anything to have a sugar daddy. SMDH!
Amen!
Awesome, just awesome. The ego and self esteem is behind all of it. It boosts their ego if they can get a lot of girls on their jock, but that doesn’t mean you’re it. It means you’re a ho and you like being used as a sex object by women. and the diseases ughhh…a big turn off. one the reasons I’m still a virgin, no one knows who has what !!!
I agree with all of those, and another thing, wether you are a man or a woman a good mate is hard to find, b/c now it seems like all men want is sex sex sex and women want money money money, or vice versa, where is the love.
So true
I agree w/ your entire list, but the truth is that SOME men will never change. This has gone on for years & years & years. Generations & Generations & Generations. It all stems from what MANY societies believe & that is men have the RIGHT to sow their royal oats. Guys having many women is just a man being a man *rolls eyes*. Where as a woman is thought to be seen & not heard. It all comes down to the women who are involved w/ these men to put their foots down & say I won’t deal anymore. However, even still that really won’t make a difference. Like I was always told, the players have & will change, but the game is STILL the same.
everything about this post is SO TRUE!!!!
No. 2 is damn true.And i’m happy you used PEOPLE instead of WOMEN or MEN. Human beings are indeed unpredictable.