Believe half of what I say and all of what I do.
It’s as simple as that. Isn’t it? Yet for some reason we allow ourselves to be woo’d by the power of wordplay so much that it blocks our intuition and clouds our judgement. It’s the fact that we trust and love each other so much, that the simplest words that come from our mouths can be enough validation for a temporary relief.
But temporary is just that, it’s a quick fix.
You know the quick fixes. The things we say to shut each other up. The things men tell women when they don’t feel like hearing her nag or the things women say when she’s over dealing with an emotional man.
“I love you baby and I’m gonna change!”
“I will never do that again, I swear!”
“I will make more time for us, I promise!”
“I will never cheat again, I’m forreal!”
Haven’t we all heard or said these things before?
And maybe things did change for a few weeks but in most cases they slowly shifted right back to the problem.
That’s because we know exactly what people need to hear and when. And sometimes we have every intention to act on our verbal promises but our actions just don’t agree. And other times we tell you what you want to hear just because we don’t want anyone else to have you.
So what do you do?
You always believe an action over a word. When a person’s words do not match their actions, it’s the most obvious red flag and reason to run. Don’t wait around for the two to match; that may never happen.
People will tell you what you want to hear, so instead of always demanding the verbal truth, hold yourself high enough to expect it in actions.
You want someone who will love you by thought, word and deed. After all, aren’t you worth it?