Anatomy of a Relationship
Have you ever wanted something or better yet someone so badly you could hardly breathe? If you have never experienced this feeling, it may be hard for you to understand. Trust me, it is not a good feeling… when it isn’t returned I mean.
What a wonderful feeling that is. Your heart races. You smile for no reason. You grow excited just with the anticipation of just hearing that person’s voice. When your desired comes into the room… your heart stops. You are a better person. The world is a better place. Everything and everyone are more tolerable. The weekdays are just speed bumps for you to cross to get to the weekends with your beloved. What happens when that love goes bad?
In the beginning it is hard to imagine that love… that perfect love, that causes you so much happiness can turn to hate. We all know people that literally hate their ex-spouses, their ex-lovers, their “baby mamas”. We’ve all heard the “What the hell was I thinking… that girl/boy is an a**hole.” Have you ever wondered how they got that way?
Is it really better to have loved and lost, than to had never had loved at all? I’m really not so sure about that. I’m not a big believer in regrets; I believe you do what it is you want to do at THAT time. However, is the happiness you feel at the beginning of new relationship, worth all the pain you feel if/when the relationship ends? I think that is the better question.
Anatomy of a relationship…
You meet someone. You hit it off. You date. You become exclusive. You fall in love. You marry (or in today’s society, live together). Have a kid. Someone says something the other one doesn’t like… KABOOM! You’re not talking to him. He isn’t talking to you. All of a sudden, you are two people who share the bills. Finally, one of you meets someone else, and moves out. DAMN! You spend the next few years cursing each other, and the new mates as well. Your kid doesn’t even remember a time when you were a happy couple, and wonders “How the hell were my parents in the same room long enough to conceive me?” You’re wondering “What did I ever see in him/her!”
I’ll tell you what you saw. You saw someone with as many issues as you. You saw someone that met your definition of attractive. You saw someone that made your heart race. That made you smile. That made work more tolerable. That made life worth living. You saw your future, and with that person it looked bright. Bad times don’t last always. Life is what you make it. Relationships are what you make them. When things get bad… wait. Pray. Fast. Do whatever it is YOU have to do to get thru it. Remember what it is that attracted you to that person in the first place. Of course there are exceptions to this rule, abuse of any kind, infidelity etc, don’t rush into a relationship with anyone until you know all of the facts. Don’t be a part of this “throw away” society. Remember when people married… and stayed that way! Remember grandparents that weren’t in their 30’s? Remember when people didn’t just shack up? They call them the “good ‘ole days” for a reason.