… And I Should Care Because?

A few days ago I got an interesting e-mail from a man who says his name is Brian. Brian for some reason came to this site, used my contact form, and sent me a very lengthy e-mail explaining to me why he hates and refuses to date Black women. Brian titled his e-mail “My Confession”. Brian contacted me, a Black woman who runs a site in support of other Black women, to confess his dislike of us. Why? Why me? What made this man come to Brown Sista, see what I do and then feel his confession would be of interest to me? What exactly was Brian trying to accomplish with his e-mail and why was he trying to accomplish it with the very type of woman he claimed to despise- A Black Woman?

But what I really wondered is what type of response did Brian expect to elicit from me? Did he think I would attack him or did he think I would get down on my hands and knees and beg him to give us po, ugly, unwanted Black women another chance? LOL. Brian does not know who he is dealing with if he expected either one of those reactions from me- espcially the second one,

If Black women are not on Brian’s radar how did he find his way to this site and what did he read here that compelled him send me this e-mail? Something frightened Brian and I thought I would share my scenario with you all.

Brian:

“Oh My Gawd, some Black chick is online singing the praises of other Black women- I can’t have that. Don’t Black women know they are the ugliest, most evil and unwanted women on the planet? Hold up- I better e-mail this chick and let her know.

LOL.

You see sistas, for a certain type of brotha a low self esteem having sista is the only kinda sista they want. If you can convince a woman or a group of women that they are unloved or unwanted then hey, you can have a field day with them as they will feel honored just to have a man- any man- even if that man is beneath them.

When a woman has been robbed of her self esteem and is left feeling unwanted by her own men and men in general, she is ripe to be taken advantage of and there are plenty of men in this world looking for women they can use and abuse and something tells me Brian is one of those type of men.

But sistas, I haven’t chosen to share this e-mail with you to really talk about Brian but rather I thought I would use it as a chance to remind each and every sista who reads this blog how amazing you really are as women- Black women.

Now I know for many of you it is hard to imagine that what I just said is true. After all we are bombarded with words and images everyday that are not very flattering and tell us just the opposite. I know it is hard to imagine that you are beautiful and especially when everything that makes you you, your hair, your skin, even your body is reviled by the world (at least until they can find a way to copy it for themselves) but is is true.

Everyday I remind the young sistas who live around my block how beautiful and special they are but sometimes we must remind each other of this as well because the Brian’s of the world are always out there lurking- just waiting to pounce and tear your self-esteem apart. I mean how many times can anyone- even those of us who proclaim to be strong black women, take hearing the negativity that spews from the mouths of some our men, without it finally affecting how feel about ourselves and each other?

Sistas, I say to you that your sense of self worth is the greatest thing you have in the world. It will take you far and if you keep it intact it will protect you from the Brain’s of the world. It is a precious jewel- but like all things precious you must protect it, guard it and don’t ever let anyone- especially the Brian’s of the world take it from you.

Click over to page 2 to read Brian’s confession e-mail.

109 Comments

  1. Two things: 1. This dude admits to watching Maury Povich and 2. He thinks Bad Boys 2 is serious acting. 😆 GTFOH! You want to talk about self-hate look to this dude here. He all but says, I wish I were a white man. Lol. This letter to you was to make himself feel better by transferring his angst as well as it being a cry for help and most likely attention.

  2. This dude I worked with many years ago used to tell me this stuff almost daily on our lunch hour. He would find me wherever I was just to tell me how he was tired of “OUR SHIT” and was going to get him a White girl. It took me many years to realize how sick he was and what he was doing was meant to personally make me feel bad about myself. He was a fine brother and eventually tried to get at me. I think he thought if he had me down and out I would feel honored as a Black woman to be chosen by him but I was not. He told me off too when I showed no interest. He said I was stuck up and that’s why brothers didn’t want us. Stephanie you have to school these young girls especially because they believe it when this ish is told to them. They then try to be superwomen taking whatever these no good ass men dish out just to prove they aint like what these men say.

  3. This letter put an immediate smile of my face because I knew exactly what type of BOY he is. He is scared of a strong women, plain and simple. All black women are strong and BOYS are intimidated by that. As far as the hair comments, SO MANY white/hispanic/asian women wear extensions little does HE KNOW!

    Oh and
    “I believe this can happen if people would just have an open mind and ignore the skin color factor and remember that we are all human. We are all God’s children.”
    How does me say this but bad talks Black Women!

    He needs GOD in his life! I’ll pray for you boo, cuz you TRULY are missing out on the best thing in life “black women!”

  4. he wanted you to get upset and respond to him because he has nothing better else to do than bring negativity into someone elses life

  5. I THINK US BLACK WOMEN R THE STRONGEST HUMAN BEING ON THIS EARTH. WE CAN JUGGLE ALOT AND GET IT DONE. NOBODY CAN DO WHAT A BLACK WOMEN CAN DO. IF THE SHOES WAS CHANGE WHITE WOMEN WOULD WANT THERE SHOES BACK FAST. HE JUST A COWARD INDIVIDUAL. I FEEL IF A BLACK MAN CAN NOT RESPECT BLACK WOMEN HE IS NOT RESPECTING HIS MOTHER.

  6. If you are reading this Brian, I would like to challenge your thoughts on the Black Woman please click this link and watch and listen to this:

    A Black Woman’s Smile by Ty Gray El:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPBH57BWhpE

    Remember Brian, you come from a legacy of black women. A black woman created you and a black woman created her and so on….you serouisly need to check yourself. I hope you & everyone here on this comment page checks this out. Have a great weekend.

  7. I’m sorry girl, but you gave this dude exactly what he wanted – a response. That’s all negative people really want. They feel bad about themselves, so they figure if they can make other people feel the same way, it validates them. Video directors would not be able to put destructive images of women out there if these women would just stop coming to the casting calls! Men who don’t like black women would not feel the need to tell us if, everytime they did, we would just say, “Gon and get that white woman! I don’t want you anyway!”

  8. Brian if your reading this, I’d like to challenge your thoughts about the black woman. Please check this link out. We read your letter, so please check this out:3

    A Black Women’s Smile By Ty Gray El:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPBH57BWhpE

    Brian you need to remember that a you come from a history of black women. Your mother is a black woman, her mother was black and so on….you really need to check yourself Brian. Please check out A Black Woman’s Smile and have a great weekend everyone here on Brown Sista!

  9. Of course I gave him a response Nia, as should all Black women. It is the response you give that is important. Many Black women would have attempted to defend Black women all the while making this Black man think we need to be validated by them. LOL. Brian is one of those brothas who think his stock as a Black men is higher than our stock as Black women. I let Brian know he is no more on my radar than I am on his.

  10. God Bless the man! He really needs some serious one on one time with God. It’s so unfortunate to live life with such hang ups.

  11. I agree with the fact that he is SELF HATING and wishes he were white, He contridites himself in this letter so many times that you kinda feel sorry for him, I mean he don’t watch tv cuz they portray us bad but then he takes from the maury show and implies it to black women i think he could have maybe choose the wrong women but then again he has inside issues with himself and him as a person, he is clearly confused and not happy. anyway i will pray for him! also what exactly does he feel about his own mother and aunts?

  12. even if u didnt respond he would still feel like he had the upper hand. responding to A** doesnt make him right

  13. As a black woman, I am offended only by one thing:
    The fact that he so blatantly generalizes the black women he has either dealt with or seen one television with real black WOMEN.
    He is very confused on the word WOMAN. A WOMAN, regardless of what ethnicty, is none of the sterotypes he mentions in his “confession”.
    I hope and pray that he gets it straight. He may just attract ghetto girls, and when a true black WOMAN comes along, he may just shrug her off, assuming she’s like the rest.
    Each and every WOMAN has strong feelings, beliefs, and expectations. If he cannot handle a strong woman, then what does he really want???

  14. [quote comment=”19413″]Two things: 1. This dude admits to watching Maury Povich and 2. He thinks Bad Boys 2 is serious acting. 😆 GTFOH! You want to talk about self-hate look to this dude here. He all but says, I wish I were a white man. Lol. This letter to you was to make himself feel better by transferring his angst as well as it being a cry for help and most likely attention.[/quote] :iagree: OKAY! HE A STRAIGHT UNCLE TOM FO’ REAL! AIN’T HIS MOMMA BLACK! :lol2: WILL AND GRAC?! :lol2: AIN’T DAT A BITCH HE COULDA AT LEAST SAID FRIENDS, DATS MY SHOW! BUT I STILL EMBRACE AND LOVE MY SIGNATURE FAT OL’ ASS AND LIPS! I LOVE MY BLACKNESS! IMMA PRAY FO’ YA “BRIAN” :stop: :hater: !

  15. It is the response you give that is important.

    This says it all right here. So many of these men out here think we should worship the ground they walk on and they think this because as Black women we are always elevating them and they are always letting us. The greatest thing you could have ever done is to post this and let Brian know he is not the center of your or our world. Brian came to you looking for elevation. He sho nuff wanted you to pander to him and beg him to date us. I have seen this type of sick Black man all my life. Let them know ladies that we don’t need or want them anymore than they want us. The same was Brian wants to exercise his dating options so have many Black women, myself includede. The day of the Black woman begging the Black man for his time and attention is over and Brian knows it.

  16. WILL AND GRACE!? DAT SHID IS FUNNY AS HELL :lol2: I CAN’T BELIEVE HE WATCHES DAT! 😆

  17. Brian lives in New York and so do I. He is disgusted he says by the behavior of young Black women on the subway but I have to wonder how he feels about young Black brothas on the subway who exhibit the same and worse behavior than some of these young girls? I wonder how Brian feels about the unsafe state of The NYC Transit System that is full of young Black guys robbing people and acting like hooligans? The same disgusting behavior Brian sees in some young sistas he sees in brothas too but just as Dana said, brothas act like their shit don’t stink and that we should want them anyway. Black men have made Black neighborhoods unlivable via their drug dealing and overall violent behavior yet like all Black men they still think they are wanted and desired by us. Black men are in no position to throw stones. Their drop out and incarceration rate is sky high and until they can get that under control they can’t tell me nothin.

  18. Sis I think he sent it to you because he is seriously mentally disturbed and is looking for someone to help him relieve himself of the chaos in his mind. IF he is actually black, and I seriously doubt that he is, he is suffering from an extreme self hatred. He was “confessing” to you, because he knows he is sick. What “Brian” needs to do is seek help from a competent psychiatrist who is sensitive to racial self-hatred (if such a thing exists). What Brian needs to KNOW is that Black women aren’t, or should not be, “checking for him” either. He could only serve to seriously mentally harm their black children in a horrible way. Shrug this sh9t off…he needed to confess to the “goddess”. :bowdown: He knows the real deal beneath it all.

    Brian, I hope you are reading this…RUN to a competent mental health professional. You really need to address your issues.

  19. I am going to have to agree with Fran 100%. I live in Brooklyn and I see the same things. The way these guys approach BW. Then have the nerve to get angry when we don’t want to give them the time or day. Makes me sick. A lot of these brothas out here are very childish and immature. Not even taking life serious! Sitting around playing video games all day with no job. Our people are in a bad state as a whole. Not all of us, but a lot of us are. I see those same girls on the NYC subway dancing on the poles, like strippers, and loud and ridiculous. Which does make BW look very unattractive. And then wears these God awful hair extensions. Some of the letter, I disagree with. Especially the dating part. But some of it I do have to agree. But like I said, it goes both ways. Both BM and BW need to get it together. It seems like BM and BW are at odds with each other and I cannot see where things are going to get better.

  20. This guy is a JOKE!!! Brian might be upset because no decent black woman is checking for his UGLY A$$!!! 🙄 So in turn BRIAN has decided to write us black women off…Better for us anyway. :dance2:

    Hey BRIAN if youre reading this post you can kiss my natural black :booty: !!!

    :brownsista:

  21. What the hell….This guy has some very serious issues. He hates black women. Does that mean he also hates his mother, whom I assume is also a black woman? Would he hate his own daughter if he has one? And I agree with Brianna who said, ” He all but says, I wish I were a white man. All black women are not ignorant as he thinks. This brotha needs to check himself and seek counseling. I am not sure what type of black women he has been involved with, but I can assure him that they are not the epitome of what a black woman is. And furthermore, he mentioned how black women behave on the Maury Povich show. Well, he must have taken a bathroom break and missed viewing how the caucasian women and men act. Maybe this brotha needs to take a course in African American History and then maybe he will learn to appreciate beautiful black women.

  22. HEY, LADIES
    I LOVE MY BLACK WOMAN. IF IT WASN’T FOR SEVERAL BLACK WOMEN, I WOULDN’T BE THE MAN I AM TODAY. I LOVE THE VIDEO BY Ty Gray El: I WEAR A PICTURE OF MY GRANDMOTHER ON MY SWEATSHIRT AND AT THE BOTTOM IT SAYS “MY HERO” THOUGH ,SHE MAY NEVER APPEAR ON A U.S. STAMP. SHE HAS A STAMP IN MY HEART. THAT STAMP CAN’T BE MOVED, TOUCH AND MOST OF ALL YOU CAN’T PUT A PRICE ON IT FOR DELIVERY. DELIVERY HAS BEEN MADE AND AT THE MOST PRECIOUS TIMES…” IN MY LIFE”. THIS SITE IS AWSOME. HEY- YOU GUYS FORGOT TO PUT CEECEE WINANS ON THE SITE. LOL. KEEP YOUR HEADS UP MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMAN. I ENJOY YOUR BEING, AND BEAUTY. STAY WELL.

    GOD BLESS,
    GERARD

  23. He wants a reaction. He wants to see Ghetto. But you know what I got news for Brian. A lot of my girls are White and they can get just as Ghetto and Loud like the black girls. They go and get Weaves and fake nail just like the black women. So you what, HIS LOST!!! 🙂

    Because the White Men LOVE US SISTA’S TOO!!!!!!!!!!! 😛

  24. THANK U GERARD THERE IS ALOT OF BROTHERS LIKE YOU THAT LOVES THEM SOME BLACK WOMEN HE JUST OFF HIS MED LOL. BUT THANKS AGAIN. :thumbsup: EVERYONE HAVE A GREAT LONG WEEKEND.

  25. BRIANNA,
    HE A STRAIGHT UNCLE TOM FO’ REAL! AIN’T HIS MOMMA BLACK! :iagree: :lol2: :lol2:

    See this is what? happen’s when you’re into “Scientology” crazy shit! you start thinking crazy,talking crazy and you lose control of yourself….

    He need’s to see his psychiatrist very fast!

  26. This brokeup ass negro just contradict himself on sooo many levels. FALL BACK!! :loser:

  27. :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

    What a loser! He just had to send this to a site for black women to try to put us down so that he can feel better about his low self esteem.

    :noway: am Igoing to let this do anything but fall off of me like water on a ducks back.

    :brownsista: :brownsista: :brownsista: :brownsista: :brownsista:

  28. I bet he isn’t really black, he sounds like some racist who fell upon this site and was angry to see somebody tring to show love and celebrating our women. He needs to get life and go check for some white lover website.

  29. This dude is a clown and he needs counseling. I couldn’t even get halfway through his silly tirade. But seriously, he needs some sort of professional help to deal with his self-hating issues. Because any black man who hates black women to this extent essentially hates themselves. Furthermore, I’m quite concerned that he speaks of slapping women and beating the crap out of them. Not cool at all.

  30. Very sad…I really feel sorry for the brother first b/c he watches Maury and second b/c he is missing out a lot of love by shutting out the very fabric that created him. I see a lot of ignorant people – black women too but I know that every black woman is not like that, I see a lot of ignorant black men. men that don’t care of their kids and like rims better than hepling get their kids braces – but I have strong black man for a husband b/c I did not shut out my race b/c of bad relationships. I have an open mind and I have dated all races and I don’t judge an entire race on the stupidity of a few people

  31. Well maybe you’re taking this letter a little too seriously, reading that letter my conclusion is that he wanted to let some steam out and open up in hopes that things might change. B/c believe you me, as a black man, I know tons of black men who feel the same way. One big misconception that a lot of black women have towards black men dating white women is that black women think that black men find black women to be “ugly”. Or my favorite, “They can’t handle a strong black woman!” That nonsense just makes me laugh. I love my black women, but as a black man, this guy is speaking the truth. What turns off descent black men such as myself and a lot of others about black women is that damn ghetto “sista girl” mentality which is based on degrading the black man. Likewise how the “gangsta” or “pimp” mentality degrades black women, this sista girl mentality that black women have is driving away all the good brothers. The sista girl mentality promotes a good black man is one who: Drives an escalade on 24 inch rims that he has on layaway, money to pay a woman’s rent, the latest style of nonsense expensive clothing that goes out of style a month later, and one who wears the latest pair of $200 sneakers. And don’t forget that the “sista girl” mentality also promotes a submissive man towards his woman who is okay with taking care of kids that are not his and doesn’t mind a woman that refuses to cook for him. And if a black man doesn’t have all of those things then he is somehow a loser and less of a man when in reality: MAN MAKES THE MONEY, MONEY DOESN’T MAKE THE MAN. And in a society where the black man is the most disrespected and the most hated thing that is suffering from high unemployment, it is very rare to see a black man who is able to afford all of that. But that is the mentality that a lot of black women have and when a black man sees that, he gets turned off by it and runs to white and asian women for support. Maybe the guy wrote this letter b/c since this is a forum for black women by black women, he hopes to receive some answers and maybe want a black woman let him know that there is still good black women out there. And this is an excellent forum to talk about these issues. B/c as racist as this society is towards the black man, the black man don’t even have his own women to support him anymore since a lot of black women want to go off into this “sista ghetto girl” spirit all while falling for that lesbian women’s rights movement, and putting that above the uplifting of her race. I think issues like these should be talked about more and what should be done about should be talked about on this site also since this is a website for black women.

  32. @ black man x,
    i’m sorry your words don’t resonate with me. more than 10% of black men are in the penal system (prison, parole, probation.) black women make up half the new aids cases in the united states and they get it from heterosexual sex with black men. black men and white woman are not the leading interracial couple, they are number two. (asian woman/white man). i really would like to open a dialogue with you because i am mystified by black men. black men denegrate black women constantly. but for me it doesn’t come out in the wash. please help me understand.

  33. This guy and every other man who thinks that all black women are mean, ugly and rude were absolutley abused by their mother, aunts and grandmother. no changing my mind on that. Not all black women are ghetto; not all white women have class. the same goes for men. Whatever white woman he dates needs to watch out for his broke wanna-be writer/producer ***before he wipes out her bank account. 😆

  34. @ Gorgeous black woman, so what if my mom and my sister are black women. How does that take away the fact that what I’m saying is correct?

    and @ iris, the rate of black men in the prison system is way higher than 10%. And why do you think black men endup in prison so fast? B/c they are systematically forced in prison. Since this is a society which is based on education and how the education fails young black men, and how there is high unemployment amongst black men, alot of black men are systematically forced to do things for financial means. And this would go to any person that is in a position in which they cannot find a descent job, and haven’t had an education; when one is forced in this position, that person would do whatever it takes to survive. And as far as the black man is concerned, a lot resort to selling drugs and stealing as a means of feeding themselves.

    And don’t believe that nonsense about the reason why black women has the highest rate of aids is b/c of this “DL” crap. That stuff isn’t even proven and is a bunch of lies by the media in order to make the black man look like a villain and a faggot at the same time. As a matter of fact recent studies have shown that homosexual men have the lowest rate of HIV/Aids in recent years so how could this damn “DL” thing be the cause of black women catching aids?

  35. as far as brian, he should date who he wants to date. no one is stopping him. I’m 31 and i haven’t been asked out by a black man since high school. but other men think i great so i wish brian and any other black man who refuses to date black women well. good luck.

  36. if black women attend the same schools as black men but have double and triple the amonts of college degrees, where does that put your point.

    as far as economically forced into crime, they could work at mcdonalds and go to school at night like many black women have to do.

    i’ll let the aids discussion lapse because it doesn’t make or break my point that if any one is undesirable it should be black men. but i do not hear large amounts of black women, coming out saying how much they hate or won’t date black women.

    black man x – your telling me because a small portion of black women “act ghetto” black women are undesirable?

  37. “if any one is undesirable it should be black men”—– another example of this “sista girl” mentality in which they look down towards their own men. Yeah a black man could work at mcdonalds and go to college at night but when he graduates, who would hire him? It came out a while back that 85% of black men in the US with a college degree has just as much as a hard time finding a job as a black man without a college degree. Why is that? B/c white people who runs corporate america refuses to hire them.

    And don’t lie and tell me that nonsense that “there aren’t a large portion of black women coming out and saying how much they hate or won’t date men” Look at what these black women say about their own men, “Look at this dumb *ss n*gg@!”. And how about a brother that is doing positive things with himeself, what do black women always say about them: “This n*gg@ think he’s white, he think he’s better than everybody”. The actions of most of these black women and the things they say about black men is enough for the black man to know that these black women are messed up.

    This’ll be my last comment on here b/c I see that there is a high concentration of the in-denial virus spreading over here. I’ll just end it with this saying: If someone is sick, in order to cure that sickness one must know the disease they have. But if a person refuses to acknowledge that they are sick then the disease will only get worst.

    Black men and black women are very sick in today’s society and not acknowledging our sickness will eventually lead us to extinction!

  38. brian got exactly what he wanted some atention there he has a topic entirely dedicated to him with some black folks that are ready to get each other in a milimeter second
    In 2008 i wont respond [and by way of consequences encourage] ignorance

  39. sweet minty jesus. i had several reactions in a matter of seconds: is he really black? who admits to watching muray? why lawd why are black people always responsible for each others actions? it one person defines a whole group of people timothy mcveigh should have had us all shooting 30something white me in the face on sight.
    bless this brothers heart can you imagine how sh*tty his life has and will be?

  40. ^^^Right :confused:

    It’s best if we get at each other over more important issues like Rihanna’s new handbag or how Beyonce is “everywhere” and needs to take a break :loser:

  41. Mr. Brian is obviously suffering from self-hatred and can’t nothing cure that like a hardcore reality check! He’ll feel the heat when he tries to be accepted by his lovely, innocent, beautiful, perfect (sarcasm) white woman’s family and they remind him that he ain’t nothin’ but a N-GGER 🙁 Will he still feel the same way about his black sisters then. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

    As for the black brothers on the DL :hmph: It is hella real and these brothers are getting harder and harder to detect.

    Some of you sisters need to be real real real concerned about your man/husbands/baby daddies 🙁 All I have to say is watch out for those brothers that want to “explore” all types of sexual positions and conditions with you especially the :booty: and… (let me stop there before I get my comment deleted).

    And, yes ladies, I am GAY and FAB-O-LOUS (no imposter here)

  42. I feel sorry for him. I would love to send him a email telling him just that. The fact that he watches the Maury Show says so much about him, that he is obviously not that educated nor is he a very good producer or director, because if he were he’d know that most of those people on that show are actors/actresses. Its black men like that, i feel give black men a bad name. Yes there are the thugs and fools that act like they have no sense, but at least they love their people and know where they came from, a strong black woman. I wonder how his mother would feel if she read this. Sistas! We are beautiful no matter what the media says or how others may see us…GONE ON BE DIVAS!

  43. My comments are directed mainly to Black Man ‘X’. First, you suggest that Brian who wrote the letter maybe did so in the hopes of opening up a dialogue with black women and bringing about some type of change. No one with an ounce of manners or decency opens up a dialogue by insulting and degrading the very group of people he is supposedly trying to reach out to. Unfortunately, it has become typical of many black men to constantly hurl insults at black women in any forum, and then expect us to turn around and welcome them with open arms and sympathy. You also bring out the old, tired excuse that black women only want “ghetto or gangsta-type” black men. I have many smart, single intelligent black female friends and NOT ONE of them is in the least bit interested in this type of man. In fact, some of them couldn’t even tell you what a “gangsta” is if they tried. Black men need to be honest and admit that they are simply more attracted to women who are white, Asian or lighter-skinned because they have not bothered to think critically in terms of the images broadcast by the mainstream, sexist media.
    Lastly, this is a site that uplifts black women and offers them positive images and views about themselves. Yet you are suggesting that the owner now entertain these types of dialogues from black men. Well, I hope she never does. Because then it will only become yet another site where black men come to insult and sound off against black women and give them something else to feel bad about. Black women deserve to have autonomy and to talk about positive issues that are central to them – without black men or anyone else barging in and leaving their twisted, self-hating mantras lying around. Thank you.

  44. @Black Man X….

    I don’t doubt that there are some women who think the way you have described—but I think a larger part of your problem may be that you have encountered only women from a certain social class (I don’t like to use the phrase “ghetto girls” but there it is….and you have attributed their behavior to ALL black women. You are limited in your experiences and so you are limited in your analysis.

    Most of the black women I know do not think or behave in the way you have described. Most black women stand beside their black men through a great many hardships.

    It is wrong for you to put a blanket statement out like you have.

    When I was 19, I married a 30 year old black man who proceeded to beat me and abuse me for the next 12 years. Now if I then said “ALL BLACK MEN ARE LIKE THIS” I would be wrong. I would also be single because I would have missed my wonderful husband (new one not the old a$$hold) while I was walking around faulting all blackmen.

    I also know a great many black men who are only attracted to a certain type of woman. They LIKE the “round the way girls” they like the half-naked hoochies who look like video hoes….then they sound exactly like you when the females they have chased, turn out to be exactly what they are.

    I think we all have to take responsibility for our choices. IF you aren’t willing to do that, then you will continue to suffer, but don’t blame all black women. Blame yourself. Make better choices in women.

  45. Nef, I concur 100% with your comments. Unfortunately too many of us refuse to think critically or with a broad-mind when it comes to judging each other – we take a few bad experiences and use that as an excuse to dismiss each other in relationships. You only have to read the first few lines of Brian’s e-mail to see that he is obviously EXTREMELY limited not only in his choices of women, but also in his choices in entertainment, lifestyle, etc. And it is too bad that Black Man X who started somewhat positively, also quickly degenerated into the same mold with his half-baked statistics and usual stereotypes against black women.

  46. Peace, Love, and Happiness to you Brian.

    TO ALL MY BLACK BROTHA’S (THERE IS TRULY NO LOVE LIKE A SISTA’S LOVE.) IF YOU FEEL YOU BEEN HURT, OR BETRAYED MOVE ON. ACCEPT THE FACT THE RELATIONSHIP DIDN’T WORKOUT FOR WHAT EVER REASON. NO NEED TO DISPLAY YOUR HATRED. LIFE GOES ON

  47. I agree a little bit in certain points but i love black women, they are so lovely and so beautiful.

  48. There will always be ignorant people out there that have nothing else to do but try to bring someone else, or in this case, a lot of people down in order to validate themselves, their ignorance, and their very low self esteem. I skimmed through a lot of the paragraphs, and his email, but I get the gist of it. He wrote it to you because he wants you to react negatively and get angry. Make him feel better, and make him feel justified. It doesn’t make me angry at all. That’s what all racists, sexists, and hateful people do. I’ve spent some of my youth (the youth that I’m very much still in) and I’m still spending it promoting equality, diversity, and love of all different kinds of people, cultures, religions, sexualities, all of it.

    As a young black woman, I love myself and I’m quite proud of who I am. I’m smart, capable, beautiful, and wonderful. I don’t assume anything about anyone based on race or whatnot, and I encourage everyone I know and meet to do the same. Keep an open mind. I’m open to all kinds of men when it comes to dating, I have no ‘preference’. A good man is a good man, no matter what color his skin is. A good woman is a good woman, no matter the color of hers either.

    Men like this ‘Brian’ character are sad within themselves I believe, and they know it. I pity people like that, and I feel sorry for them. I don’t hate them. I pity them. I’m no Christian, but as some of the old would say “Bless his little soul.” I hope this guy gets himself together one day and really does something about his mental sickness, because whether he knows it or not, the only person he’s really hurting and aiming the gun at is himself.

  49. Brian, I sure hope you feel better now.

    For someone who’s future consists of becoming the “Endangered Human Species” you sure have a lot of nerve. Your hateful energy could have been redirected and used towards something far more productive. But you have CHOSEN to go the destructive route.

    In this great big ole world filled with millions of people from hundreds of different backgrounds, upbringings and class systems, you see it fit to generalize a whole race of people on your personal experience in the “hood.” How very small of you.

    Now, I could understand your crazy ramblings if and only if you were well traveled and had studied groups of Black Woman around the world – in every hut, house, and mansion or project apartment. But, instead your data is based on your personal experience with one Black Woman and your observation of SOME young Black female youth on the “A” train.

    Your letter to Brownsista wasn’t a cry for help or understanding. You flat out meant to be mean, nasty, degrading and hurtful. Unfortunately, your tirade and degradation of Black Women didn’t start here and it certainly won’t end here.

    You talked about becoming a writer and director. Well, the media is the perfect outlet to spew your hate and venom. You will definitely be in line with the all-true and all real conspiracy to destroy, degrade and humiliate the Black Female via the blue tube. Your CHOICE to do this is a conscious one and you are bound to reap what you sow.

    Your letter is also degrading to white/European women. You will only date a white woman, not because you genuinely like her or you guys have a lot in common. No, you want a white woman simply because she is white, simply because you have been brainwashed to believe that she is perfect, docile and cooperative. Well, what’s going to happen when you finally date a white woman and you realize that many of them are not as passive as the media has portrayed and that she too is human and has faults? You mentioned that you love “European hair” and you hate Black Women’s hair. Does that mean you hate your own hair too? Would you be able to deal with strands of European hair in your shower, tub, bathroom sink, bed, pillow, on your clothes, on the kitchen counter or even in your food? Will you talk about how much you “hate” European hair then?

    Have you ever been to the ghettos of Ireland, Great Britain, Russia or any poor European country? Because, I can assure you that you will see the EXACT type of behavior from White women, men and children that you see from Black women, men and children in the ghettos of Chicago, New York, Los Angeles, etc.

    Since you’re from New York, have you ever witnessed the loud, disrespectful, inebriated, behavior exhibited by young/professional White women on Friday and Saturday nights in the “village” as they party it up or on the NYC Subway on their way home from the bar?

    Have you ever been to an Italian American of Jewish American home only to witness the violent turmoil between family members? Have you ever been witness to an old Jewish woman verbally degrade her husband in public? Or, have you ever had to sit and listen to White men tell you how much they hate their wives?

    But, somehow Brian, you and so many of our Black brothers seem to think that White people are perfect and that all of your problems would be over if you can only get you a White woman. But be careful my friend, because she knows her worth and she knows that all she has to do is make one phone call and you are as good as dead.

    I agree, Frank, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

  50. Hey, first I would love to say this is a beautiful site for the strength of BLACK WOMEN YOU CAN SEE AND LOVE!! AMEN!

    As for the boy that wrote the e-mail well…. he has no name and no existence for that he himself has wiped away and I dare not call him X for that is in correlation with a real MAN! Malcolm X, you see when someone has self hate anything in reflection of that hate will disturb them and when one finds beauty in what they hate the most, well they will hurt the most!!! the mere fact that the boy came to this sight and had nothing positive to say is the mere key that WE AS BLACK WOMEN HAVE POWER OVER HIM!- Truthfully if he were to look at his reasons for him disliking black women he then would understand why The white MAN THAT IS RACIST HATE HIM! And therefore that makes them BROTHERS THAT SHARE THE SAME SHEETS OF FABRICS! WITH MEDIA HYPE! NO FACTS AND SELF HATE! WITH NOTHING BUT HOLES! CARVED OUT TO SEE WHAT THEY WANT TO SEE!! Hmmm so I say let him try and speak for his voice is not heard by women LIKE US BLACK WOMEN! BEAUTIFUL, BOLD, TRANSITIONAL, BLACK WOMEN, HMM 400YRS! IN THIS COUNTRY HAS PROVEN US TO BE SO!!!

    TO THE BOY THAT WROTE THE E-MAIL- I’m proud of your confession for you took the sheet off unlike your brother- that I CONGRATULATE YOU! IT LESS COWARDNESS AND MORE THOUGHT! Oh yeah you leaving the pool from dating BLACK WOMEN IS NOT A LOSS BUT A GAIN FOR OUR SALVATION!! WE DON’T WANT YOU!!! PEACE, LOVE AND HAPPINESS!

  51. I feel sorry for him because not only does he hates black women ,he also hates himself. Black people are shown in negative ways through the media,videos, and every where else. Black people are so use to being seen in a negative light that we are starting to hate ourselves. No relationship is perfect no matter what race you are. He has had a lot of bad relationships with black women because he never wanted to date them in the first place. But he will meet a white woman with the same negative characteristics that he claim that only black women have, and he is going work hard at making that relationship work because he is with a white woman. I say go ahead and date other women besides black women, maybe it’s meant for him to date and marry a white woman. But I have dated a lot of no good black men, but I would never judge all black men based on my personal experiences. It’s all about being patient and God will send you the right person. I say if he is attracted to women with long silky hair, white skin, with a great personality go ahead and get what you want. But please stop the hatred toward black women because you can’t judge a whole group of women based on the handful you have encountered. If he just start loving himself more he would not only start to have respect and love for black women but love for his whole Black race. I still love you brother and everything will be OK! :brownsista:

  52. :iagree: Nefertari & Trisha!
    This is not a black man,but some SICK A$$ white man or white woman who stumbled upon this site.

  53. I won’t be long, I’ll just talk about…….Black women the least desired women on the planet?

    This post’s goal is to PROVE THAT NO WE ARE NOT THE LEAST DESIRED WOMEN on the planet.

    David Bowie married Iman.
    Robert DeNiro’s wife is black.
    Heather Headley’s HUSBAND is white.
    Paul Wall’s WIFE is black.
    Actor Rick Gonzalez’ WIFE is black.
    Halle’s man is white.
    Actress ALFRE WOODWARD’s husband is white.

    It was EUROPEANS who gave their chances to Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell, Alek Wek, Liyah Kebedeh, Iman, Grace Jones and the list goes on, and made them top models. So if we’re not loved and venerated why did THEY celebrate black beauty?

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women, you wanna know how I know? I MARRIED ONE, we’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, look at this video and then tell me you still doubt :

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg

    THE MEDIA doesn’t talk too much about it but it’s everywhere, open your eyes and you will see. And I’ve been to Thailand, Japan and Korea black women who go study there (I study oriental languages) are wooed by asians 24/7, date and MARRY asians over there, there ARE black/asian children over there. I’ve met my husband there and he was on vacation visiting his family, he was american like me. So yeah we live in the US. But I’ve seen asians, men and women, wear braids and lock their hair even, fans of Bob Marley Lauryn Hill and James Brown, if you go abroad you’ll see for yourself. One of my friends is phillipino and engaged to a sista. It’s to the point where IKEA took notice and did a commercial with an Asian Man and Black Woman JUST RECENTLY with their black/asian CHILD I don’t know if y’all seen it but I’ve seen it like last week on TV. For the first time I’ve seen my couple represented. My husband said asian men have ALWAYS loved the Halle’s and Naomi’s but feared to cross the color barrier just like WE sistas did cause it used to be a taboo.

    This is LOVE too : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAAj32IsdPI

    So yeah, white men, asian men, and also indians, who share the same “skin shades” than we blacks do, LOVE US and start more and more to MARRY US.

    See some black men STEREOTYPE US (it’s been once again confirmed here) and run to white girls downing the very ones who carried them and their wombs, fed them, clothed them, loved them, and the FUNNIEST thing is that they can’t stand when sistas jump the color barrier. I didn’t date and marry an asian man “because I hate black men”, but I’ve decided that I just would stop discriminating, life is TOO SHORT, and just take what life gives me black white green or red, as long as the LOVE and RESPECT are there. I’ve found it in my husband, and I’m the happiest woman in the world, and IRONICALLY he’s the ONLY man who’s never PUT A STEREOTYPICAL LABEL ON ME BASED ON MY SKIN. Not to mention that his parents accepted me with open arms.

    So yeah Brian, keep dissing us, cause there are billions of other men out there, and I woke up like 5 years ago…

  54. I won’t be long, I’ll just talk about…….Black women the least desired women on the planet?

    This post’s goal is to PROVE THAT NO WE ARE NOT THE LEAST DESIRED WOMEN on the planet.

    David Bowie married Iman.
    Robert DeNiro’s wife is black.
    Heather Headley’s HUSBAND is white.
    Paul Wall’s WIFE is black.
    Actor Rick Gonzalez’ WIFE is black.
    Halle’s man is white.
    Actress ALFRE WOODWARD’s husband is white.

    It was EUROPEANS who gave their chances to Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell, Alek Wek, Liyah Kebedeh, Iman, Grace Jones and the list goes on, and made them top models. So if we’re not loved and venerated why did THEY celebrate black beauty?

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women, you wanna know how I know? I MARRIED ONE, we’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, look at this video and then tell me you still doubt :

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg

    THE MEDIA doesn’t talk too much about it but it’s everywhere, open your eyes and you will see. And I’ve been to Thailand, Japan and Korea black women who go study there (I study oriental languages) are wooed by asians 24/7, date and MARRY asians over there, there ARE black/asian children over there. I’ve met my husband there and he was on vacation visiting his family, he was american like me. So yeah we live in the US. But I’ve seen asians, men and women, wear braids and lock their hair even, fans of Bob Marley Lauryn Hill and James Brown, if you go abroad you’ll see for yourself. One of my friends is phillipino and engaged to a sista. It’s to the point where IKEA took notice and did a commercial with an Asian Man and Black Woman JUST RECENTLY with their black/asian CHILD I don’t know if y’all seen it but I’ve seen it like last week on TV. For the first time I’ve seen my couple represented. My husband said asian men have ALWAYS loved the Halle’s and Naomi’s but feared to cross the color barrier just like WE sistas did cause it used to be a taboo.

  55. I won’t be long, I’ll just talk about…….Black women the least desired women on the planet? (I guess I’m gonna have to seperate it in different parts)….

    This post’s goal is to PROVE THAT NO WE ARE NOT THE LEAST DESIRED WOMEN on the planet.

    (part 1) :

    David Bowie married Iman.
    Robert DeNiro’s wife is black.
    Heather Headley’s HUSBAND is white.
    Paul Wall’s WIFE is black.
    Actor Rick Gonzalez’ WIFE is black.
    Halle’s man is white.
    Actress ALFRE WOODWARD’s husband is white.
    Actress Garcelle Beauvais’ HUSBAND is white.

    It was EUROPEANS who gave their chances to Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell, Alek Wek, Liyah Kebedeh, Iman, Grace Jones and the list goes on, and made them top models. So if we’re not loved and venerated why did THEY celebrate black beauty?

  56. (part 2) :

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women, you wanna know how I know? I MARRIED ONE, we’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, look at this video and then tell me you still doubt :

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg

    THE MEDIA doesn’t talk too much about it but it’s everywhere, open your eyes and you will see. And I’ve been to Thailand, Japan and Korea black women who go study there (I study oriental languages) are wooed by asians 24/7, date and MARRY asians over there, there ARE black/asian children over there. I’ve met my husband there and he was on vacation visiting his family, he was american like me. So yeah we live in the US. But I’ve seen asians, men and women, wear braids and lock their hair even, fans of Bob Marley Lauryn Hill and James Brown, if you go abroad you’ll see for yourself. One of my friends is phillipino and engaged to a sista. It’s to the point where IKEA took notice and did a commercial with an Asian Man and Black Woman JUST RECENTLY with their black/asian CHILD I don’t know if y’all seen it but I’ve seen it like last week on TV. For the first time I’ve seen my couple represented. My husband said asian men have ALWAYS loved the Halle’s and Naomi’s but feared to cross the color barrier just like WE sistas did cause it used to be a taboo.

    This is LOVE too : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAAj32IsdPI

    So yeah, white men, asian men, and also indians, who share the same “skin shades” than we blacks do, LOVE US and start more and more to MARRY US.

    See some black men STEREOTYPE US (it’s been once again confirmed here) and run to white girls downing the very ones who carried them and their wombs, fed them, clothed them, loved them, and the FUNNIEST thing is that they can’t stand when sistas jump the color barrier. I didn’t date and marry an asian man “because I hate black men”, but I’ve decided that I just would stop discriminating, life is TOO SHORT, and just take what life gives me black white green or red, as long as the LOVE and RESPECT are there. I’ve found it in my husband, and I’m the happiest woman in the world, and IRONICALLY he’s the ONLY man who’s never PUT A STEREOTYPICAL LABEL ON ME BASED ON MY SKIN. Not to mention that his parents accepted me with open arms.

    So yeah Brian, keep dissing us, cause there are millions of other men out there who adore us, and I woke up like 5 years ago.

  57. (part 2) :

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women, you wanna know how I know? I MARRIED ONE, I’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, look at this video and then tell me you still doubt :

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg

  58. part 2 :

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women, you wanna know how I know? I MARRIED ONE, I’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, look at this video and then tell me you still doubt…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg

  59. part 2 :

    And last but not least, ASIAN MEN love black women. I MARRIED ONE, I’ve been married for 3 years to a Korean-American guy. And he’s always been attracted to black women. They’ve always ADORED us. Basically, type “AMBW” (asian man black woman) on YOUTUBE, and watch the first video “AMBW: Friends, Couples ‘n Fam”…..this site doesn’t seem to accept the link sorry.

  60. ^^ THE MEDIA doesn’t talk too much about it but it’s everywhere, open your eyes and you will see. And I’ve been to Thailand, Japan and Korea black women who go study there (I study oriental languages) are wooed by asians 24/7, date and MARRY asians over there, there ARE black/asian children over there. I’ve met my husband there and he was on vacation visiting his family, he was american like me. So yeah we live in the US. But I’ve seen asians, men and women, wear braids and lock their hair even, fans of Bob Marley Lauryn Hill and James Brown, if you go abroad you’ll see for yourself. One of my friends is phillipino and engaged to a sista. It’s to the point where IKEA took notice and did a commercial with an Asian Man and Black Woman JUST RECENTLY with their black/asian CHILD I don’t know if y’all seen it but I’ve seen it like last week on TV. For the first time I’ve seen my couple represented. My husband said asian men have ALWAYS loved the Halle’s and Naomi’s but feared to cross the color barrier just like WE sistas did cause it used to be a taboo.

  61. (part 3) :

    This is LOVE too : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAAj32IsdPI

    So yeah, white men, asian men, and also indians, who share the same “skin shades” than we blacks do, LOVE US and start more and more to MARRY US.

    See some (I said some) black men STEREOTYPE US (it’s been once again confirmed here) and run to white girls downing the very ones who carried them and their wombs, fed them, clothed them, loved them, and the FUNNIEST thing is that they can’t stand when sistas jump the color barrier. I didn’t date and marry an asian man “because I hate black men”, but I’ve decided that I just would stop discriminating, life is TOO SHORT, and just take what life gives me black white green or red, as long as the LOVE and RESPECT are there. I’ve found it in my husband, and I’m the happiest woman in the world, and IRONICALLY he’s the ONLY man who’s never PUT A STEREOTYPICAL LABEL ON ME BASED ON MY SKIN. Not to mention that his parents accepted me with open arms.

    So yeah Brian, keep dissing us, cause there are millions of other men out there who adore us, and I woke up like 5 years ago.

  62. (part 3)

    So yeah, white men, asian men, and also indians, who share the same “skin shades” than we blacks do, LOVE US and start more and more to MARRY US.

    See some (I said some) black men STEREOTYPE US (it’s been once again confirmed here) and run to white girls downing the very ones who carried them and their wombs, fed them, clothed them, loved them, and the FUNNIEST thing is that they can’t stand when sistas jump the color barrier. I didn’t date and marry an asian man “because I hate black men”, but I’ve decided that I just would stop discriminating, life is TOO SHORT, and just take what life gives me black white green or red, as long as the LOVE and RESPECT are there. I’ve found it in my husband, and I’m the happiest woman in the world, and IRONICALLY he’s the ONLY man who’s never PUT A STEREOTYPICAL LABEL ON ME BASED ON MY SKIN. Not to mention that his parents accepted me with open arms.

    So yeah Brian, keep dissing us, cause there are millions of other men out there who adore us, and I woke up like 5 years ago.

  63. UMm can u say RETARD…..I seriously hope this guy is not a guy but a lil 10 yr old boy becuz his thoughts are sooooo immature. He is also contradicting himself. he is weak and can stand a strong willedwoman who takes no shit from anyone…

  64. @ Black Man X
    Once again, another dude pigeon holed me and millions of other black women into this one category. I, for one, am not a “sista girl” (as u like to call it). I dont look for those things in a man. I am not ghetto, loud, obnoxious. I am not looking for a man to take care of me, u best believe I can do that by myself. All of us women (regardless of color) want is a man who is goal oriented, has a job, an education, has sumthin to bring to the table besides his dick. (We have vibrators for that.) Its just so funny how u say that black women want a man’s money. So you mean to tell me ur gonna overlook all these white girl groupies that are all over athletes, in hopes of being their trophy wife and call the black women out. WRONG! u got it all wrong. I am an ambitious Black female…. who attends UCLA and is doing big things for herself. SO excuse me if Im being a lil sassy but, u are not gonna degrade women like me, BLAck WOmen like me.

  65. So let me get this straight……

    He doesn’t LIKE US……..BUT HE TAKES THE TIME TO WRITE AN ESSAY ON “WHY HE HATES US”, and he visits a website about “the women he hates the most”?? :lol2:

    Cause if I don’t like someone I don’t think about them, right? :confused:

    Thanks for letting us know that WE ARE ON YOUR MIND, WE HAVE POWER OVER YOU. 😆

    And who suffers more from this HATE?? YOU SWEETIE, you sound ANGRY, SELF-HATEFUL and BITTER. :loser:

    Isn’t your mother BLACK?? And if you have a daughter, won’t she be BLACK?? :brownsista:

    THIS SHYYYYT is HILARIOUS. :lol2:

    Thanks for the laugh!! and LOLA Good POSTING!!! I date a cat from Sri Lanka last year we remained friends, but I didn’t know that about Asian men, I’ve watched the video, notice that they love dark and brown sistas even more?? LMAO!

    So that “bother” hates us and stereotypes us? How can you hate the most educated and powerful minority of the country? We are OPRAH freaking WINFREY for goodness sakes!! 😀 :bowdown:

    BTW, your hate is cool with me cause it makes me see things from different perspectives. The more you spit hate the more we hear it and pay attention to the love from other races cause at the end of the day all we ask for is love. Black men are losing us, Jill Scott is with a LATINO PAPI NOW, a sista married Paul Wall and Rihanna dates a white boy. Black women are obviously becoming tired of the bullshat.

    :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

  66. THIS DUDE IS A :loser: 😆 AND A :hater: 😆 LET’S HAMMER-TIME :dance2: THIS FOOL

  67. I am so sorry that Brian chooses to look at everything negative about Black Women. His attittude is very typical of men who look for faults in any woman. Thankfully we are not ugly, uneducated and ignorant. The majority of us are kind, caring, loving people. We are mothers raising sons alone because of ignorant men like Brian, tring to keep our daughters away from men like him so that their self-esteem isn’t greatly bruised. Yes we Black women go to school to educate ourselves, so that we can make enough to take care of children because of the dead beat dads that won’t help us support our children. And if the hair style of a women bothers Brian so much his issues are real deep. As a professional and some one that is educating herself on human behavior I would like to suggest to Brian to get professional help. His issues are deep rooted and are probably related to the mother figure in his life. Stop beating up on Black women we are a strong and loving people.

  68. Why when reading this did I get the vibe that this letter was not written by a non-black person trying to get entertainment by touching on a very controversial topic; knowing that it would garner this much response…

  69. Loved your posts Lola :thumbsup: , but where did you hear about Rick Gonzalez having a black wife? 🙁

  70. @ Dottie,

    They’re engaged actually, I typed “wife” because I was listing wives and it was just automatic, sorry 🙂 . So here are a few pics of them. They’ve been together for over 3 years and her name is Sherionne. I tried to post links but for some reasoon the site doesn’t accept the W!reImage, or is it me who can’t do it? I don’t know. But type “rick gonzalez fiancee” on GOOGLE and the First link is W!reImage and you’ll see her and the captions UNDER the pics. I’m trying to post a NON-W!REImage pic of them :

    http://www.wireimage.com/SearchResults.aspx?igi=284994&s=rick%20gonzalez&sfld=C&vwmd=e
    ^^ read the caption under the pics

    http://www.prphotos.com/store/category.cgi?item=SGG-056705&type=store&ps=1&start=31

    http://www.wireimage.com/SearchResults.aspx?igi=112419&s=rick%20gonzalez&sfld=C&vwmd=e

  71. @ Dottie

    They’re engaged actually, I typed “wife” because I was listing some wives and it was just automatic, sorry 🙂 . They’ve been together for over 3 years and her name is Sherionne. I tried to post links but for some reason the site doesn’t accept W!reImage links, or is it me who can’t do it? I don’t know.

    But type “rick gonzalez fiancee worldwide premiere illegal tender” on GOOGLE and the First link is a W!reImage link and you’ll see her with him at the movie Illegal Tender Premiere Arrivals and check the captions UNDER the pics.

    Type “rick gonzalez sherionne pulse premiere” first link will be from celebritywonder.com…..let me try to see if the link works here : http://www.celebritywonder.com/event/Pulse_Los_Angeles_Premiere/RickGonzalez_DeGuire_9863858.html

    You can find another pic of them on prphotos.com, type “rick gonzalez” in the search engine and you’ll see her with him @ the Coach Carter Premiere Arrivals.

    Hope you’ll find the pics!

  72. @ Dottie

    They’re engaged actually, I typed “wife” because I was listing some wives and it was just automatic, sorry 🙂 . They’ve been together for over 3 years and her name is Sherionne. I tried to post links but for some reason the site doesn’t accept W!reImage links, or is it me who can’t do it? I don’t know. Sorry 🙁

    But type “rick gonzalez fiancee worldwide premiere illegal tender” on GOOGLE and the First link is a W!reImage link and you’ll see her with him at the movie Illegal Tender Premiere Arrivals and check the captions UNDER the pics. She wears a pink dress.

    Also, type “rick gonzalez sherionne pulse premiere” on GOOGLE again, first link will be from celebritywonder.com, click this link she’s with him, and wears a blue dress. You’ll see her name on the caption.

    You can find another pic of them on prphotos.com, type “rick gonzalez” in the search engine and you’ll see her with him @ the Coach Carter Premiere Arrivals. They both dressed in black!!

    Hope you’ll find the pics! Let me know!! 🙂

  73. This right here is shocking. This Brian dude really has serious issues , the sad part is that there are lots of other black dudes with the same menatlity.

    The reason he picked this specific website where black women meet to discuss things is because he has an obsession with us. He might call it HATE but the fact that he would take time out of his precious day to write such a stupid letter means that he thinks about us constantly. He could have been googling Mischa Barton instead but he didnt.

    I am glad that Stephanie responded, black women have kept quiet for too long, its time we stand up for oursekves and show our strength instead of cowering and being apologetic.

    We are beautiful, we are strong, we are praying women and we bulid the black community worldwide, so there’s no way that some fool can take that away.

    Websites like this are great so that younger balck women can see what is real and what isnt out there. For roo long we let our worth be determined by men that dont love themselves. If they couldnt love them they had no chance of loving us.

    We are doing good right now, there are issues in our communities, but we know better now so will do better. I think we are the women that will raise strong black children that have the world to conquer.

    Brian we are praying for u coz we know better thatto stoop to ur sad level.

    God Bless sistaz :dance1:

  74. Why is the is guy using all these media references when he lives right in Bronx, where plenty of blacks live? Does he have any black friends, does he have friends period?

    Is he gay? I mean he watches Will & Grace.
    Again how are you hating black folks when you live on 204 st. in the Bronx.

    Why do black men like him always feel the need to broadcast the preference to black people when nobody asked you to? Go on a white site and tell them that. Since he likes white women so much why don’t he go to a bar or club in Bensonhurst to look for one.

  75. His email was so ridiculous I until I thought it was a joke just to get a response. I guess he is serious. The really sad thing other than the fact that he has a black mother, aunts, possibly sisters is that he wasn’t really mad in his message. He was simply stating how he feels, meaning he thought he was being rational and he thinks his feelings are valid and that he makes sense. When he really doesn’t. I don’t feel sorry for him because he’ll never get the chance to really know and love a black woman I feel sorry for him because he has low self esteem, is a self hater, and uses gross generalizations to make life and love decisions. If Maury, people on subways, and hollywood fiction that is ultimately controlled by white people are his points of reference he couldn’t be that bright. I like Will and Grace, but not one of my male friends have ever watched it with me. I personally do not watch Maury, but the few times that I have it was purely comic relief. Poor thing.

    Black men have heard this message so much and see it in action in so many famous brothers until they are now belivers. Well I’ll never be a believer so they may as well quit trying to sell this ish to us. My ex boyfriend said to me once if you don’t work out I’m getting a white girl. I was like ok if you think that will make you happy, but black women around the city will not lose any sleep if you decide to date a white girl! The fact that he said girl and not woman shows what he was really looking for.

  76. BRAIN THE WORLD DOESN’T REVOLVE OFF OF WORDS :noway: YOU REALLY NEED TO GET A NEW HOBBY :loser: :loser: :hater: :hater: :hater: :hater: :brownsista:

  77. @ Dottie,

    LOL!!! I’m a mess! I didn’t even realize all those posts appeared, I guess they took time to show, maybe the site was acting up. But anyway you’re welcome. Isn’t she gorgeous? :brownsista: 🙂

  78. Poor Thing! Sitting aroung watching Maury, wanting to slap the hell outta black women. Mad cause we wont let him. Dont sound like anyone I’d be interested in anyway…LOL!

  79. Stephanie, I am happy that you answered the Brother. He needed to be enlightened, as many of our Brothers do. What we as Black Sisters need to understand is that Black Brothers have the tendency to recognize their own transgressions and inadequatcies and try to transfer those to us. Many Black Sisters have been guilty of allowing this to happen. What the Brothers are not feeling is that Black women, for the most part are largely not allowing this to continue to happen. Some Black men have the audacity to think that sexual conquest is the only real thing they have to accomplish, they take no responsibility for holding down viable employment, being heads of their households and helping to raise their children. These men are like little children who think they have no responsibility. Each generation of these men get worse because they have no visable role models to patterned themselves after. And I have come to believe that these same men are jealous of the accomplishments of the Black woman. The difference in the Black Sister and the Black Brother is that the Sister understood that someone had to assume responsibility if the family was going to be maintained. Black women have edcuated themselves in record numbers, they are sitting in higher paying jobs, owning their own homes and busineses and realizing that they may have to do it all alone. What I have come to perceive is that the Black man does not like the Black women’s independence.

    If you look back in our history, some of us, at our own mothers and fathers, you will find that women at one time felt it was important for a man to be in the home, whether he was responsible or not. Black women today are not willing to accept irresponsible Black men for the sake of saying they have a man. And we should not have to. If you are in a relationship with someone, you would want that relationship to grow and the both of you share in accomplishing things together for yourselves and family. I was married for 35 years to a wonderful man whom died in 2004. We had two sons. My husband helped to raise those boys and I can see the end results in the way they relate to their children. Both of them are wonderful fathers and actively involved in their children’s lives. We, Sisters can raise our boys to become men, however they need their fathers to teach how to be men. If the fathers have no clue, how can they instruct the son? This is the legacy that a lot of my Black Sisters are left with. However, I say, no matter how rough the road, no matter what maligning remarks our Black Brothers make about us, we have to stand firm. I think Black women have suffered enough, it is our time now. What I would say to the Brother whom wrote you is that if he wants to date and/or marry women of different races, this is what he should do. What I want to say to all Brothers who have similar feelings such as Brian, stop trying to justify your own self hatred, fear and irresponsibility on the backs of Black women. Do it in the ear of the White woman that you want so badly. I think most of us are beyond the point of caring, we have more important things to do.

  80. I agree and disagree with Brian, some again I say some black women don’t know how to act but lets face it they don’t know any better we can’t fault them for that. Now at the same time you can’t group us all in the same boat, I’m a black woman and I’m nothing like that but we all say that. I don’t think he should give up on a race because HE picked the women he was with we didn’t force him to date them, he may be looking for a reason to hate black women and he may not have had the same type of black women I had raising him. Yes televison shows black people in the worst light but at the same time black people need to stand up for themselves and not take the roles. To Brian there is a lot of black women that will feel the same way about black men because of the way we see them act but we make the choise to date the fools out of the race stop putting the blame on the black women group and take some yourself. If we take the time to know the person before sleeping with them we would know who and how the person act wait longer then three dates before you have sex and you will see the person.
    I’m proud to be a black woman and I will not let Brian or any other black man make me feel any other way.

  81. [quote comment=”19435″]What the hell….This guy has some very serious issues. He hates black women. Does that mean he also hates his mother, whom I assume is also a black woman? Would he hate his own daughter if he has one? And I agree with Brianna who said, ” He all but says, I wish I were a white man. All black women are not ignorant as he thinks. This brotha needs to check himself and seek counseling. I am not sure what type of black women he has been involved with, but I can assure him that they are not the epitome of what a black woman is. And furthermore, he mentioned how black women behave on the Maury Povich show. Well, he must have taken a bathroom break and missed viewing how the caucasian women and men act. Maybe this brotha needs to take a course in African American History and then maybe he will learn to appreciate beautiful black women.[/quote]
    :hifive: OKAY NITA GIRL! AIN’T HE TRIPPIN’! WILL AND GRACE THOUGH :lol2: DATS GON REMAIN FUNNY!

  82. Brian is some stupid white boy laughing is butt off about the reaction he is getting. Don’t be fooled. He’s probably over at Perez Hilton right now saying the same dumb stuff.

  83. [quote comment=”19462″]Well maybe you’re taking this letter a little too seriously, reading that letter my conclusion is that he wanted to let some steam out and open up in hopes that things might change. B/c believe you me, as a black man, I know tons of black men who feel the same way. One big misconception that a lot of black women have towards black men dating white women is that black women think that black men find black women to be “ugly”. Or my favorite, “They can’t handle a strong black woman!” That nonsense just makes me laugh. I love my black women, but as a black man, this guy is speaking the truth. What turns off descent black men such as myself and a lot of others about black women is that damn ghetto “sista girl” mentality which is based on degrading the black man. Likewise how the “gangsta” or “pimp” mentality degrades black women, this sista girl mentality that black women have is driving away all the good brothers. The sista girl mentality promotes a good black man is one who: Drives an escalade on 24 inch rims that he has on layaway, money to pay a woman’s rent, the latest style of nonsense expensive clothing that goes out of style a month later, and one who wears the latest pair of $200 sneakers. And don’t forget that the “sista girl” mentality also promotes a submissive man towards his woman who is okay with taking care of kids that are not his and doesn’t mind a woman that refuses to cook for him. And if a black man doesn’t have all of those things then he is somehow a loser and less of a man when in reality: MAN MAKES THE MONEY, MONEY DOESN’T MAKE THE MAN. And in a society where the black man is the most disrespected and the most hated thing that is suffering from high unemployment, it is very rare to see a black man who is able to afford all of that. But that is the mentality that a lot of black women have and when a black man sees that, he gets turned off by it and runs to white and asian women for support. Maybe the guy wrote this letter b/c since this is a forum for black women by black women, he hopes to receive some answers and maybe want a black woman let him know that there is still good black women out there. And this is an excellent forum to talk about these issues. B/c as racist as this society is towards the black man, the black man don’t even have his own women to support him anymore since a lot of black women want to go off into this “sista ghetto girl” spirit all while falling for that lesbian women’s rights movement, and putting that above the uplifting of her race. I think issues like these should be talked about more and what should be done about should be talked about on this site also since this is a website for black women.[/quote] :loser: :noway: YOU SOUND JUST LIKE BRIAN! WITH ALL DUE RESPECT WHAT COLOR IS YOUR MOTHER AND HOW WOULD SHE FEEL ABOUT YOU STEREOTYPING HER CUS YOU MY FRIEND ARE STRAIGHT TRIPPIN IF YOU AGREE WIT DAT DUDE. IF THATS THE CASE ALL BLACK MEN SMOKE BLUNTS, DRINK, ROLL 24S , AND CALL US BITCHES! YOU HAVE BRAIDS AND GOLD TEETH, YO NAME IS POOKIE, AND YOU GOT 12 KIDS AND 10 BABY MAMMAS BRO’ MAN! :hmph: 🙄

  84. :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

    You know what? Honestly?

    I feel for the non-black women of today dealing with most of these black men. Notice I didn’t say “ALL” because I believe a few of them date out of their race out of LOVE and nothing more and that is NOT a sin, just like we can date out of our race if it’s out of LOVE. But most of them? They spend their time downing their own race, which speaks VOLUMES on their inner state. These non-black chicks have to deal with the “Brians” (who thinks of beating women), Wesley Snipeses (who used to beat Halle) and Mekhi Phifers (who used to mistreat Malinda Williams) of the world. Can you imagine this? Living with a mysoginist guy who has thoughts of harming a woman (Brian’s words) and hates HIS OWN RACE, HIS OWN MAMA, HIS OWN HERITAGE? Imagine when he’ll have to face the woman’s family who 9 times outta 10 won’t accept that “N*GG*R”, imagine when he’s gonna have children who will be seen as black, basically he will never get away from his blackness no matter how hard he tries. Imagine what kind of life his daughter will have (poor child) if he has one, being stereotyped out of her home but also IN HER OWN HOME BY HER OWN DAD?

    Example? I got a concrete one :

    I know the brother of a friend of mine who “got himself a white girl” and is going through HELL with his in-laws, but his wife doesn’t even defend him when they insult him. His, when she got preg, said that she hoped the baby wouldn’t have “too many black features”, dude got hurt cause she was basically implying that “she doesn’t like black that much” and HE IS BLACK. The problem is that she may love him but she has a problem with blackness (as in she doesn’t want her kids too black), and he sees her as a trophy, there was some attraction but he dated and married her for the WRONG reasons, this is NOT real love, she is more like his “FETISH”. :confused: Their relationship is not even a relationship. He stays out the house cause he can’t stand her anymore, but out of pride he doesn’t leave her. Cause you know this man stereotyped black women all the time and blamed us for EVERYTHING, so if he leaves her he will be the stereotypical black “deadbeat dad with low self-esteem issues” that couldn’t even “keep the white girl”. She is MISERABLE, with a man who doesn’t care about her and the child. I’m not saying it’s the case with ALL black men dating outside of their race, but with A LOT OF THEM it is because this is a case of self-hate.

    So like I said, I feel for those women cause they’re dealing with men who don’t even love and know who they are. NO MAN who knows who he is degrades and insults his own sister and mother. That’s the thing, if you date out of your race, do it OUT OF LOVE and not because of SELF-HATE. Personally, I won’t use anybody as a “trophy/fetish” or “means to excape from my blackness”, that’s unfair to the other person, that is some dirty deception right there, you’re deceiving YOURSELF and YOUR PARTNER. And that’s what the “BRIANS” do. Cause if you need to JUSTIFY WHY you’re with a non-black woman……..THAT AINT LOVE. Real Love doesn’t have to be JUSTIFIED, especially NOT with RACIAL ARGUMENTS. Real love is about 2 SOULS FALLING FOR EACH OTHER REGARDLESS OF RACE, NOT A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON A FASCINATION FOR A SKIN COLOR AND HATE OF ANOTHER.

    Brian you will be in my prayers, you didn’t even realize that with this email you would make us actually feel better about ourselves. Thanks for showing us that we didn’t lose ANYTHING by “losing you”. I’d rather be single with peace of mind than depressive dating a self-hating dude like you. I feel sorry for your woman and BLACK children/future children.

  85. [quote comment=”19628″]:lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

    You know what? Honestly?

    I feel for the non-black women of today dealing with most of these black men. Notice I didn’t say “ALL” because I believe a few of them date out of their race out of LOVE and nothing more and that is NOT a sin, just like we can date out of our race if it’s out of LOVE. But most of them? They spend their time downing their own race, which speaks VOLUMES on their inner state. These non-black chicks have to deal with the “Brians” (who thinks of beating women), Wesley Snipeses (who used to beat Halle) and Mekhi Phifers (who used to mistreat Malinda Williams) of the world. Can you imagine this? Living with a mysoginist guy who has thoughts of harming a woman (Brian’s words) and hates HIS OWN RACE, HIS OWN MAMA, HIS OWN HERITAGE? Imagine when he’ll have to face the woman’s family who 9 times outta 10 won’t accept that “N*GG*R”, imagine when he’s gonna have children who will be seen as black, basically he will never get away from his blackness no matter how hard he tries. Imagine what kind of life his daughter will have (poor child) if he has one, being stereotyped out of her home but also IN HER OWN HOME BY HER OWN DAD?

    Example? I got a concrete one :

    I know the brother of a friend of mine who “got himself a white girl” and is going through HELL with his in-laws, but his wife doesn’t even defend him when they insult him. His, when she got preg, said that she hoped the baby wouldn’t have “too many black features”, dude got hurt cause she was basically implying that “she doesn’t like black that much” and HE IS BLACK. The problem is that she may love him but she has a problem with blackness (as in she doesn’t want her kids too black), and he sees her as a trophy, there was some attraction but he dated and married her for the WRONG reasons, this is NOT real love, she is more like his “FETISH”. :confused: Their relationship is not even a relationship. He stays out the house cause he can’t stand her anymore, but out of pride he doesn’t leave her. Cause you know this man stereotyped black women all the time and blamed us for EVERYTHING, so if he leaves her he will be the stereotypical black “deadbeat dad with low self-esteem issues” that couldn’t even “keep the white girl”. She is MISERABLE, with a man who doesn’t care about her and the child. I’m not saying it’s the case with ALL black men dating outside of their race, but with A LOT OF THEM it is because this is a case of self-hate.

    So like I said, I feel for those women cause they’re dealing with men who don’t even love and know who they are. NO MAN who knows who he is degrades and insults his own sister and mother. That’s the thing, if you date out of your race, do it OUT OF LOVE and not because of SELF-HATE. Personally, I won’t use anybody as a “trophy/fetish” or “means to excape from my blackness”, that’s unfair to the other person, that is some dirty deception right there, you’re deceiving YOURSELF and YOUR PARTNER. And that’s what the “BRIANS” do. Cause if you need to JUSTIFY WHY you’re with a non-black woman……..THAT AINT LOVE. Real Love doesn’t have to be JUSTIFIED, especially NOT with RACIAL ARGUMENTS. Real love is about 2 SOULS FALLING FOR EACH OTHER REGARDLESS OF RACE, NOT A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON A FASCINATION FOR A SKIN COLOR AND HATE OF ANOTHER.

    Brian you will be in my prayers, you didn’t even realize that with this email you would make us actually feel better about ourselves. Thanks for showing us that we didn’t lose ANYTHING by “losing you”. I’d rather be single with peace of mind than depressive dating a self-hating dude like you. I feel sorry for your woman and BLACK children/future children.[/quote]
    SO WELL PUT! :hifive: I LOVE PEOPLE ON HERE WHO KNOW WHAT THEIR TALKIN ABOUT humbsup: 😀 :iagree:

  86. I LOVE BLACKNESS! I LOVE MAYA ANGELOUS POEMS! THE MOVIE COLOR PURPLE, BIG BOOTIES AND HIPS! FULL LIPS AND SOUL FOOD! OPRAH, BILL, OBAMA RUNNIN, B.E.T.,SOUL FOOD AND HIP HOP. I LOVE US! WHO COULD NOT? OH, I FORGOT ONLY WE COULD HAVE A :dance2: AND A :dance1: BLACK WOMEN, MEN! BLACK PEOPLE WE R D SHYYYYYYYYYYYTTTTT! I MAKE :koolaid: FA MA FAMILY! I MAKE PITCHER AFTER PITCHER :lol2:

  87. We are in a unique situation in 2008. Over the last 12 years, unprecedented number of African Americans attended college and gained significant salary increases associated with their post-secondary education. As a result, we have established an African-American middle class diverse in their geographic region, age, income, and overall life experience. I do not think he is wrong in his observations. In my opinion, it is not coming from a place of self-hate against his own kind, but a place of classism and pain.

    According to the Webster Dictionary, “class” is defined as a group, set, or kind sharing common attributes. Today, the African American community is no long just one class. We are many classes. Many within our community may have difficulty expecting this, but education, financial stability, and access to more information will begin to separate us into varies groups. In reading his email, I could understand his embarrassment about how some of our people behave on Maury and in public situations being loud, rude, and obscene. In agreement, our portrayals in the movies mostly as whores, criminals, or drug addict is simply not cool. However, I recognize that it is not us doing the negative strategic positioning in movies, television, and other mediums. Lastly, I have my moments of being classist. As free and librated I consider myself there are people that are just too hood/ghetto for me. Just maybe our persona of “ghetto” is equivalent to “white trash.” Moreover, those labeled, as “White trash” never gain respect as productive members of this society.

    Case Study: The rise & fall of Britney Spears.

    From a place of pain, we keep hurting each other repeatedly. We do not know how to treat each other with love, respect, and worthiness. When we do show love, true unconditional love, it is viewed as being weak and vulnerable. The anger with the hair type is a symptom not a valid reason. I hope he is able to find healing from his past. Life is just too short to hold on to anger. I wish I could offer a profound word or suggested actions to begin the journey; unfortunately, I am in my cocoon of bitterness towards black men. Therefore, I am of no assistance.

  88. He is an idiot an he lives near me my zip code is 10469….it’s so sad when your own people put you down…slave mentality is a mess and ignorance is really bliss….what a waste…….

  89. I’m not sure this is really a black person and if he is black then he has a lot of self hatred. There are so many contradictions in this email that I can’t even begin to name them all. I can only say that I’ll pray for this person.

  90. I work in the mental health field, and because of the rambling thought process that Brian presents with, he has a mental disorder and would do well to seek treatment from a professional. Ladies, we can’t get upset everytime someone says something out of the way. Brian probably doesn’t even recognize that the people on Maury and other programs are stereotypical. Brian, seek help. Really. Oherwise, I really enjoy your site. Very well written.

  91. This fool isn’t worth getting my pressure up, if he’s that stupid to put all black women in one catagory that’s his problem…Surely he can’t be that damn dumb to believe that all black women behave in a certain way, this dude obviously has some personal and self hate issues…Notice how he picks all of the bad things about black culture like naming all of the bad black movies and stereotypical black woman behavior….How about Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Condalisa Rice, Coretta Scott King, and many other positive black women of our time…For every loud, alley, ghetto sista he runs across I can show him ten beautiful, sophisticated, educated black queens….If he want to form his opinion of us based on a few bad seeds then FU** him let the white woman have him…I’m personally happy to see Negros like this go to the other side.

    The truth about men like Brian is they already have a battery of psychological and emotional issues therefore he’ll never be happy with any woman…You can’t truly be happy when you hate yourself.

    :loser:

  92. [quote comment=”19652″]I work in the mental health field, and because of the rambling thought process that Brian presents with, he has a mental disorder and would do well to seek treatment from a professional. Ladies, we can’t get upset everytime someone says something out of the way. Brian probably doesn’t even recognize that the people on Maury and other programs are stereotypical. Brian, seek help. Really. Oherwise, I really enjoy your site. Very well written.[/quote]

    :bowdown:

    Well said Renee,

    I couldn’t agree with you more because his logic makes no sense whatsoever, telling black women how screwed up we are while kicking us down at the same time….Like having a white woman makes him less black some how…Negro please!

    😆

  93. [quote comment=”19660″]This fool isn’t worth getting my pressure up, if he’s that stupid to put all black women in one catagory that’s his problem…Surely he can’t be that damn dumb to believe that all black women behave in a certain way, this dude obviously has some personal and self hate issues…Notice how he picks all of the bad things about black culture like naming all of the bad black movies and stereotypical black woman behavior….How about Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Condalisa Rice, Coretta Scott King, and many other positive black women of our time…For every loud, alley, ghetto sista he runs across I can show him ten beautiful, sophisticated, educated black queens….If he want to form his opinion of us based on a few bad seeds then FU** him let the white woman have him…I’m personally happy to see Negros like this go to the other side.

    The truth about men like Brian is they already have a battery of psychological and emotional issues therefore he’ll never be happy with any woman…You can’t truly be happy when you hate yourself.

    :loser:[/quote]

    I agree with all of this but particularly the part in bold!! That’s what I was saying in my first post when I talked about the “Brians”, Wesleys, or Mekhis. These cats can’t be happy because they don’t love and know who they are. That’s why I was saying, we don’t lose anything by “losing them”, and the thing is that I DO feel sorry for their non-black women. Most of those negros see them as trophies/fetishes, and truth be told many of these non-black girls see brothers as fetishes too (“sexual king fascination”). I’ve seen the damage that it causes on that one white chick I talked about and her child. My first reaction while reading this email was laughing hard, but seriously this is beyond pathetic. I can’t imagine the sad life this guy is living and how he’s going to pollute the minds of his black-genes-having kids (yeah Brian, they’ll still have black in them, blackness given by YOU!).

  94. ^^^ the part in BOLD should have been until THE END/”you hate yourself”…

  95. You’re so right Chanté,

    These brothas are so pathetic and what’s even more sad they look and sound like damn fools dogging black women and born of a black woman. How can you hate what’s a part of you… And most of them are these tar black, natural African looking negros who have the nerve to think they’re only worthy of a white woman…It amazes me that any black man can speak such bull with all that was done to them during the Civil Rights Era and still being done today (Jena 6, Sean Bell’s sensless murder, Katrina)….These dummies obviously don’t know their history… What Brian need to do is take his ignoran as* somewhere and read book on The Willie Lynch Letters….White people are laughing at this retard.

    Brian speaks all of these negative things about black woman while being the poster child for ignorance, low self-esteem and self hatred…Any white woman or woman period who would date a man who hates women who embodies his own mother has got to be stupid as well.

    Brownsista should ignore the hell out of this clown, all he doing is trying to do is piss some sista’s off and generate some attention for himself.

  96. :hater: If this is truly a brother, he would not feel this way,a man who think his own mother, is sisters, aunts, and what ever other black woman ,that he is truely mad at. So sister broke his heart. It happens to the best of us. He don’t even know who he is. He represent,how black fork are a fallen race in America.He needs is black history.When he gets mad at the white woman what is he going to do to her ? Kill her.Lady you have a maniac for a man who ever you are. You need to check him. He is lost…

  97. I second that motion Gerard. Nothing more beautiful than a sista. This dude sounds like another confused Tiger Woods. Looking for love and exceptance in all the wrong places. And like Tiger any kind of insult coming from whites to him would also be a none issue, because like Tiger he wants too badly to be a member of the club. This is that “HOUSE NEGRO MENTALITY” that brotha Malcolm X spoke about that`s still prevalent within our communities today. Only a brotha who is a damn fool would insinuate that a white woman is more appealing. Gotta be out of your damn mind for sure. This dude definitely needs a reality check because he doesn`t know up from down, North from South, or East from West. Let me give you a little visual and I don`t mean to seem too sexual or too provacative. But when you`re both in the mood and you start to oil her down, there`s nothing more beautiful. Now that`s something that you definitely can`t get from a white woman. Better recognize!!!

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