By now you’ve read about the Jill Scott tweets on open relationships and you’ve probably taken your position on it. Are you open to the idea like Jill or completely against it like Usher’s ex-girlfriend Chilli?
In case you missed it:
Jill: “What do u think about “open” relationships? Been considering. Many friends are making it work. Not sure if I’m that girl, but not sure if I’m not. Sometimes there’s an understanding that nobody else gets. I’m really not saying I’m into it. Just curious and considering. I think it’s cool 4 the guy but when it’s the girls turn..pralum. For some it’s a turn-on. I’m certain of what I want and deserve. Still so many marriages fail. Worth the questions. Worth the thought.”
I would have loved to be the third party on that call, listening to the back and forth debate about an issue that I don’t think has hit mainstream relationships like cheating, down low brothas and STD’s has. But if one thing is certain, it seems to be moving at a nice pace. Who knows maybe this time next year someone large will write a book and you’ll be chatting about the pros and cons with your girls or homies over drinks.
Is the world really ready for open relationships? Yes. And I say that because some people are in one-sided open relationships and just don’t know it. Wouldn’t it be nice if your partner told you the truth about what they do when you aren’t around and gave you the option to stay or leave?
Do all relationships need to be open? No. Sigh, can we have some faith and hope in monogamous relationships?
Does the world need open relationships? Hell to the no. It’s just too many dynamics. Too much could go wrong. It’s rare to meet people who can truly handle what comes with an open relationship.
I think about the married couple that I was with last week at a wine festival. The wife was ready to cut the husband because he stood and talked to a stranger too long. And he was actually just giving her instructions on the wine festival experience.
Some people aren’t built for an open relationship and I mean both men and women.
Some people are.
So where do you fall with the situation?
If you were with the perfect person for you but wanted to test the waters would you do it and would you let your spouse do it?
I share my paycheck, my food, my time but sharing my guy is just something I’m not ready for yet. #KanyeShrug