When You Believe

I know living life everyday is not always easy. In all honestly, no one ever promised us that it would be so.

I know some days your life seems filled with rays of sunshine and endless possibilities, and some days your life seems filled with so much turmoil that it brings you to your knees.

But oh when you believe…..

I know we all have our own struggles. I know we all have our own obstacles to face, our own battles to fight, and our own burdens to bare.

But oh when you believe…..

Believe that there’s a plan for you and your life. Believe that anything that you are facing right now is only preparing you for countless blessings. No matter what you are facing today. No matter what you will face tomorrow…..keep the faith and keep believing.

Do You Have The Courage To Follow You Dreams?

There was a time when you were young and you had big dreams for your life. And as a youngster, when asked that famous question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?,” you probably replied with your eyes wide open and with the biggest grin on your face that you wanted to be a teacher, a doctor, or even a music artist. But for many, your answer to that question has long been buried away inside of you. For many, life has passed you by and you have lost focus on your aspirations and your dreams. As you continue your journey on this path we call life, you are encouraged to awaken those dreams that you have buried inside of you and you are encouraged to make your dreams come true.

Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

It’s strange to think that people can start a new relationship and have no problem with having sex right away, but yet, these same people find it sort of taboo to actually discuss their past sexual history with their new partner prior to taking such a huge step. But the reality is this; you have to be able to engage in a conversation about sex with your partner or partners, whatever the case may be. HIV/AIDS is real. STD’s (STI’s) are real.

Here are five questions you should ask your partner before engaging in any sexual activities. Here we go.

1. How many sex partners have you had in the past? How many sex partners have you had in the past year?

2. Have you ever had unprotected sex?

3. Have you ever been treated for a STD (STI)?

4. When was the last time you took a HIV test?

5. Are you looking for a monogamous relationship? Find out if you and your partner are seeking the same thing out of the relationship. Is he looking for a monogamous relationship or just looking for a “friend,” meaning a friend with benefits. You need to be aware of this.

You’re no dummy, so be aware that some lying may be involve. Your partner may not be completely honest with his answers. Pay attention to his body language. Check for a smirk on his face and if he starts stuttering, then you can suspect that something may be up. But at the end of the day, it’s important that you ask these questions to help you determine if you want to take the relationship to the next level. No one is going to look out for you like you. Be smart! And if you decide to go to the next level, make sure you use a condom.

By the way, just know that since you want to discuss you partner’s sexual history, he may very well want to discuss yours. Watch your body language ladies! Lol!

Lyfe Jennings Interview

Lyfe Jennings has never been a music artist to shy away from songs that speaks the truth. With lyrics about self-respect and lyrics that often offer up valuable wisdom, Jennings’ songs have become known for their powerful messages. With his new album, “I Still Believe,” Jennings continues to stay true to who he is and continues to do what he does best; deliver great positive music.

A Word For My Sistas: People have often said that your songs are always on point. You keep it real and you sing about real life situations. Why has it been so important for you as a music artist to be honest and have your music focus so much on real issues that people face everyday?

Lyfe Jennings: Because I think it’s so many artists out here already who do the club thing and who do the straight love song thing. And I think music is not only a healer for somebody who’s going through something, but I think music is also a pointer. It can point you in the right way to go.

A Word For My Sistas: I recently read a comment on a blog where a young lady wrote that she loved your music and that your song S.E.X. helped her get through the peer pressure of having sex while in school. When you hear a comment like that, how does it make you feel knowing that your song could help someone in that way?

Lyfe Jennings: That’s the ultimate compliment for me. What I do honestly, it’s not a whole bunch of money in it. I don’t forsee myself being crazy, crazy, rich off the music that I do. So when people actually get it and it changes their life in a way, that’s my richness right there. I become wealthy off of that.

A Word For My Sistas: Let’s talk about your song “Statistics.” What inspired that song and how did you come up with those statistics?
25% of all men are unstable
25% of all men can’t be faithful.
30% of them don’t mean what they say
and 10% of the remaining 20% is gay
That leaves you a 10% chance of ever finding your man

Lyfe Jennings: Well, first off, Steve Harvey’s book “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” inspired the song. I came up with the statistics by polling a lot of women that I knew. A lot of women are great women, but don’t have men. A lot of people say that I’m talking about Black men and Black women. But what I say is that 25% of men. I didn’t say Black men, White men. I said all men. And it’s just crazy how everybody is all of sudden talking about that he’s saying this about Black men and Black women. That isn’t necessarily what I’m talking about.

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Help Me Live My Dream

Shannon Tavarez, who dazzled audiences on Broadway as young Nala in Disney’s musical adaptation of the “Lion King” was diagnosed with an aggressive from of leukemia this past April. The beautiful 11-year-old is in need of a bone marrow transplant from a genetically matched donor.

According to ABC News, Shannon is part African American and part Hispanic. Both groups are underrepresented in the registry of potential bone marrow donors. According to the National Bone Marrow Program, of the 7 million Americans listed as donors, only 7 percent, or about 550,000, are African-American. Only 3 percent are Hispanic and 2 percent Asian. Shannon has no siblings and the chances of finding a match will prove to be difficult.

So Shannon needs your help to continue to live her dream. Become a bone marrow donor today!

If you register online, or request a kit by email or phone, you will receive a bone marrow donor kit in the mail. The kit consists of:
• One packet of cotton cheek swabs (each packet contains two swabs)
• Instructions on how to collect cheek cells
• Self-addressed mailing packet

In short, you swab the inside of your cheek, and mail the swabs to the lab in the self-addressed mailer. It takes about 4-6 weeks for your tissue to be DNA-typed. Once the typing is completed, you will be entered in the national registry, and you will receive a donor card in the mail.

To get a bone marrow donor kit, please visit www.dkmsamericas.org.

Shannon’s mother remains hopeful. And this is what she had to say about her special little girl:

“She’s an energetic, very intelligent and very articulate girl, full of life. She is always excited, always asking questions and has this infectious spirit and knows how to pull people in. They all fall in love with her. I know—I am her mother—but that’s the thing with her.”

Make a difference! Get your registration kit today and become a bone marrow donor. Help Shannon continue to live her dream…..


“Keep Rising To The Top”

“Give it all you got. Give it all you got. Give it all you got. Ain’t no half stepping.” If you thought that climbing to the top was going to be easy, well, you probably were smart enough to figure out by now that this isn’t the case. Following your dreams and achieving your goals will never be easy. But before you seriously consider making your very own sex tape, and hope and wish that it’ll propel you to stardom, let me first give you a few tips to help you keep rising to the top.

Stay Motivated. I know, easier said than done, right? But if you can keep a positive outlook on life and stay driven, then I promise those attributes will take you a long way.

Create short and long term goals. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. I know you’ve heard that before. But it’s true. You have to have goals in place to keep you on the path of success. Write down your short and long term goals in a notebook; and as you accomplish each goal written in your notebook, cross it out. It’s an elated feeling you have when you have something concrete confirming that you’re doing the things you have set out to do.

Find a mentor. Let’s be honest. Sometimes people are unwilling to share valuable and pertinent information with others. They figure that they got theirs, now you have to go get yours. But at the same time, there are people out there willing to share their knowledge and are willing to be the bridge to help you cross over to success. You just have to align yourself with the right people.

Give it all you got! Success for most of us won’t come over night. And I know you see all these reality stars becoming famous for practically nothing and it might make you a little disgruntle. But you know, I have had to work hard for everything that I have. And I know success won’t come over night. I’ve been on my grind since I was a shawty! Lol! But seriously, I’ve already been to the bottom. I know that there’s only one place left for me to go, and that’s the top! You have to be driven. You have to be willing to step out of your comfortable zone or be willing to take a leap of faith. You have to be willing to give it all you got!

“Keep rising to the top. “Give it all you got. Give it all you got. Give it all you got. Ain’t no half stepping.”

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What Do You Really Want?

You know this last year or so, it’s been all this talk about Black women standards being too high when it comes to dating and finding a husband. It’s funny because when I take a look around, I think some Black women standards aren’t high enough. Some Black women are just settling for anything and putting up with a lot of bullsh*t! To that I say, You Deserve Better!

But my question is this, what qualities do you want in a man? What do you really want?

Do You Remember Your First Love?

Do you remember your first love? Of course you do! We tend not to forget things like that. I know that every time I get together with my best friends, we often reminisce about the “good old days,” and yes I admit, we sometimes talk about our first love.

For some, the memory of your first love brings a smile to your face. And for others, the memory of your first love may leave a sour taste in your mouth. Well, for me, I experienced my first love while a freshman in high school. I can say that my first love made me feel so special and that he made me feel like I was the best thing since slice bread. Lol! Needless to say that he joined the Marines my senior year in high school and the distant caused us to grow apart. We went our separate ways, but I will always be grateful for him for introducing me to unconditional love.

By the way, I heard through the grapevine (my parents) that he’s now married and I’m sure he’s a great husband.

What memories do you have of your first love? Is your first love the one that you wished you hadn’t let slip away or are you still with your first love? Do tell…..