Be Honest, Would You Date Yourself?
Not literally of course- unless you’re into that kind of thing (lol). But seriously, if you were someone else and you met yourself exactly as you are today- would you date yourself? Are you dateable at the moment? What do you have to offer another person in a relationship? Are you happy with yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you need someone else to love you first?
Yeah- I have a lot of questions tonight…
But I will answer my own question first.
No, I would not date me if I met me now. Why? Because I feel like I am in transition at the moment. I just ended an almost 20 year relationship that has left me just a tad bit bitter. Also as you can imagine, when a woman leaves a relationship her finances tend to change somewhat. Now, because I never really had to work all these years and find myself the primary bread winner of my home now, I feel that before I enter into another relationship I should get my finances in order.
I learned the hard way not to depend on another person and their money because when they leave they take their money with them. So until I get “financially right” I don’t think I would date myself. I mean I can honestly look at myself and know that no matter how fine, kind and sweet I think I am, no man wants to meet a woman and have to take care of her and her children.
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Tonya said,
No. I would not date myself at this point in my life. I was in a terrible relationship for almost four years where I allowed myself to be mentally abused. That ended in 2004, and since then I have purposely not gotten into another relationship because I needed to figure out…1. WHY I allowed someone like that in my life? 2. WHY I allow him to treat me that way ? 3. WHY would I allow him to come between me and my dream of owning a business?
My focus right now is getting my business off the ground and having 6-7 figures in the bank again. I do look forward to being in another relationship, but the type of man I’m looking for is looking for the type woman I will be in another year or so…..a sister who has her stuff together!!!
Pearlsrevealed said,
Hell No. I think too much and I can be indecisive at times. I need a go getter b/c I am a great cheerleader. I am all about the gray areas and the “what ifs”. I need someone more black and white in his view of life to bring some balance to my wild world. I need a ying to my yang in that way.
I recently saw a man on TV that had my features. Scary! I don’t look mannish and by no means did he look like a woman. He looked more like a brother to me than the 6 siblings that I actually have! I found it very uncomfotable to look at him. I guess I am still uncomfortable with my gap-tooth smile.
This is my first post. I’ve been reading for 3 months. “Admit it Day” was the bomb. (Can you guess my age from the use of that work?)
Tonya said,
p.s.
GREAT QUESTION!!!!
La Domina said,
hmm….would i date myself? :confused:
probably. i don’t know exactly. i am a very calm person but i’m not exactly outgoing. it would take a while to make me crack…in order to get to know me. i’m the type of person who will wait till i feel comfortable around someone and then i’ll open up. i am probably listed under the category…..emotionally unavailable :loser: . i really don’t like showing any emotion….unless i’m laughing at something funny. haha. but seriously i feel it would be a little bit more work to deal with me. i’m nice and all but….serioously i can’t do this outside looking in thing so here it goes.
. it would take a while for me to act girlfriend-like with someone…….if the person is will to put in the time then sure…….it’s all good.
i am not fast… :booty: :noway: ..i’m more of the old fashion type lol. i won’t kiss you in the first few months we are together :stop: . i’m not the holding hands type…..if i’m comfortable i’ll make an acception. if i’m not kissing you then that definately means no nookie.. :booty: ..word to big bird! when i say i’ll be emotionally unavailable i mean i’m not the type to say i love someone….if i like you then i’ll show it in my own way…though i’d think being around you constantly would be enough to notice
i hope i grasped the concept of the topic well. if not i’ll fix it later.
Pearlsrevealed said,
correction = from the use of that word (bomb)
Nne said,
Yes! I would soooo date me right now. Even though I’m not 100% my own idea of the “perfect woman” {I will be soon enough
}…. I think, that I have a lot to offer in relationship.
I know all my faults and flaws but if I were a guy- diggin me AND I wasn’t stupid, I would understand that and just make sure I wasn’t CRA AAAAZY and get things poppin with me. I’m cool- that’s all I can say…. I’m just cool :thumbsup:
Fine-N-Mellow said,
Hell yeah I would date Myself. :banana:
Des said,
I wouldn’t date myself, I would marry myself :dance: :banana: :dance: :banana:
I am happy and content with me and I have no baggage. I love to laugh and I’m not materialistic. I value my love ones, my credit, my health, my sanity, my body, my spirit, education and a roof over my head more than some dang on designer hand bag or shoes :dance:
Oprah - Yea That's Me! said,
Would I date myself? Heck yea I’d date myself. It might sound arrogant, but the truth is I’ve been looking for someone “like me” my entire life. If you don’t think you’re a good person worthy of your own love, how do you expect anyone else to want to be with you? That’s the way I look at it.
Marti said,
Nope. Wouldn’t couldn’t date myself. Still knee-deep in the Katrina rebuild. Not a pretty sight…
Plus, I am too worn out right now to date anyone.
I go out to dinner and the usual shopping with myself, and
of course, church.
Thats enough for me!!!
Goldilox said,
i would date myself, but I’d suggest i lose a few pounds. i think im a pretty good catch but i have difficult moments but they are few and far between
Liyah said,
Yup!
Kanyade said,
Yes I’d date myself. Why? Because I’d make it all worthwhile.
Tonya said,
I totally agree with the other Tonya. My relationship ended just a month ago with the same circumstances. May God bless us all in our business endeavors to make this a brief period of adjustment.
Smokie said,
Of course, I’d date myself! Smart, funny, good parent (1 child), real cute, loves God and knows right from wrong, nice job, strong, sensitive, compassionate, pretty feet, interesting, creative, respectful, loves to cook and clean, ambitious (enough), and I’m sure I’m forgetting something!
I’d date me in a heartbeat — I have an extremely lucky fiance! And vice versa.
The negative parts of me have to be factored in though: can be overly critical, a smoker (herb), and I don’t have an onion booty (not a pancake either). The good definitely outweighs the bad though.
I love me!
Jazzybelle said,
heck yea i’d date myself!!!! you gotta love yourself before anyone else can love you…and please believe….i love myself….flaws and all.
Tiffany said,
I’m lovin this new daily forum BrownSista! Well first I think that this is a good question. I think I would have reservations on dating myself too for financial reasons but not based on anything else. I think finances are always a major component to why we feel the need to wait on attaching ourselves to anything and I think that is extremely valid. I would want to be benificial to anyone I attach myself to and vice versa.
Liyah said,
I must say my husband it blessed to have me and vice versa. I am very compassionate, understanding, spiritual (consistant) relationship with God (my husband too). I am very good with money and a giver! I must say uma hell of a woman Eeeeyow!
who cares said,
hell no
Majesa said,
Not unless I was in it for the pain.
It depends on what I’m looking for. While I believe I am actually a decent person with a good heart, It could take awhile for me to open the door and let someone in to see that on a personal level. They’d better be able to argue with me and get over it though. Plus, ability to be sarcastic with strong sense of humor. Yeah, I could date myself for about a week with that kind of personals ad.
Real Talk said,
I would definitely date myself. I am spiritual, confident, and a positive being that loves God first, myself, and family. I am very true to myself and in return I have earned a lot of respect from my peers in my community as well as, my husband, friends, and family. I am a go getter what ever I put my mind to I always achieve. However some things take a little longer than others but I eventually master what I want. I enjoy helping people to bring out the best in themselves. I really have myself together and that’s what has drawn so many people to me seeking advice on how to master certain areas in their lives. I think mostly I have earned a lot of respect through showing love and giving credit as well as encouragement to others when and where it’s due. I have a lot to offer from a spiritual, mental, educational, and physical state. I am very gifted and talented as well so I am an awesome catch
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lady said,
MMMMM GREAT QUESTION and the answer is yes lol. I have alot going on as far as my personlity. Im good person i am one of a kind. I have alot of spunk to myself and love to have fun and very sexual person lol. Wonder question.
me said,
no
Amber said,
heck no
Amber said,
[quote comment="21469"]heck no[/quote]
I hate boy,girl realationship type of thing
Renee said,
YES, I would date myself.
I am an easy-goning, warm, giving, and open-minded person. Although I must admit that it may take a little longer for me to let a man truly see the inner me, but once he is there, ITS ON!!
Nefertari said,
Yes. but I would probably just date. If I were a man, I doubt I would be married.
Erika said,
Great question…I would date me! :koolaid:
Rotex said,
I will definately date myself because i am God-fearing, but still likes to have fun. Im not them kinda boring God fearing people. I will never cheat and all that. IM also good looking, and don’t have the kinda of family members that cause trouble between couples.
education is the way said,
I would date myself and because I am soooo sweet, smart and sexy. I would take me all over the world, pay my school loans off and wife me up.
Chioma Simba said,
A few months ago I wouldn’t have dated myself, but I have really gotten my life together and I’m content. I just let go of a couple of friends that were bad for me, who I allowed to bring me down. Now that I’ve broken away from them I see myself in a whole new light and I’m loving what I’m seeing. I would definitely take myself out. This is a great question BTW.
klamotten said,
Actually, I’d give myself a chance
heather said,
UM NA I WOULDNT DATE M ,WAT IM JOKING I WOULD DATE ME COZ HEY M KNOW ME BETTER.:bowdown:
RU said,
NA I WOULDNT ,M TOO MUCH OF A STRESS.U HOES ARE SAYN U WLD HA HA BET I WLDNT DATE HALF OF YO *******.
RU said,
NA I WOULDNT ,M TOO MUCH OF A STRESS.U WHORES ARE SAYN U WLD HA HA BET I WLDNT DATE HALF OF YO *******.
UU said,
*******
Gorgeous Black Women said,
No way. Well, at first appearance, yes. Pretty face. Fit body. Nice booty. Razor sharp wit.
It would stop at three dates though. I am complicated and I like people who aren’t.