Over the weekend I caught the premiere of a D.C. based talk radio show (Trending with EZ WOL1450). The show, featuring a diverse panel, discussed the topic Sexual Fluidity and all things Gay, Lesbian and Bisexuality.
One of the panelists commented that the increase in bisexuality could be attributed to an increase in people’s comfort with trying new things and exploring all of their options, which include both men and women.
I thought back to a conversation that I had with some colleagues a few years ago. I posed this question to them, could you marry a bisexual person? Or even, someone who once experimented with the same sex?
It was interesting to discover that the majority of them, ages ranging from 24 – 48, preferred not to marry someone who once tried anything same sex related. I wasn’t shocked that the women felt like that. Most women I know say they prefer a “man’s man” and most of them don’t consider a bisexual man to come close to that ideal. I was, however, shocked that the guys preferred their women straight. How many times do we hear about the male fantasy of girl-on-girl or threesome action?
Surprisingly both the men and women felt that marrying someone with interest (or previous interest) in both men and women presented two issues; 1) it created a conflict with their religious beliefs and/or 2) it unconsciously created a competition with two genders; opposite and same sex.
So where do you stand? Does it matter that your significant other may have explored their same sex before you? Should they be honest with you about whether they did or not?