While browsing Twitter today I came across the story of rapper Joe Budden and video model Esther Baxter. For those of you who may be learning about this couple for the first time just as I am, I will take a moment to fill you in.
The couple, who once dated and were expecting a child together, had a physical altercation that resulted in Budden being arrested (Esther eventually dropped the charges) and Baxter losing the child (a girl) she was carrying. Joe went on to record a song about the incident and post details about their relationship via Twitter, thus pushing Esther to respond by giving Bossip an interview in which she claims Joe’s abuse caused her to miscarry. You can watch the interview and view some very disturbing images of Esther’s bruises, as well as images of what is said to be the deceased fetus here.
Listening to Esther tell her tale of abuse and mistreatment at the hands of Budden truly saddened me. However, I could not help but wonder why Baxter didn’t kinda see some of this coming. Budden has been extremely public when it comes to his relationships with women. From Dominican model Tahiry to El Salvadorian rapper/singer/reality star Somaya Reece, Budden has made videos with many of his conquests and then turned on them viciously when the relationship went sour, often posting private images and disparaging their charater online.
Both Tahiry and Reece were involved with Joe before Esther and so surely she knew his reputation and was aware of the many videotapes he posted online about his private affairs. So my question is this- did Esther really think Joe would treat her any differently than he treated the other women he had been involved with?
As far back as February of 2010 Tahiry had accused Joe of beating her so badly she had to be hospitalized. Likewise, Somaya, who once clowned Tahiry, eventually claimed she too was abused by the D-List rapper. According to Reece “He [Joe] is like verbally and mentally abusive, like real bad.”
Now don’t misunderstand me. I don’t blame Baxter for the abuse she suffered. But I do blame her for not knowing better. All this man was he had shown to the world. He hid nothing. He was someone who had no problem airing his personal business, as well as that of the women he was involved with. He was scum. He didn’t say he was scum, but he damn sure showed it and when someone shows you who they are, you should believe them.
But most of all, why didn’t Baxter, at 27, know the golden rule: If you want to know how a man is going to treat you, you need only look at the women in his PAST, to see your FUTURE.