gratitude.

Happy Tuesday Brown Sister Readers.

With news about the economy there is no doubt that we are living in times of doubt, financial strain, emotional stress, and uncertainty. It’s so easy to want to get angry and play the blame game; either blaming ourselves or the government. Anger has its place but GT wouldn’t be doing her job if I didn’t suggest that you take the high road and focus on what’s right, well, and good in your life. Β It’s called practicing gratitude and I can’t imagine my life without it. Practicing gratitude is free and is a note to self that yes! You deserve to be happy. You may not have a million dollar lacefront collection like your girl Bee; but you woke up this morning and you have the eyes to read this.Β 

So Brown Sistas and Fellas…what is right about your life and what are you grateful for?

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  1. This is actually a very good post and something that I think about everyday. I never forget to thank God for my many blessings because I have so many. Even when things are a bit heavy in my house I never forget all the good things I have to be grateful for. Such as, the health of my daughter, who has had problems over the last few years. The health of all my children and my Grandmother who has been ill for about a year. My finances are getting straight. My skin cleared up. I lost weight. I could go on and on :thumbsup:

  2. I am thankfull For My life, past, present, and future

    My father is the ultimate father figure, He’ s been there every step of the way, From first steps, to college graduation , i ‘ m so thankful I had a father figure to back me up all my life, Some people never meet their fathers, and i don’ t know what i would have done if he wasn’ t there, My daddy has been married with my mother for 22 years, every since she was 18, Never cheated on her, only brought her tears of joy, never disrespected her, and took care of her and us, the best way that he could I never lacked of anything, he showed me how to be strong and made sure that whatever my opinion was on anything, It didn’ t make me less of who i was to express it I could go on all day about him

    My mother when people say “boys will be boys” they’ re lying My mother kept her marriage alive for 21 years still going, she is the ultimate black woman Beautiful my mother is so gorgeous , when people tell me i look like her i feel insulted for her, she has smal chinky eyes, a dark skin, very dark, a great body and beautiful hair,Educated, Independent,Responsible,Can cook like no one else, and she is the best friend a girl could ask for, she always told me that what i stand for makes me who i am and that i should never ever ever let someone else influence me, and that even if i was one against a million i was to stand on my postition

    Both my parents gave me a great education, and this is why today at 29 years old i am the woman i wanna be , regardless of what anyone want me to be

    My sisters shante [aka voice],pARIS, Mounia,Essane,Mailianne and Ivory, Because they are just as strong, independent, and strong willed as me, They are always there for me either it’ s on internet or in real life, and they got my back no matter what and they love me unconditionally

    My Husband for being the best man a woman could ever ask for, Married for ten years and i never had to complain one bit, always home for dinner, spending time with our kids , and loving me for who i am

    My healthy daughters all 4 of them, lool i have twins lelony and london, and i have another set of twins on the way

    The fact that my parents were blessed enough to send me to college long enough to get two degrees

    My career

    My bank account

    My house

    My life in general πŸ™‚

    I’ ll be back for more lool great topic Get togetha

  3. This post is difficult for me at this time. We just received word that my husband has lost his job. We were just on a good path, actually feeling comfortable for a change. We were even thinking about starting our family. Right now I am torn, I am angry, but I want to be grateful and have gratitude. This will be a struggle for me.

  4. I’m sorry to hear about your loss Torya. When we first hear about something upsetting we don’t always think of gratitude first and that’s quite ok. Shock, Anger are natural emotions. But think about the last time you went through something heavy and how you made it through. You will get through this! :hifive:

    Sometimes people feel that being gratefull for the little things in life don’t help much in the problem solving category; but I think having gratitude shifts the focus from the negative to positive in your life. Which makes for a smoother life journey.

  5. What’s right about my life?

    Let’s see…..

    I’m pretty optimistic about each “situation” I may not be very pleased about right.

    I’m hella healthy! I work out 5-6 days a week and I eat a proper diet, visit my doctor & dentist on a fair basis.

    I make sure I laugh everyday- not smiling or laughing is not an option, even if I have to go in search of it… something or somebody is going to make me laugh!

    I acknowledge, accept and express {positively} when I’m upset (like I am today). I am allotted however much time I feel I need to be “pissy” then, I’ll have to keep it moving but only once I feel it’s all out of my system. I like myself for this. I’m not about all that pretending and lying to myself. I’M MAD!!! ARRRGGGHHH!!!

    I have daily devotion with The Lord, several times throughout my day. I love going to God-my refuge {Help me, Lord!}. He keeps me from karate chopping ppl in their juglar πŸ˜†

    [Ughhh! I’m mad!]

    I’m good financially. During these times…. it helps to have a peace of mind there.

    So many things are right about my life! I’m grateful and thankful for this post, GT :thumbsup:
    It has already began to help me focus more on the good going on instead of why I’m so mad.
    I never take things out on ppl who don’t deserve it but still….. let me go finish being a lil’ prick for however long I feel I need to be πŸ™

    {Ya’ll pray for me}

  6. I am grateful for being alive and well, about to give birth to a baby boy. This pregnancy changed my life…so much for the better. I am thankful that I know a loving GOD, and have a wonderful family! That’s all I need! God AND FAMILY completes me;)

  7. Nice post! I’m grateful for my ability to be grateful. Some people have lived so high on the horse for so long that they don’t know how to actually be and feel grateful for something. I’m thankful that I’m not them. I’m thankful for my relationship with God. He’s the force in my life. I fully acknowledge that I have no power and strength without him. I can go to him with all my secrets and he never judges me. For that I’m forever grateful. I fall short, but he’s not thru with me.

    The list could go on forever:

    My daughter
    My health
    My job
    My family
    My financial situation…I aint rich, but I’m surviving
    My car…don’t have to be people for rides.
    My home
    The possibility of witnessing the first black president

    Like I said the list could go on forever!

  8. Congrats on the bundle of joy Cris Jean! How exciting!

    And Katrina. You make some great points about people not knowing exactly how to pratice gratitude. It could be something as simple as saying:

    1. Thank you God for having teeth so I could chew.
    2. Thank you God for having the legs to walk.
    3. Thank you Universe for giving me the strength to take care of my children, my pets, or my elderly parents.
    4. Thank you Universe for my husband, boyfriend, mother, father, or friends at my job.
    5. Thank God I have the fingers to type comments. LOL!

    It really doesn’t have to be grandiose. We can all start small and work up to the big things!

  9. Timely, as today I was feeling kinda down. About what? I don’t know–couldn’t tell you. But I digress.. :bag:

    Here are just a few things I’m thankful for:

    -my life
    -my health
    -my husband (Yummo)
    -my boys (7 and 5)
    -our house
    -not having to go to anyone’s job
    -our cars (dependable and paid for… blessings)
    -my garden, plants, and trees
    -our Sammy (2 year old mini schnauzer)
    -being able to save money with this horrible economy
    -Fall boots and sweater coats :brownsista:
    -Free Shipping coupon codes on the net πŸ˜†

  10. I recently wrote a journal entry about this, so the subject is fresh on the brain.

    I’m grateful for many things, but what I’m most grateful for is my job. Not because I feel blessed to have one in these trying economic times, but because I’m actually happy here. To look forward to another weekday (and not always a weekend), is a MAJOR relief. Coming from an industry I did not believe in, it finally feels amazing to smile 7 days a week instead of just 2. Not many people adore their line of work like I do, so I KNOW I need to bow my head and thank Jehovah for this blessing every single day.

    Thanks for the opportunity to share.

  11. I am grateful for the fact that Iam in sound mind & body. That I am able to get up each morning.. actually get up. Coz there is someone in the world who didn’t open their eyes this morning. I am grateful that I can still walk talk & speak my own words. I am grateful that I have a roof ova my head & a vehicle to get me around town, no the house isn’t the Taj Mahal & the ride isn’t that BMW that I would love to have… but both are MINES & I don’t have to bother anyone else about these things :brownsista: . Yes life can be a cruel & heartbreakin, but as long as you have the lil things… you can still pick up the pieces & push on.

  12. Blame it On the Rain.

    Pick up the pieces and push on. GT likes. :hifive:
    It’s not the falling; its how you get back up.

  13. I am grateful for my mother. She is such a strong person to me and thank God that I inherited her never give up attitude. I have gone through some hard times these past two years and I won’t say that I haven’t had my pity party on certain days, but, I get over soon. I am starting my class to get my insurance licesence, I started selling Mary Kay, and I will start school this spring.

    She taught me to always believe in God and myself in that order of course. So everyone that’s going through a hard time you can’t wallow in it. You have to cry when you feel like and crying and then you have to move on and start thinking about the future.

  14. I’m greatful that I grew up in Haiti with my mom . One of my best memories to date is Kindergarden πŸ˜† . Although I was ~2, I still remember my 1st day in school. It was an event. I was kicking , screaming, and begging her NOT to leave me, but the woman did anyway πŸ˜† . Good thing she did because the school director, Marie Ca , and I became best buds πŸ™‚ . She welcome me in her nice spacial office during breaks. The school environment was wonderful…very springlike [Plants, flowers, butterflies, swings sets]. It was a mini paradise LOL.

    Our family unit was small. It was mom, my older brother, and I. We did almost everything together. We call ourselve the “Three Musketeers”. We fetch water in the neighborhood fountain together. We went to church together [We went A LOT πŸ˜† ]. We went sightseeing. At night, my mom would tell us about her own childhood & life experiences. She’s very open with us, and we liked that.

    I’m greatful I got to know and say goodbye to my maternal grandfather before he passed away. Some people got to know all 4 of their grandparents, but he was our only one. He passed away in our neighborhood hospital. Because I was ‘too young’, the mean nurse refuse to let me see him after his surgery πŸ™ . My cool uncle Elie, however, sneeked me in when she wasn’t looking πŸ˜† . This was a tough one for my brother and I. After the announcement my mother send us home while the adults stayed behind. We tried to stay strong on our way home. The moment we got home, we immediately went to the window overlooking the hospital and we totally broke down. It was nice to mourn with him.

    I’m greatful to be in New York. It’s a dream come true. When I was a child, I used to mistake planes for big white birds LOL. My mom would correct me, and she’d say one day I’ll fly in one. She was so danm sure. I, on the other hand, wasn’t. I’ve witnessed her come back home deflated everytime she got a ‘big appointment’ with the Haitian embassy. Nevertheless, I dreamed. She was right, the first time I went to the embassy, I got the green light. I was SUPER excited…and scared. I would travel alone. In one day, I’d leave behind the sole family & home I’ve ever known, I’d be INSIDE a plane, I’ll see NYC, and last but not least, I’d meet my father face to face for the very 1st time. There is so much more I’m greatful for, but that’s enough. This isn’t a novel πŸ˜†

  15. I’m grateful for my wonderful and very lovely wife. Ms. “Torya”, I will make sure to pray for you and your husband. Ms. “Stephanie”, I will make sure to also pray for your grandmother

  16. For everything in life i’ m grateful, when someone hurst me i’ m grateful, when i get a good news i’ m grateful, Im grateful to just be alive after all i suffered

  17. @GT…

    It’s not the falling; its how you get back up.
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

    Nicely put :bowdown: .

  18. I have sooo much to be grateful for. My husband was recently involved a terrible car crash but thru God’s grace he is ALIVE. He has been moved to a rehabilitation center and I trust that God will heal him 100%.

    I am grateful for a loving family and great in-laws. For friends that have been staying by my side during this difficult time.

    I am grateful that I love and am loved back by a great man who God saved so that we can a a long beautifil life together.

    Grateful that I know the Lord and will never move away from him

    Thanks Steph

  19. I’m not scared
    of lions and tigers and bears…

    And for that I’m grateful. :lol2:

    Seriously, I’ve been wearing the heck out of my Jazmine Sullivan CD (shameless promotion? yuppers). πŸ˜†

    Anyhoo, GT, you always come with these thought-provoking topics! Seriously! Practicing Gratitude. Do I do enough of it? Nah, but I will now. I usually say my prayers at night before I fall asleep, expressing my thanks for the simple things like life, breath, food, shelter, water, sunlight, etc. The older I get the more I am grateful, EXTREMELY grateful for my family and my friends. Those folks sometimes you take for granted, but the older I become, the more I can ‘see clearly’ the importance of their presence in my life. So, I’m thankful for that. I’m thankful for self-worth and being able to value and/or recognize my worth as a woman, a Black woman, a ‘now’ single woman, a working woman, a woman who wouldn’t mind owning Beyonce’s lacefront collection πŸ˜† etc. And I’m just grateful that so far it’s not taken a major catastrophe or a sudden event to knock me on my feet and make me ‘see’ that I need to be grateful… Not saying that won’t happen, most likely it will, but I’ve been able to see how grateful I should be, how thankful, on a daily basis, always. And that’s made me a better person, calm, complete.

    @ Torya, and those of you who shared about going through, I’m sending happy thoughts and vibes your way. :brownsista: :thumbsup:

  20. Kanyade.

    I aim to please and thank you very much for the compliments! I’m all about the positivity of Black women; whether in a group or as individuals. We can be so strong and beautiful and inspiring to each other if we just work on ourselves. I understand that some folks live to be negative; but true power lies in kindness. Gratitude is just one of those things that can help to light up your world on a cloudy day. :brownsista:

  21. Stephanie this is a very positive and beaufitul subject. :bowdown:

    I have so much to be grateful for. It just about bring tears to my eyes when I think of how much God has blessed me with.
    My son is truly a blessing from God. I am a single mother and raised this child without his father wanting to be a part of his life. And never has been. I asked God how could I have made such a terrible choice of this man being the father of my child? He is so not the person I thought he was.

    I struggled raising my son who is 22 years old now. I could have lost my son to the streets, drugs and just bad choices in life. I thank God that all of the talking and the way I lead my own life was a major influence on him which caused him not to make the wrong choices in like once he was old enough to spend time away from me.
    His father once told me that I could be a mother to him, but I could not teach him how to be a man. Well it is true that it REALLY TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD. My brothers pitched in to help him grown from a young boy into the strong black man that he is today.
    He played football, basketball, played in the band, was Sr class treasure in high school and introduced their keynote speaker at graduation. Whenever the Superintendent of schools needed a speaker from his high school she always requested him. What an honor that was for me and him.

    I am happy and proud to say that he is in a Senior in college and works every day. He does not have any children yet, and he told me that he wants to be married before he starts a family. He is ambitious, career minded and focused on what he wants out of life.
    I tell him everday that “Jesus is his saftey and his strength”.
    I am also so very, very grateful to God for helping me through all of the tough years. I may have stummbled and I even fell a few times but he gave me the strength to get up and keep going.
    I am 46 and I just completed my 1st degree in college and getting ready to start working on another degree. I didnt know I had the strength to go to school again after all of these years, but God knew his child; which is me, and he led me back to college.

    So I give God all the glory, because he is truly worthy.
    Finally if you have not realized it by now.
    I am most GRATEFUL FOR BEING A CHILD OF GOD!!!!!

  22. Hey im thankful for my life and having my wonderful daugther in my life. Im grateful to be having custody of this little girl that need me in her life. Im love my job and the wonderful people in my life. I wanted to get back with my daugther father because i really realize that he was good to me and i was young and dumb but he in a relationship now and i have to respect it and keep it moving. I know god going to bless me with someone special. But other then that im going to live life and enjoy my b-day that is saturday oct 18. Turning 34 years old.

  23. Kanyade I hope I spelled your name write. If I am pronouncing your name right it sounds like such a beautiful name. What is the origin of the name? And does it mean something special?

  24. @ bria,

    I humbly thank you for the kind words, but in all sincerity, I seriously made the name up :bag: “Kanye” and…for whatever reason I added “ade” LOL

    I’m from Texas so I know how I’d pronounce it…more like Kahn-yaid, with emphasis on the last syllable. How would you? Maybe I’ll put a patent on this name since people like it :brownsista: Name my first-born Kanyade.

    Have a great evening.

  25. Grateful that I have common sense. When you have that everything else falls into place.

  26. Thank you all for your wonderful words and encouragement. :brownsista:

    I do have many things big and small to be grateful for. I am truly grateful to God and his blessings. He has blessed me with a loving husband/marriage, family, friends, and my right mind. The list could go on and on. Thank you GT for another great post, though I must say that I am grateful for the day I found Brown Sista!

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