How come you hit on me?

black-beauty[1]“You were my husband. You were supposed to do the things you chose to do. I loved you ‘til the end. And I’d rather die before I let my kids see; the way you hit on me. The way you hit on me. Every night I’d cry hoping that they never see. The way you hit on me. The way you hit on me. The way you hit on me. How come you hit on me?

I made believe that it really didn’t hurt me. Made believe that I only hurt myself. I believed you every time you said I’m sorry. Was too ashamed to tell someone I needed help.”

-Syleena Johnson “Hit On Me”

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. According to statistics, every 15 seconds a woman is physically assaulted within her home. Remember that suffering is OPTIONAL! You have a voice. You have a choice. You don’t have to suffer. If you are a victim of domestic violence, please get help!

The National Domestic Violence hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Anonymous & Confidential Help 24/7.


  1. Truer words have not been spoken. I hate punks (they’re not men) who hit on women. There is no reason to beat/hit on a women, even if she’s acting a fool…you leave her alone. Usually these sorry excuses for men backpedal from other men.

  2. Im whipping his you know what. I do not want my face black and blue or any other woman. My mother alway say if she found out if a man hit on me. She whipping my butt and his. I do not know why people stay in them situations.

  3. More good stuff. You would be surprised at how many women get abused. I hate to say this, but some young girls think it’s cute. If a woman isn’t beating the snot out of a man, he should keep his hands to his self.

  4. thank you so much for putting this up. i hope people see it, and take it. sadly enough many wont. i know some people personally who have overcome these situations, and i thank God daily for that, because it was info like this that saved their lives… a lot of women just don’t know who to talk or turn to when times are like this.

  5. some girls deserve to get spacked, if you steady pushing on a man, becasue he dont hit you like the rest and finally you keep on smacking him, and he smack your butt back, its the end of the world right? Some girls like getting whoop, think that mean they man love them. “they feel if i do this and he dont hit me that mean he dont care” NOT ALL YOU GUYS, and even then its not ok. However some ppl really are messed up in the head. And for those who get beat for nothing, my heart goes out to you. Why do they saty? maybe they are scared to leave or feel maybe, just maybe one day that person would change, because he dint hit me in the beginning right??I pray for you, it will never change

  6. @ allabout me

    I agree, violence is not okay period. A lot of women do provoke it, and they just make it hard for women that are defensless. I don’t know why a woman would constantly allow a man to beat the breaks of her, maybe their scared. I’m sure alot of abuser threaten to kill their victims, that could be it.

  7. As a victim of Domestic Abuse, the words to Syleena’s song rang home. Fortunate for me, I am now out of that situation. Unfortunately, it is something that is accepted in the black community. I know many other black women who deal with the same situation and shake it off like it’s normal. “well it’s not and should not be accepted or tolerated!” Education is the first step…

  8. @ all about me…totally agree…

    my mama told me to never put my hands on anyone unless i’m ready to get hit back and to never bank on a man not hitting me back because i’m a woman. not every man gonna let no one continuosly put their hands on him and that’s a reality.

    in the situations that are the man just being violently abusive (physically and verbally), i pray for those women and hope that they have someone they can go to for help. my friends and family all know that they can always come to me.

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