With the news of Halle Berry breaking up with Gabriel Aubry, her boyfriend of almost five years, people are once again looking at the actress and asking themselves why she cannot seem to keep a man. I’m not sure when the Oscar winning beauty started to be known as a woman whose looks could catch a man but not keep him started to take root, but it definitely has and to save my life I cannot imagine why. I cannot say how many men Halle Berry has been with in her life, but even if the number was as high as a hundred, it still does not mean she can’t keep a man. And if by keep people mean marrying a man and staying with him until death, then Halle isn’t the only woman who cannot keep a man. In fact, the majority the female population would fall into that category as well, seeing how the average marriage in this country only lasts about 8 years and subsequent marriages fare even worse.
Halle has been married and divorced twice. She first married David Justice in 1993 and after a tumultuous union, divorced the star baseball player in 1997. That same year Halle met her second husband, singer Eric Benet. The couple started dating and eventually wed in a quiet ceremony in 2001. Like most second marriages however- it was not to be. With accusations of Benet being a sex addict, Halle filed for the divorce and the couple were officially no more in 2005. Later that same year Halle hooked up with model Gabriel Aubrey- the pair however never married. The couple did have a child together, daughter Nahla who is now 2 years old.
On paper Halle’s love life doesn’t seem any different than that of the average woman and that is because it isn’t. Halle has been through her share of men like most women and definitely like most celebrity women. Compare Halle’s known list of men to that of Jennifer Lopez and tell me why Halle is the one who can’t keep a man. Better yet, compare Halle’s list to that of Elizabeth Taylor- a woman who has been married and divorced eight times. Better still, compare Halle’s list of men to your own. Most of you have probably had relationships and marriages that fared about as well or even worse than Halle’s did.
So the next time many of you decide to point the finger at Halle and her inability to “keep” a man, remember… most of you can’t keep one either.
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Although I agree with your assessment of Halle’s love life being essentially, just like everyone else’s, the tone of the article is defensive and and off-putting, especially the last comment. Was this meant to uplift Halle or put down all her “haters?” If this was a matter-of-fact way to remind us that she is human, thank you, but some of us didn’t need the reminder. There are some people out there who will have one, or two, or ten negative comments about Halle. Others will have twice as many positive comments. And yet there are some, like myself, who don’t really give a damn about her love life but also don’t go around reminding our single friends why they’re single. To each is own…. her life, her child, her story. Let’s lift each other up instead of putting each other down. Next.
The article is on point and isn’t taking a jab at anyone. If anything Halle has constantly been ridiculed by women who haven’t had any better luck with men than she has.
A lot of women sorta revel in hearing that someone supposedly as beautiful as Halle cannot seem to find and hold on to a man for any significant amount of time. It is a misery loves company kind of thing. Kudos to brownsista for not following the trend of attacking Halle for something that many people experience every day, the breakup of a relationship.
I can’t stand it when people speak so negatively about marriage. Just because marriage is not for you doesn’t mean you can down talk it like the people who made the decision to get married are foolish.
” And if by keep people mean marrying a man and staying with him until death, then Halle isn’t the only woman who cannot keep a man. In fact, the majority the female population would fall into that category as well, seeing how the average marriage in this country only lasts about 8 years and subsequent marriages fare even worse
Some of you are such babies and probably some of the same women who so happily turn your noses up at Halle.
How exactly did the author insult marriage? By reminding you all that most of them don’t last and therefor is Halle can’t keep a man neither can many of you.
I tell you the women on this blog become so transparent when they are faced with their own bullsh&t.
At least no one’s calling her a *** like they did Jennifer Lopez. So I’ll say Halle’s getting off easy lol.
And because she’s 43, it’s expected of her to be settled down already. Like any other 43 year old woman. And I don’t mean doing the marriage thing. A long partnership is fine too.
You can also factor in her looks. Halle being single again reminds people, who forget that underneath the beauty, she’s human. *shrugs*
OMG! I love this post. It is about time someone spoke up. The same women claiming Halle can’t keep a man don’t have a man their damn selves and usually have no long tern relationship of their own to speak of. Jennifer Lopez went through more men in 5 years than Halle went through in 10 and no one ever claimed she couldn’t keep a man. Jennifer Aniston is another chick who runs through men like there is no tomorrow and never is her ability to keep a man called into question. Janet Jackson has also had her share of failed relationships and is now single and back on the market at 43 years of age too. Relationships come and go and that is just life. Truth is most of us never truly land or keep a man. We just kind of rent them for a while and when one goes bad we rent another.
I agree with the author of this post, but I think the reason for the “Halle can’t keep a man” comments may be that pretty much everyone likes Halle and is rooting for her, so it’s all that more poignant when her relationships fail. I’ve also heard it said that if someone as beautiful as Ms. Berry can’t make a relationship work, there’s not hope for the vast majority of black women. This sentiment is utter nonsense on a number of different levels, but I understand where it comes from.
I like the article because it shows that the notion someone can’t keep a man is utterly ridiculous because they are not a piece of property. And people have to want to be with someone, so we can do our best and if that person has their own agenda and it does into their mate, then it won’t last anyway. People get in relationships for different reasons and as such we can only do our best to make it work and if it doesn’t, it should not be a reflection on the person who has been abandoned. Sometimes things just don’t work out because we all have our own agenda. I am rooting for her to be joyful with herself no matter if she is with a man or not because at the end of the day, being joyful and pleased with ourselves is all that matters.
sorry about the typo. i meant to say is not into their mate, instead of does into their mate.
Halle Can do whatever she wants it is her life, I am not turning My nose up at her and never will, Some people are unlucky in love, and she just happens to be one of those people, She just get up, dust off, and keep going, I like that
By Comparing her to others, You are yourself turning your nose up at somebody, They just aren’t Black
, And if matrimony sounds and look so bad to you, Do not join In,I won’t miss you 
, But to make fun of it, or “Turn your nose up” at it, Isn’t fair for Happily Married sisters.
Apparently all of you “Halle” watchers have forgotten something Ms. Berry said a number of years back. She said that even if she was not married she was going to have a baby. So obviously, while the marriage working out would have been a win/win, she has her baby so she wins anyway.
Great start but I was looking for this article to highlight the fact “not being able to keep a man” has a lot to do with the MEN themselves. A man that is a sex-addict or just cheater in general is not exactly #1 on the KEEPABLE list. It is unfair to put the weight of the success of relationships on just one partner (and usually the woman).
Has anyone thought that maybe Halle is getting bored and kicking these guys to te curb. Ok, Eric Benet was a sexoholic and David Justice was slappingher around and well I am not sure what the deal is with this guy. I eard he was thinking she was getting old , well mybe hen she is wroned when you bring these gems up. Poor Halle, please send her a good man.
Peace, Love and Chocolate
*hi-fives* @ COMPLEXITII
What I am sick about is when people say “Halle is so hot… who is so dumb to leave her?”. Hotness can only go a long way. It’s the inside that matters in a long term, real relationship. I always remember what Billy Bob said after his breakup with then ex-wife Angelina Jolie. He said “Sex doesn’t have to be with a model/actress to be good”
The woman always does the choosing, so it is her fault about who she chooses. Now if you think that good looks are enough to KEEP a man, then there’s a whole generation of delusional women.
@ Ella Umbrella. I believe you summed it all up!
Halle, cant keep a man because of she and only she, I mean she picked wrong cause she doesn’t have the tools to deal with self. Look at her publicity stunt with Jamie Foxx, I mean is there anything named true love in such a jaded woman. How many times does a woman get married in life when she decides that…maybe the problem is me. I mean she married an abuser, then a porn addict then a white man as if he was going to be the answer to her prayers…and the answer to her prayers is to actually have an identity for goodness sakes…..i mean and look at self…take a long long look and then the answer will present itself right there….
Mike: Are you also willing to admit that a lot of men, are masters at hiding their true selves, when courting a woman
Oh and yeah Women from this generation think that their looks can keep a man, Breaks my heart many girls i know under 30 Can’t cook or clean for None, and they have the entire book of excuses to give to you.
“I am busy, I have a career
I don’t need a man
All relationship fail anyway”
Blah Blah Blah, Grown Little girls, That’s all they are
She is human. Good luck to her and her baby. With or without a man.
Ella Umbrella …you rock!!
o_O … umm I am slightly confused here b/c most of the time Halle’s relationships are being used as the blueprint for most women. The author decided to cut that saying down, but the majority of the time it goes like this “If Halle can’t keep a man, than none of us can”. As if Halle is the holy grail for the rest of us *rolls eyes*. Like most things in life it doesn’t matter how beautiful, smart, or funny you are there are just some things you cannot control. And 1 thing you have no control over is matters of the heart… the reasons for her breakups could be endless. With that being said, I just wish ppl would stop using Halle as a “standard” for the rest of the female population “keeping” or “losing” a man. Her love life does not speak for the rest of us.
P.S. JLo, unlike Halle, was known for jumping out of 1 relationship & jumping into another right out the gate. During that time period she gave herself no time to deal with self.
What Ella Umbrella said:x
PEOPLE NEED TO LEAVE MY GIRL HALLE ALONE AND WORRY ABOUT THEY DAMN SELVES, SHOOT. *Drops mic*
Until she and other women start choosing a man of substance and not looks alone then we’ll continue to have breakup and divorces like this.
David Justice became insanely jealous and threatened by Halle’s raising success because he acted like it took something away from him. Eric Benet was more of the same and both men admitted as much by actions, words and behavior. Gabriel Aubry hates the media and probably could no longer deal with it. All the men were tired of the attention Halle received from the media. She needs a man who is EXTREMELY SECURE in his own abilities and can brush the annoying media off. These type of men are much harder to find. It is easier for for a EGO BOUND man (or woman) to say “Halle can’t keep a man” when in REALITY is that they were not strong enough to keep her
Hell, maybe it just didn’t work out. Y punto! Why the need to do this deep analysis on the relationship status of people you don’t know and (probably) won’t ever meet?
Tend to your own ish.