Poll: Is Flirting A Form Of Cheating?

My girlfriend asked me this question about a month ago when her boyfriend found e-mails she was exchanging with a co-worker. For the life of her she couldn’t figure out why her man was so mad. I asked her how she came to exchange emails with this co-worker and she responded by saying the flirting had gone digital. This I responded back is why flirting while you are either married or otherwise attached is a bad idea.

Flirting as defined by Webster’s Dictionary is “To make romantic or sexual overtures.”

When we flirt with someone it is a way of letting them know we are open, available and most of all, interested in possibly doing more. This is what happened with my friend. The flirting went digital, where it quickly took on a more explicit tone. And though in her mind it may have all been in fun and something that made her feel appreciated and desired (her words), it was also cheating, and the reason why she is now single.

If you aren’t interested in engaging in a relationship with someone- don’t flirt with them. There is no way around this. Flirting is a prelude to intimacy. A wink here and a touch there can quickly lead to a lunchtime rendezvous at the Motel 6 if both parties aren’t careful.

So do you agree that flirting is a form of cheating? Take our daily poll and share your thoughts.


  1. Flirting leads to cheating, so why even go there if you are in a committed relationship???

  2. I think it’s definitely cheating. When your interest, an interest reserved strictly for your beloved, is being exercised on someone ‘not’ your beloved then yeah, it’s cheating. Mentally cheating, little-white-lie cheating, harmless-fun cheating, but still CHEATING.

    *shrugs* It’s just how I feel.

    I’d never get with a man and expect something real from him if I knew from jump he was a “big ole flirt”.

    Errr, nope. NEVER.

  3. Wow this is so true. Thats why I never understood how people could say, “oh its only harmless flirting”. Flirting can be very harmful if you are not careful

  4. It can be un-healthy and gives people false hope. Especially if they like you and you don’t know it…lol. My co-worker use to flirt with this young lady everday and when he announced to the department his engagement she was crushed! She thought somewhere in the midst of all of that flirting he was really in awe with her..

  5. Well after being married for 15 yrs i dont think there is anything wrong with flirting. Its makes my ife more interesting. Doesnt make me love my husband any less.

  6. Women flirt because they are in constant need of attention. Men flirt in order to get laid. It is a perfect combination. Lonely women and hungry men.

  7. My experience with a flirtatious man is this: he was that way in my presence. After his death, the truth came out – he cheated numerousm times.

  8. It is, but what can you do about it? Don’t flirt? What do you do when someone else is flirting with you? People that want to cheat are going to cheat, if you don’t want to cheat, then don’t cheat. But addressing flirting suggests that you shouldn’t talk back to people that talk to you. It might not be the person that is in the relationship that is flirting. You have to keep it moving, you can be friends with someone but make it clear what your situation is and just move on. Most that were flirting, I rarely speak to anymore. Whatever happened to people quickly moving the conversation around and turning the tables and nipping it in the bud before it blossoms into something else? It is a game that you do not have to play if you don’t want to.

  9. Flirting is cheating. That is why when a man flirts with me, I don’t flirt back. I’m not rude or snappy, but I let him know that I’m married and that I don’t want to even go ‘there’ with him. If he continues to flirt with me, I can’t do much about it, but that doesn’t mean I have to fall into flirting back.

  10. I am an enormous flirt but I also know where to draw the line. There is a such thing as harmless flirting like when I’m in a restaurant and I might charm the waiter. If I’m doing something that I can do in front of my man without it being disrespectful then I know it’s harmless and I have to be able to accept the same from my partner. If my partner couldn’t do it without me being upset or if I couldn’t let my partner see me doing it then I have crossed the line.

    I touched on these same subjects in my blog. Take a peek:

  11. flirting is cheating. My husband have done that in front of me numerous times, and it broke me down completely. I’m trying to sort out myself as I lost all my self respect and confidence beside such a man. flirting is for single people, while those in committed relationship should focus their energy on their partner.

  12. @ Maria – I’m sorry to hear that you were affected that way and with that I’m left to believe that his flirting must have been way more than just a flirt and tampered with being disrespectful to you. Either he went way too far at some point or you had some bad experiences at some point in your life that caused your loss in confidence & his behavior only added to that.

    We as women, as hard as it is, have to find a way to be confident & secure in ourselves no matter what some mans behavior is. If he’s not treating us accordingly then we have to stop accepting it. We have to set our standards & stick to them.

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