I always planned to be a “good” wife. I planned to follow God’s word. I will be the submissive wife. The domestic… wife. The fun sexy wife. The bible says you are not to deny each other… I have no intentions of ever doing that. I figured I was set.
While I cleaned my house, a Teddy Pendergrass song, Is it still good to you, started to play. Ladies, while I know I stay on you, I encourage you all to take 4 minutes, and truly listen to the lyrics of this song. While you may think this is a song for the men… it is not. It’s almost a guide of how a man wants to be treated. While not a “biblical” song, it does fall in line.
Being a single lady, I say often to my married sisters: Do you really appreciate that man? More often than not I get responses like: He should appreciate me… Girl, it is not what you think it is etc. I’m sure it isn’t, but are YOU doing all YOU can to make it that way? Do you ask that man how his day was? Do you cook? Do you keep a clean house. Do you wake up, and touch that man in the night? How long has it been since you told that man how wonderful he is, and how blessed you are to have him in your life? Now this is not to say the man isn’t/shouldn’t do the same (he absolutely should, one person can’t make, or break for that matter, a relationship), but right now I’m talking to you…the ladies. You can only control what you do. What you will be put up with. I pose the question: If you start it, and be consistent… do you think he will follow your lead?
I asked a friend when was the last time she kissed her husband… she could not tell me. I thought that was amazing. When did you stop kissing? I asked another, and got basically the same response. When I suggested that she go home and do that, she acted like I told her to go change the oil in his car. Then we wonder why our men are always stepping out on their marriage. With a straight face you ask a question like that. Now, I do not condone that by any stretch, cheating isn’t acceptable in any situation, but if I’m not fulfilling every need you have then… It’s not right. It isn’t fair. It is deplorable… however, we all know men. We know how they are, and how they think. Again, please do not misunderstand me to be saying it is okay, What I am saying is, as much as I hate it, we do have to program ourselves to think more as they do.
The very next song to come across my mp3 was If I Were Your Woman… MMMHHHHHHHH, one of my favorites. Have you really ever listened to the lyrics of this song?
If you had the strength, to walk out that door… my love will over -rule my sense, and I’d call you back for more.
She tears you down darling… says you’re nothing at all, but I’ll build you up darling when she lets you fall. You’re like a diamond, but she treats you like glass. Yet you beg her to love you, but me you don’t ask…
I know it seems that I’m jumping all over the place, but these songs are saying the same thing, just from different points of view. The man is saying how he wants to be treated, how she started out treating him. She is saying how she WOULD treat him, if he belonged to her. How the woman he has now is not appreciating him, but she would. Ladies, I say this out of love, those lyrics are very true… and admit it or not, you know that I’m right. What you won’t do for your man, there are 100 other women that will do it… GLADLY. Men know this. Don’t get caught slipping out of pride. Don’t get too comfortable, and stop doing what you did to get that man. I say again, I do not condone cheating, and I certainly don’t approve of messing around with someone else’s man. I just say… again with love, appreciate your man, and let him know it as often as you can, in every way you can think of. You don’t ever want to have the regret that he stepped out because of what you didn’t do. If he cheats or leaves let your conscience be clear that you did all you could, and he just was not the man to appreciate all the fabulousness that is you. Do it for us ladies that can’t wait to have a man to treat like just that… a man.