It seems like Essence Magazine is getting all the scoops lately as they not only have the first pics from Usher and Tameka Foster’s wedding, but also the first in depth interview with Kim Porter since she broke up with Diddy. Kim doesn’t hold much back and basically concedes that the rumors about Diddy’s many infidelities and secret love child, are what led her to leave the relationship. You can read excerpts from the interview on the next page and pick up the October issue of the magazine to read the full interview.
Not that long ago, Kim Porter, longtime girlfriend of Sean “Diddy” Combs, triumphantly declared in the pages of this magazine that the love she shared with Combs was something the rest of us could never understand. “I know him like I know my kids,” she said. “He’s gentle, giving and sensitive, especially to me.” What Porter didn’t know was that while she waxed enthusiastically about their union, her on-again off-again boyfriend of 12 years—the man whose twin baby girls she was carrying—was keeping a secret from her that would rock her to the core.
If you speak to Porter about it now, the first thing she’ll tell you is that the secret was not the main reason she left the relationship this past July. But later, after hours of conversation, Porter concedes that Combs’s betrayal led directly to an unraveling of trust and faith. From there, she says, it was just a matter of time before things came completely undone.
ESSENCE: You left the relationship in a very dramatic way. I understand you waited until Sean was out of town and then you packed up the house. You took the cars, the nursery furniture, the kitchen table, everything. Why did it go down like that?
KIM PORTER: Because there was no other way. You think he would have let me walk out the door? He wouldn’t have wanted me to go.
ESSENCE: Were you scared?
KIM PORTER: No! Not at all. But I wanted to be dramatic. I wanted him to know I wasn’t breaking up with him for two weeks-or maybe leaving for two days. If I pack up everything — twins and all — it means I’m out! Puffy’s an action person, not a talk person. So I had to have an action. Telling him, “Babe, I’m leaving…” was not gonna do it.
ESSENCE: Did your girlfriends come over to help?
KIM PORTER: I did have my little party-packing crew, yes, I did! My friends are very supportive.
ESSENCE: After our last article (“No Ordinary Love”, Essence, December, 2006), some readers responded by saying Sean was disrespecting you by not getting married. They said you should be trying to get that ring on your finger.
KIM PORTER: Do you know how many rings I have? I don’t even have enough fingers (laughing). That’s not why I left.
ESSENCE: So if he called you today and said, “I want to get married, right now….”?
KIM PORTER: I would say “No.” And not because I don’t want to get married, but because he’s not ready to get married. When I get married, I want to stay married. I want both parties to be on the same page at the same time, and to leave a certain type of behavior behind. That’s a commitment I don’t think he’s ready for.
ESSENCE: If it wasn’t over the marriage, then why did you end the relationship?
KIM PORTER: I left because at this point in my life I want something different for myself. I invested ten years, I have children, and I’ve always stood by him. But now it’s time for me and what I want to do for Kim.
ESSENCE: How have you two been getting along since you left?
KIM PORTER: You know how when two people go their separate ways, most of the time there’s animosity? It’s not like that with us. Sean and I have this bond, this friendship. It’s not about ‘if you’re faithful to me, if I’m being faithful to you.’ We’re friends. I’m the person he can tell his inner most thoughts to and he’s that person for me. He still calls me everyday and we talk. There’s no ill feeling or ‘I can’t stand you, I hate you, don’t call.’ There’s none of that. We have three children together so that’s just not an option. We’re committed to our children even if we couldn’t commit to each other.
ESSENCE: Speaking of being faithful, there have been rumors about Sean and a baby in Atlanta swirling around for a while. Is this why you left the relationship?
KIM PORTER: Hmmm… Well, that definitely was part of it.
For the complete interview with Kim Porter and exclusive photos pick up the October Issue of Essence.
She gets on my nerves.
I just can’t bring myself to feel any kind of pity for Kim Porter. This women knew the kind of man she was getting involved with when she met him. All she saw was his star power and dollars signs and thought having his babies would secure their relationship.
Woman like her need to learn that having a man’s baby will not secure the relationship or force him in to marrying you. It is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Kim is just pissed because she got played and all of America witnessed it.
Why is Essence promoting this fool of a woman? She is known as being Diddy’s dumb baby mama who thinks wearing expensive clothes, living in mansions, and flying first class is a necessity. There have been rumors about this man for years frequenting gay clubs and messing with men and women but yet she puts up with it because he is Diddy. I do not care to read the article about her or anything else about her. I really wish she would get some more education, her own career, and move on with her life either alone or with someone who truly appreciates women.
Why is Essence magazine doing another article with Kim Porter? Nobody cares. She really needs to get a life and her own career.
I do not like her much :thumbsdown:
I think it’s sad that she finally came to her senses after having two more children by this clown…I don’t care how much money she’s getting in child support being a single mom with 4 children is not worth it….Why do women wise up only after they’ve been used up and drug through the mud.
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Blah, She still talking about that mess. Move on with your life woman.
She just need to admit he’s DL. But she won’t. SMH :hmph:
It’s funny how we make comments about people we never met and probably never will meet. Kim Porter does have a career. She is a an actress. She is also a mother first. Her and Diddy breaking up does not mean she will raise her children alone. It’s a difference with being a single mother without father involvement to being a single mother with a father involved. It is known that most men are known for having the urge to cheat. Does that mean we are to not have faith in any man? You can’t blame her for having faith. You can commend her for leaving. Many of you wish you could be in a position as hers.
Who in their right mind would want to be in a position like kim’s?….Outside of the money she has nothing that I want, I definately don’t want her sorry a$$ man or to be left with 4 children and no husband, all the money and fame in the world isn’t worth that kind of drama….Even if Puffy is involved she will be the primary care giver of these children and it’s nothing like being married and raising you kids together under one roof…I can’t blame her for having faith in her relationship but for 10 long years while being humiliated in public and cheated on repeatedly, I don’t know about that.
Oh My God how pathiec! Keep running stories about her and P Diddy she is a poster child for( NO SELF ESTEEM ,FOOLISH,RETARDED,AND JUST AN ALL -AROUND FOOL.)
My blessings go out to Kim, Sean and their children. I say to Kim-Loving someone unconditionally can never be wrong, Especially a powerful blackman who is misguided in what a real man is (remember his father was not around). He needs your love and support Kim, thats why he always comes back. And I smell your power girl, your cup runneth over, so you have enough love to give him from your overflow. Its nothin, (smile). keep your family together Kim. God is with you girlfriend. As human beings we are bombarded by a lot of negative, garbage and sludge on a daily basis, hell even on a moment to moment basis- Especially ON A ENERGETIC LEVEL. Sean needs to clean house and get rid of any and everyone in his life who is not supportive of his quest to be a strong, powerful, loving, honorable, honest man to his woman, his kids, and his family, period! He is obviously extra sensitive to psychic pollution because look at his life patterns. He will get in a zone, do right by his family, and then all of a sudden he starts acting a fool again. Watch the patterns and I bet those times when he is acting up he has allowed toxic people to be in his space, and that includes men, women, entorage, animals, or whatever! Watch the company you keep Mr. Combs! Please start being a loving and honorable man for your family. Show you daughters what kind a man they deserve and show your sons what type of man to be. They are watching you sweetheart. All the money in the world can’t replace the example of being a quality human being. Start loving and respecting yourself, your woman, and your kids brother. That is what life is about ultimately. Nothing else matters. What else is there to do? Kim you stay strong sista and you keep lovin. Be that Goddess that you know you are. Take care of them babies. Raise your little princesses with your strength. Good luck on your acting carreer an your party planning business. You and that man will be alright. One love!
I choose not to judge her from this interview. She is a woman who has her own issues to solve. We all deal with our own problems and issue. I hope she would finally find the right track for herself and her kids.
PLEASE FIND SELF LOVE !!!!!!!!!!
Michele, I couldn’t possibly have said it better. TO THE HATING SISTAS
Why such hated remarks for someone we don’t know personally. Can you put up with someone like Diddy? It’s takes strong woman to have feelings for someone who is never faithful and after three babies doesn’t want to commit. Diddy is selfish and wants his cake and eat it to. To all the insecure jealous *** women making all these negative comments, it’s not about whether or not she has anything you want because apparently she does. Just because her baby daddy is a millionaire doesn’t mean you should pass judgement on her. At least she was smart enough to get pregnant by someone who has the money to take care of kids instead of a dead beat that just wants to lay up on the couch and be taken care of (you know what I am talking about). Black women are so hard on each other. If you pay attention to her story rather than her pocket book you’d realize that a lot you are going through the same situation. If she is pathetic and tired so are you. Wake UP! At least she is a beautiful black sista. No honey, no blondes, no hispanics. What is wrong with us?
Kim, just hold on to your faith,love yourself and your children God will see you through this. Just stay focus on your children and your career. I think that may be Mr.Comb need to just think thing over about his children and you. Mr. Comb need to learn to love himself before he can love someone else.
You said that possible another child is in the picture please don’t bring in drama stand up and be a strong sister. I know it hurt you to know that he has another child but did the right thing by leave.I truly cann’t sit here and pass judgement on you that would disrespect you and myself as African American Women. You and your children will be in my prayer. Hope that you and Sean can work things out for the childern. Sean has to understand that woman are God gift to man because without woman there wouldn’t be other human being here on earth. Love and respect you Kim.Diane
Kim is always pointing the finger at everyone but sean combs and herself she gossip about jennifer lopez she married and has her own assets and now it the other baby mamas fault sad a woman her age should have learn something by now.