Married Pastor – Passing along HIV

Pastor Craig Lamar Davis looks like any other healthy, happy, heterosexual pastor with good family values. He was once a preacher at the Full Gospel Baptist Church in Atlanta and a pillar of leadership in the community. Also, like a lot of men at the front of the church, the pastor had a thing for the ladies.

Another thing you might want to know about Davis, according to authorities, is that the pastor is HIV positive. He also didn’t seem to care who else became HIV positive after he slept with them.

The pastor was arrested for reckless conduct after police found that he was sleeping with several women with whom he was not married. A woman by the name of Ronita McAfee says that she met the pastor on Facebook and began sleeping with him.

Ronita says that she became concerned when one of the pastor’s ex-girlfriends called her to say that she had HIV. She claims that the pastor then counseled her (presumably leaning on the word of the good “lawud”) and told her to get tested. Davis then says that she noticed that the pastor himself was not interested in getting tested, even though she had also contracted HIV. This is what prompted her to seek out a warrant for his arrest.

Ronita is, by our best guess, the first person to file for the arrest of someone who was found to maliciously spread HIV in Clayton, County, GA. When the investigation began, another woman in the church leadership stepped forward with her confession about interacting with Davis. The woman even claimed that she’d been celibate for 15 years before meeting him.

Ladies, please take a good look at this man, because the fact is that you probably know him. He’s the nice, smooth, good-looking man that makes you want to get naked on the third or fourth date. You trust him because you’ve been raised to believe that a man of God would never hurt you. In fact, he might be the man that your church has had you waiting for because he too is grounded in the belief system that you’ve deemed to be a requirement for any man with whom you choose to share your body. He knows how to get into your head, because he knows that one defining characteristic of nearly every black woman in America is her deep and unshakable commitment to the church.

As a man who’s written extensively about other sad creatures like Bishop Eddie Long (who also hails from Atlanta, aka the bible-thumping Sodom and Gomorrah), I find Pastor Davis’ case remarkable for several reasons:

First, the courage of these women to step out and publicly reveal the pastor’s deception has saved lives. I wish there were a day where every 30 and 40-something year old black woman who has caught HIV, Herpes, Syphilis or some other disease would speak out about what happened to them, so that younger women don’t end up falling into the same trap. Countless women have died from catching something that their man brought home to them after fulfilling his “interpersonal needs” someplace else. Unfortunately, the relentless shame thrust upon “the good Christian girl” with a venereal disease keeps many of these stories from ever being told.

Secondly, the pastor’s denial of his condition and unwillingness to go to the doctor is quite common. Many women are accustomed to getting regular STD screenings as part of their annual checkup. Men are not raised in the same way. There are men I know who sleep with literally dozens of women every single year and haven’t been to the doctor since MC Hammer had a hit record. Even worse, many women don’t ask and certainly don’t confirm the man’s HIV status as much as they check the size of his bank account or the magnitude of his “swag” factor. The fact is that if you think he’s got swag, then a lot of other women do too.

Men like Pastor Davis are allowed to prey on unsuspecting women for at least three reasons:

1) Many women value style over substance – if you look good, then you must be good. Mind you, men make the same mistake, since they falsely believe that when a pretty girl offers you sex, you’re supposed to take it.

2) Many women falsely believe that men who go to church are better than men who don’t. Bishop Eddie Long should help you to know better than that. Unfortunately, people consider each case of a pastor doing dirt to be an exception to the rule, without realizing that there are men like Davis all over the country. Davis is not the man you need to fear; actually, you need to fear all the Craig Davises that you still don’t know about.

3) Many women don’t ask questions and will gladly sleep with a handsome playboy without checking and confirming his STD status. If he doesn’t mention the other women he slept with before he came to her house, it’s as if those women don’t even exist. Even worse is that the fixation on HIV leads us to forget about how many women have had their wombs corrupted from all the other STDs that you can get besides HIV. Many people will brag about having a negative HIV test, but won’t get a full STD screening from the doctor – a researcher in Philadelphia told me that he randomly tested 20 men in an inner city barbershop and found that over half of them had Chlamydia.

What’s the result of the aforementioned factors all coming together, conjoined with intense denial in the black church and a commercialized hip-hop culture where both men and women glorify female degradation and irresponsible hyper-sexuality? An HIV explosion like you would not believe. So, every time you hear about folks going from one relationship to the next or the man with five babies with four different women, just remember that, while all this is happening, viruses, germs and bacteria are being shared with every romantic interaction. Even worse, because the men aren’t getting their reality checks from the doctor, it’s all “out of sight, out of mind.”

Take a note from the lessons of these women and realize that another Pastor Davis likely lives in your own community. But also note that the Pastor Davis-types of the world are allowed to do their dirty work because all of us continue to empower and excuse the devilish snakes in the pulpit. A person can do all the evil he wants in the world, and as long as he asks for God’s forgiveness in public (providing no further confirmation that his behavior has changed), we invite him right back into the church and pretend like it never happened. Just go ask R. Kelly.



  1. Amazing article!! I will say that I have seen this topic written on many blogs, but I particularly appreciate this article. I especially appreciate how you broke down this topic REALISTICALLY, instead of using this story as an opportunity to bash the black women that contracted this virus from this pastor. Yes, they could have made better decisions. Yes, they could have and probably would have,done several things differently; however, that does not mean they DESERVED to be infected with this virus…no one does.

    What you have written is REAL and we,as black women, need to realize that we are all potentially at risk for contracting HIV and other STDs. Unfortunately, condoms do not protect against every disease (e.g., you can still contract Herpes, even if you use a condom). Furthermore, there have been cases of women who have gotten infected by their husbands or individuals that THEY were in committed relationships with. The fact is, people lie and manipulate and do otherwise EVIL things…even people “of God”. All we can do is educate ourselves and protect ourselves as best we can.

  2. If these women (ho’s)new he was married and were having sex with him they got what they derserved.

  3. This is the reason the HIV/AIDS rate is high with African American women. This guy is a true Bastard but I just don’t understand why women are not protecting themselves with the use of condoms. Hey, I’m not the morale police, but if you are doing your dirt at least be smart and safe about it. Sistas are having a tougher time dealing with black men because of the crap we are shoveling their way (HIV, Down-Low, poor work ethic, no education, etc). This is a Mess !!

  4. @PHD Chic-10000000000% agree with everything you said. Cosign! 🙂

    To the author-I must commend you for an amazingly accurate portrayal of what plagues quite a few of us black women in today’s society. Being a sista from the south, who also happens to be a pastor’s daughter, I’ve seen and heard 1st hand of how quite a bit of this non-sense goes on. You’re absolutely right about a lot of women’s views on “the good church going brotha.” Many do feel that b/c a brotha APPEARS to be in the church and in the Word, then he’s exactly what God wants for us.

    We shut down the very thing that God gave us to protect ourselves against monsters like this, intuition. We must do better. Much like someone else said previously, I’m no moral police. I live in a crystal glass house and I will not throw stones. However, like the Good Book says, “in all thy getting, get understanding.”

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