After being ticked off about a series of tweets posted by Alicia Keys, Mashonda, the (still) wife of producer Swizz Beatz, who we all know now is involved with Alicia, decided to confront the singer via Twitter as well. Below is Mashonda’s very lengthy tweet to the singer and a very eye opening and sad look into what Mashonda calls the “destruction” of her family.
After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.
I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.
Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.
If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.
Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it nowThis is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!
I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.
If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.
To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.
Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.
Well, I can honestly say that I saw this coming a mile away. As a matter of fact, myself and fellow Brown Sista blogger, Fashionista 101 (Shantee), were discussing this very issue just a day or two ago. We have posted about Alicia several times over the last few weeks and the responses to the singer have been a lot different than they were in the past. Women, a significant portion of Alicia’s fan base, are very angry with her. As Mashonda said, they too wonder how can a woman who sang about female empowerment and friendship, help break up another woman’s marriage.
The big question however, is will this issue affect sales of Alicia’s upcoming album which is due to be released later on this year.
It is VERY sad that this all happened to Mashonda [and her family]. I am a big AK fan, and still is one. BUT, I don’t think homewrecking is a good profession! You can’t possibly fall in love with someone [who is taken], if you won’t allow yourself to. Even if, you STILL should respect the OTHER person’s feelings.
When I’m feeling down, or having a bad day, what do I do? Throw on some Alicia Keys. Her last album, As I Am, is the only album I can listen to when I need a pick-me-up. The passion in her voice, and that damn piano, all of it just makes me feel like AK UNDERSTANDS heartache.
BUT. I’m starting to rethink this. How the hell can you sing about ‘A Woman’s Worth’ and ‘Superwoman’ and ‘Lesson Learned’, and then turn around and steal somebody’s damn man. Ummm. AK. Bad move. I think A LOT of sistas are gonna wanna hand your [expletive] to you!
Still love you, but that is effed up.
I hope the best for Mashonda. I hope she’ll find a positive solution. How ironic that this happened AFTER he knocked her up? Men are so predictable and blank.
…I want to cry for Mashonda. I feel her pain.
…oh and before anyone jumps down my back, I still do plan on buying Alicia’s new album IF it’s as good as the last. Their personal issues have nothing to do with me, as long as the feel-good music keeps coming.
*Wish them all the best.
Me too F101. Me too.
Mashonda said this: “As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.”
I feel she should have left it right there after that quote. She & SB are “in a good place” as she says, so why keep looking for more drama and on AK’s twitter page of all places! (weird) She could have pulled AK’s to the side at the party and said what she had to say and left the “face-to-face” convo right there. A Keys owes her no explanation, her “estranged” husband does! And it seems they have talked out their differences and they are now “in a good place and she “supposedly” does not blame AK’s! So what was the point of this “open letter” on twitter/internet about again? Not one time did I read in this “open letter” that “her Husband” was to blame nor took responibility for causing this situation in the first place! And I am sorry, but NOBODY can be the excuse for YOU as a parent to NOT be seeing/spending time w/ their child(ren)….I’m just not buying that BS!
Yes, AK’s is WRONG for hooking up w/ a married man in the 1st place, but we are hearing only one side of the story – the outsiders looking in so to speak. We DO NOT know the full story of this situation.
So Sista, (sorry for the long post), YES I WILL still support A Keys when her album comes out because I am a fan of her music. Her songs make me feel good when I listen to them – She is a Singer/Entertainer/Human sangin’ songs, not singing biblical/gospel truths! Just R&B songs!
Oh. And another thought. Yes, I do have A LOT to say tonight. LOL. This is from a chat convo I was just having with a friend who doesn’t believe AK is at fault.
My response: “Miss Mashonda asked that you not see AK the celeb, but AK the human. I don’t only blame Swizz Beatz. I blame the cheater AND the homewrecker. Homewrecking doesn’t mean she had to STEAL him or PERSUE him, but as long as you accepted the gesture then that’s HOMEWRECKINGGGGG. Because of you or whoever else has accepted any unfaithful gesture, a home is now WRECKED.
Mashonda betta find her an NFL player or something. Swizz is NOT ATTRACTIVE, so if we’re basing this on looks alone, this shouldn’t be that hard of a move!”
GO TEAM MASHONDA!!
I sense this may get nasty- lol.
Yeah I think this Is goin’ to get ugly to!
Plz ppl!! None of us actually KNOW what happened! For all we know, Mashonda could have cheated on SB? We just don’t know! Plz refrain from allowing (what could be) a vicious and exaggerated rumour, tarnish your love for AK’s beautiful music.
Ms.Keys appears more happy than ever these days, God bless her & her amazing work.
Time to move on Mashonda! Can’t stand it when women whinge and whine about their men, and blame other women. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY! Peace ***
I am so sick of AK’s and her Save the world bit and all that stuff..and the the trick steal someone’s man and dan disrespects her…SMH and OMG Mashonda, if i was you, i would be on her like white on rice, i never faught over a dude B4, i think its classless, but Ak Needs a couple of slaps or a good talking…cause SMH…
twitter is only 140 characters
If a man wants you nothing can keep him away, if a man does not want you, nothing can make him stay. That is what Mashonda has to really deal with. I feel her pain. I have been there
News is just pouring in, disturbing news at that! First, how can we make judgments without hearing all three people involved in this domestic saga version of the truth.
I am an Alicia Keys fan, her music has meant so much to me and if she did falter, then I will expect her to reap what she has sowed, karma!
Who’s to say when their relationship actually started?
Some people have restraint and she could have waited until SB officially called his marriage quits. I don’t believe anyone can steal another’s heart, soul and body. I understand attractions occur all the time and if they acted on those attractions while he was still in his marriage then Alicia will forever have to look over her shoulder and that’s for real!
Don’t help tear down this girl without hearing all three sides.
Going on Twitter sends a red flag, desperation and retailiation. It won’t work, while I greatly sympathize with the wife’s position, making a spectacle might cost AK some fans and record sales, but she’ll survive. She’s not only messing with AK’s career and money, but Clive and her Record Label. I hope Mashonda finds peace and forgive for her own sake. God is going to truly bless her through this mess. But, her pain and hatred should be just as strong for the man who vowed to love her. Alicia shouldn’t respond in twitter fashion, “woman to woman” ish.
Men just don’t leave home, it was already somewhere in their head and heart, waiting on an opportunity. Her being pregnant could have been on his way out the door. You have to have more information before you throw someone to the wolves, the facts. Divorces can linger, but who’s fault is it? The settlement can tie up the divorce. Is it the same kind of adultery if the man is legally married but has decided to separate and end his marriage? Was he planning on leaving before he even got with AK? I just hate destruction and without knowing the complete story or everybody’s version.
Yes I will buy Alicia’s album regardless.
I was a child from a family that’s broken by a woman taking my dad away, I think I totally understood how it feels like.
But still, I think it’s very private and so personal for artists to deal with their issues. So I let this between AK, the man (sorry, but I blame Swizzbeat for this, nothing would happen if he is strong enough) and her wife. I think I will definitely support her new album anyway.
This is a private issue. I don’t understand the need for some people to expose their personal issues in the public place. Just because it’s Alicia Keys. If it was a non-famous woman who had “stolen” her husband, she’d never have talked about this. She says she and her husband worked out their differences and if I understood what she wrote well, this story has occured two years ago so what’s the point? How convenient she did that a few months before AK’s new album release. She may not have an album to promote but she knows she can spoil a career. I didn’t see Jennifer Aniston bashing Angelina or write an “open letter” after she not only dated Brad but got pregnant by him and she (Jennifer)is a million times more famous than this woman (I don’t know who she is). This is the big problem with celebrities nowadays, they can’t keep their private lives private. If Alicia’s sales suffer because of this it will be a shame because she is a good artist who has always been private and is only known for her work not a private life.I know this is akward but Michael’s death really makes see celebrities and their lives in a different way and I decided what they do in their private lives is their business as long as they provide me good music and good shows I am fine. This all I expect from them.
I have an issue with weak women and mashonda fall right into that category,I don’t care if it is alicia, could have been rihanna beyonce or even lady gaga whom i can’t stand, My opinion remains the same, Women have to stop blaming other women when their relationships fails, look i’m not going to type a letter today i’m not in the mood, but all those people blaming alicia keys for mashonda divorce are 1)giving too much power to her 2)Pathetic 3) Insecure, Why is it so hard for black woman to let it go? If swizz wanted mashonda he would have played alicia and went back to his wife, Don’t you all speak English? Wasn’t swixx cheating on mashonda way before alicia got in the picture? Oh so it’s okay for him to cheat as long as he does not leave her? What kind of ghetto/slave mentality is that ? Why are women always trying to take it up with other women? You know mashonda is going to stay a single mother for a long time because she is one bitter and jealous female, The only reason why she feels the need to “call out” somebody is because alicia has an album coming out, Now it is wrong to mess with a married man, marriage is something that needs to be respected and for that i can agree and say that alicia is wrong, but give swizz a free pass and put it all on her is another exibit as to why, black women stay unmarried in this country, LET IT GO if it’s not meant to be, as for mashonda and most of you here, please please please Get some self esteem and stop giving all of your power to men, look at how most chicks here are bitter?
and STOP SAYING PEOPLE STEAL YALL HUSBAND WHAT THE F–CK WHAT KIND OF WOMAN ARE YOU IF A CHICK COMES RIGHT IN AND TAKE YOUR MAN AWAY? YOU ALL ARE DIMINISHING YOURSELF UNCONSCIOUSLY, The man is NO good that’s the short version of the all story, Many men resist vaginas no matter how different, ore appealing, sexier it might be, men turned it down WHEN they really love their wives so stop frotting and shut the hell up DAMN
Oh, I so agree with you Monica. Swizz Beatz is weak. And who wants a weak man around?!
What’s puzzling is the women/people who are saying “oh, please. you’re petty. just move on.”
I bet if while you were pregnant with a man’s child/just gave birth, and he was cheating on you, you wouldn’t be saying the same things.
Mashonda feels disrespected at most. Like she said, she and AK were singing Superwoman in her truck together, and boom — here she is all boo’d up with your man. She also asked AK to step back, and let her handle her own problems. I would’ve respected that.
How can you allow yourself to fall in love with a married man? Married means OFF THE MARKET! I don’t care what anyone says. When someone betrays you, disrepects you, and flat out STABS YOU IN THE BACK, I don’t believe you’d just be “classy” and walk away. Not when you’re still in love and [possibly] never saw it.
& as for the men who believe Mashonda needs to move on, that’s funny. I think guys would act on te situation pysically, by either hurting the woman or “the other man”. SO how the hell is that classy? Ppl shouldn’t throw glass stones.
It’s their issues to resolve no matter how painful it is.
Does this make me see Alicia Keys in a new light concerning to her music? No. Artists do not always sing or write about their own experiences. Second, some people don’t necessarily follow what they preach. I focus this on her music because I never knew her personally to begin with. I can’t tell how she really was like prior to this publicized self, so my perception of her don’t change. This information only adds another dimension.
If Mashonda and Alicia come out with great music post this experience, I will be bumping to it :-).
Oops. I meant:
*never saw it coming
I will always support Alicia Keys the artist but I won’t support Alicia Keys the person anymore!! What she did is disgusting.
i used to think so high of Alicia Keys before this. I don’t respect her for this. She was WRONG. I didn’t even believe it until I saw them out together. So many young people look up to this woman and find inspiration in her music and public image, what will they think of this “well as long as its love, you can break up a marriage.” I’m not feeling swizz either.
You just move on Mashonda, don’t chase a man that dogged you like that. Him and Ms Keys will get theirs.
You can just imagine how Alicia was smiling in her face and Mashonda never suspected a thing. Mashonda probably bought her album and all. This is really sad.
This is true but there a quite a few applications you can use to increase the number of characters you can use.
(SIGH) and unfortunately im an Alicia fan. I respect her music but the proof is in the pudding. Mashonda said “assisted” in breaking up a home, which is true. I, like, many people had high expectations of Alicia, maybe cuz she comes off so conscious and caring, i mean she tryna save Africa, but we 4got she human. Alicia look real wack sorry, and this is from a fan but gotta call it what it is.
@Truthteller- she aint chasing him, Swizz invited Mashonda to the party. He’s probably observing how she is handling the whole thing- like a mature woman, and now he reconsidering. She could have got ghetto and ragged Alicia across a piano. It is attractive how she playing mello.
@Voice- u obviously didn’t read what MAshonda said, but once again you show how one-dimensional you are. If you like sum1 they can do no wrong, if you hate sum1 they can do no rite. People have affairs everyday, Alicia and Swizz was wrong. Why is that so hard to accept. Alicia is not a minigod running round here just cuz she gives profound speeches and her songs are deeper than the average singer out here. SHe just taught people a lesson-don’t expect more from stars than you would expect from the average joe
Well I think alota of woman/girls on “mashonda confronts alicia keys” are talkin out of their a**es on here, I can name alot of other diff. female artist who would get WAY different treatment if that were them, I’m gonna leave it at that. hey i think alicia owes it to mashonda to lost a couple record sales lol.
@ RUSERIOUS
Are we FINALLY agreeing on something????? lol but yea ur so right about everything you said
Damn Ak Got ppl mad like she took yal man personally this does not change my thoughts about her i love her music and could care less about her taking mashonda’s husband i blame swizz
I think what AK did was very horrible BUT she is human! SO that won’t stop me from supporting her if her music is good. BUT if she comes out with some songs talking about female empowerment and being a good woman acting like she is a sister trying help other sisters I will quickly ignore her album and her and just hope that the next time around she will be better!
I do believe their marriage had probelms before AK arrived but I also believe AK help make it worse and harder to come back from as most women who do mess around with men that they know are married she more than likely help rip them apart slowly and ensure that SB and Mashonda would feel like there is no coming back! In this situation she was the lesser woman, singing about heartache and how it felt for her why would she do the same to another woman.
I understand AKeys is human, but I don’t think it’s in good taste to sing her heart out about pain that someone else’ wife is experiencing because of her. Yeah, a man is JUST as responsible (if not more) as the “other” woman…but some of you really need to understand what Mashonda is trying to say…
Alicia is the woman’s woman. She sticks up for women. Sings about a woman’s pain, a woman’s heartbreak, a woman’s vulnerability…it does look like a slap in the face when all of these factors come together in her songs, b/c this pain, heartbreak & vulnerability is caused by her.
She makes her career as the common woman’s champion, who understand her plight in love, relationships, etc…so now how convincing is she since this debacle broke out?
Yeah, I’m buying Alicia’s album…like I said, she’s human just like (most) of us on this forum…but some of you really are “one-dimensional” (as someone put it) to not recognize the hurt Mashona obviously is feeling. What would any of you do if your partner left you for a beautiful celebrity? How insecure and ashamed would you feel?
Why are my post constantly removed.. I posted 3 times this morning and now their gone? and they were not vulgar or inappropriate in anyway..your site is not working properly this happens constantly. I hope this site doesn’t give out virus’ because weird things are happening.
the man is to blame. if he didnt have a wondering eye it wouldn’t have happened
Alicia Keys is a celebrity, thus she is selling a product,just because she sings about women enpowerment doesn’t mean she views enpowerment the same way as other women. I’m so tired of people acting like celebrities are their image, that has been created by record executives, public relationships and focus groups. Just take these celebrities as products and nothing else.
I wouldn’t want to be in Alicia Keys situation at all. Because, it’s just sad. And actually speaks volumes on her character, but we don’t know the whole story. But, I will tell you this, Mashonda is going about this, the wrong way. Swizz Beats has money because he’s a producer/etc. Don’t go on and tweet about your personal life, get that man’s money and take Alicia Keys to court as well. She can definitely get spousal support, and child support. He created a certain lifestyle that she has become accostumed to, she deserves to keep that lifestyle, plus her kids. Plus, she can sue Alicia K, for alienation of affection. If in fact she can prove that Alicia broke up a happy home, she can be sued for that. Mashonda don’t whine about it, get paid. And then write a book.
It amazes me how people laugh and clowned Kim Porter for not being married to Puffy, and having his kids, but Kim is the smartest famous black ex in the history of entertainment. She has Puffy taking care of her kids, nice child suppor, he takes care of her son, he takes care of her, the woman became rich through him, and she wasn’t dumb she created a business. That’s a bad chick. So, yeah she cried, but while he was doing his thing, she was making sure she was getting paid. In that situation, Kim was thinking like a white woman, where as Mashonda is thinking like a black woman-all about love and etc. Girl please, get the money and stop crying.
HELL YES I’m buying AKeys new album. What goes on in her personal business is not my concern but her bring good a$$ music is.
I still love my AKeys no matter what anyone say about her.
@Bohwe, it’s not as much about how consumers view her image, but how Alicia views Alicia’s image. It’s more than “celebrity”…it’s the fact that Alicia puts out a message consisting of her views on life, love, heartache, etc. Those views become void once you see how her personal life is perpendicular to the views she “stands for”. So who do you become when you don’t stand for anything? Alicia wants her music to be more than meaningless; she wants her image to be more than just a “product”. Don’t you think she should do everything in her power to embody that? I agree with you though when it comes to Mashonda’s role…it would’ve been a bit better for her character to just deal with the inner workings of her life privately. However, I empathize with her…it must be hard to just sit back & watch Swizz & Alicia humiliate her publicly while she tries to grieve behind closed doors, because it’s not about money. It’s about commitment, and when a man dishonors you like that, it must be like a knife in the chest. Kim Porter did what was logical for her sake, but I never respect anyone who allows their life to solely depend on ONE individual. Marriage (or divorce) is a team effort, & the players need to play by the rules. Money isn’t the sole purpose for existing…what about dignity & character? Love? Respect for your partner? So yeah, Mashonda has my support b/c I empathize with her on a human level. Alicia has my support, b/c she fell in love with a married man. My grandmother fell in love with a married man (grandfather), and they loved each other for 30+ years while he was still married. But when he died, his wife refused to let her in the hospital or attend the funeral. It broke my grandmother’s heart…but I also empathize with his wife, b/c she had to deal with being humiliated everytime she saw my father for Xmas, or myself, or anyone linked to my grandmother in any way. It must be the same way for Alicia & Mashonda. Good luck to them both.
@ M
well said…
Dang, ya’ll got essays up in here! lol!
I never brought her music to begin with. My mom is a fan of A. Keys. Birds of a feather stick together. Anyways, I think it was wrong of her to accept the gestures, whether or not the marriage was broken or not. The divorce papers weren’t filed, it wasn’t official, they were still married. So, Mashonda, I feel for you. I might bootleg the album for my mom, like I always do, but Alicia was wrong.
I wonder if somebody else did this, would ppl still be as forgiving?
LOL @ Shanice!
& honestly, I think it would be a different story if it was some other artists…the backlash would prob be quadrupled
once again Shanice
I think the same thing about a particular artist doin something like this, i could hear it now “she’s ahomewrecker, h*e, s*l, bleep” [end quote]
Mashonda, props to you, gurl. She’s handling her business the best way she can at the moment, and ain’t nuthing stronger than a classy woman. SB evidently don’t know a good woman when he sees one.
This completely changes my view on AK. Lovely music, yes, but what’s the worth of good music if the artist singing it doesn’t have their heart in it? That’s nuthin but a sellout to me. One way or another, “karma” will catch up :] So no, I ain’t buyin that damn album.
It’s a sad situation, but Mashonda is making the best of it. And yeah, here’s hopin to a big ol’ sexy NFL footballer to give her what she went without!
I am sorry but I have not heard Alicia’s side and I don’t have to because this is a personal issue. If Mashonda was truly over this she would not have made it so public.
AKeys or Swizz has not breathe a word about it so the only side I hear is Mashonda’s.
And no matter what A Keys is a strong woman. She has been true to herself and made music that people love. We have seen her evovle from a tomboy with great vocals to a sexy charity worker with greated vocals.
If her music is good, I’m buying. Sorry Mashonda.
IDK. you never know I use to be an ex pain in the butt girlfriend who would not let my ex move one. I knew his family and friends loved me and I was always polite and sweet as pie but although he was cordial to me he made it very clear that it was over. Swizz is not making it a secret that he has moved on and it’s obvious to me because she insist on referring to him as her husband that she hasn’t. I understand that he technically is but he obviously doesn’t want to be. LET IT GO
To be honest the only people that actually knows what happened and is currently happening is AK, SB and his wife. Their marriage could have been in trouble for a long time, or they were getting along fine, but then he strayed away. We will never know the exact truth. Remember there is always 3 sides to every story, your side, my side and the truth side of it…..
And yes, I will support her new album!
Why is everybody is down on Mashonda’s back???
She is the wife and mother, not the other woman. She is hurt, imagine you married to a male and pregnant with a child, and some female you know is messing with your husband.
None of y’all wouldn’t be sympathetic to the other woman, No want to snatch every strand of hair in her heard. Y’all expect the wife to sit down and shut up, like nothing going on. Please, if this would have happen to you, what would you do??? Every female needs to check their man, while you worrying about Alicia Keys, check and see if your best friend ain’t with your man.
It doesn’t matter how secure you are or how secure your marriage or relationship is. There are women doesn’t respect relationships or marriages. They go after men that are not available, that why Black women can’t get ahead because of these types of women.
If there are problems in the relationship or marriage, step back!!!! Don’t bring more problems to the situation. Alicia Keys is human, and yes, she an artist, but as a role model, No!!!!!!
If she and her soon to be exhusband are in a good place then why is she putting her private business out like this. If you have moved on then move on. Alicia is wrong for not waiting for him to finish his current situation and make it apart of his past, but, no one was in that house hold and knows what happened between that man and that woman. She needs to grow up and stop trying to create a battle because int he end she’s going to look the fool.
Alicia Keys is NOT an angel neither is beyonce,rihanna,ciara etc. they so stop trying to make is seem like alicia has 0.00% in this because she does, and is partially to blame as well.
my bad on the errors
@17150918
Don’t bring Bee or Rihanna into this because they’re not the ones on the spot. Why mention them in this topic?
The fact of the matter is, no she shouldn’t just shut up and take it, if he had a wondering eye before and you worked on it and it STILL does not work between the two of you, then don’t beat a dead horse! Yes you took vowes before GOD but if the MAN is not going to respect those vowes and ward off any other women then why are you making this all about you? Because you are not self confident in yourself and now you have a little child to think about in all of this, if you get along then just keep it at that and move one. Yes you have a reason to be hurt and angry and you can BLAME the other peson involved for the divorce but now that you are going on with the divorce and AK is obviously not holding a gun to his head, then MOVE ON, lesson learned. Pick the right guy next time, for your child’s sake. Your baby don’t need to know anything about this drama until he is of age to make his own judgements. And I know too many mothers who drag thier kids into situations like this.
@ Baron
Well I am a fan of beyonce and rihanna if you look at past comments you would see that actually, and i said that because people think that beyonce is an angel(perfect) but nobody on this earth is so i just wanted that to be clear.
@17150918
When has anyone EVER said that Bee was an angel? And why take it to extremes? Why does she have to be perfect in order to not be sleeping with someone else’s husband? Is it not enough that she’s a woman focused on her hustle? I just don’t see why you had to bring anyone else’s name into this, as though you can’t stand for Alicia to look like the tasteless clown that she is in this situation.
ok BARON since you seem not to be getting what I’m saying so let me break it down for you.
Some of these people on here are acting like alicia keys doesn’t have anything to do with this situation like this is just beyond her character, but she does and just because she has a good image and sings about “self respect” and love etc. that doesn’t make her an angel (even though you’d think she’d never do anything like this) and I brought beyonce’s name in it for 2 reasons: because I wanted to let people like you to realize that everyone does wrong even people with sqeaky clean images but alicia jus got caught, and also because I wanted to put beyonce’s name in it thats why.
o yea and people that “dislike” beyonce always say “beyonce’s not the angel all her stans thinks she is” I hear it all the time.
and her stans always say she’s angel, god, perfect I’m a BIG fan but she’s none of those things
OMG, the age of Twitter. What happen to privacy.
Like my Grandmother used to say, there are three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth. We really don’t know what happened but one thing is for sure, this woman is scorned, bitter and angry. It is obvious she wants to destroy Alicia Key’s reputation and career. I wasn’t there, so I won’t pass judgment.
i have been saying this for a while now about A.Keys.. this chick aint right.. yeah she put out good music but we know these are empty words she sings about. Everyone is to blame in this.. swiss beat for not being man enough to go to his wife and communicate to her that he is not in love with her anymore, A keys, for allowing a man to place her into a role of “other woman” and mashonda for being so blind that she was willing to accept she was in a love-less relationship. But through it all i have to side with mashonda because lets me honest, we have been in her shoes, sometimes we see the signs and we dont want to accept that its over.. we claim we are working it out when we are really just putting it off. A keys you need to be ashamed of yourself, your music to me will never be the same bec i know you may have wrote the song with your pen and not your heart and soul.
wow, i am an alicia fan, but big ups to mashonda. as a married woman myself i have to side with mashonda on this. being the type of things alicia sings about like “karma” are begininng to make her look like a hypocrite due to the situation. and wow, they are still married? flaunting your affair with a married man is not quite what i would call a woman of “empowerment”.i still like alicia as an artist, but the choices she has made regarding this situation is causing me to question her true character.
and that can’t be a twitter message, they only allow 140 characters.
Some of the people in here really need to calm down. It’s so easy to have lots to say when we dont know what bad decisions you have made in your own lives. I dont understand how anyone can say that the way Mashonda is handling this is classy. No doubt she is hurting and she should be hruting but these are issues she should be discussing with Swizz, her mother, a pastor and a shrink. There is no need for this kinda info to be on Twitter. Having been married and divorced myself i know that it takes 2 people to destroy a marriage and those 2 people are the wife&husband.
We also need to stop excusing the men. Most people are more upset at A.Keys than Swizz. Alicia was not married to Mashonda and thereforer owes her no explanation-that is Swizz’s problem. The only time Alicia has to speak to Mashonda is when it comes to arrangements about her spending time with Mashonda’s child. Mashonda cannot expect any answers from her, she needs t ask the man she married, not Alicia.
For as long as we continue to blame each other we will never move forward as women. For as long as we call regular women that make mistakes like u have *****, we kill ourselves.
Mashonda needs to make peace with the fact that her marriage is over, yes it hurts but she needs to let it go- take time out to heal and pray-that’s what will help, not being on Twitter.
While Mashonda raises her blood pressure demanding a response from a woman who dont owe her ish, Alicia and Swizz are probably cuddling up and getting closer.Mashonda, chin up honey. Hurting is only natural but to put your business in public like that is just childish and it makes you look foolish.
To half the sistaz in here spewing hatred-how much of this story do any of us actually know? Probably 33.3% which is Mashonda’s side. So instead of calling Alicia a b*tch, focus on your own life. I am pretty sure we have all done things we arent so proud f and am sure we will make many more mistakes after this, so STFU and stop being so judgemental.
p.s i hate how people put God in this. Mashonda was saying she wishes nothing but blessing for Alicia when she knows that’s bull, she shoulda just kepy quite and asked for blessings for herself.
NOT A GOOD LOOK.
One more thing: why are Mashonda’s friends telling her to check out Alicia’s tweets? Those are not her friends. What Alicia puts on her tweets is really none of her business. If she was my friend, I would send her bible verses to give her strength. I would also be there to listen to her vent so that she can heal in time.
Now would be a great time for Mashonda to also get a job, so she can have confidence that she can take care of herself even if she never has to.
@ GOLDILOX
i agree with some of your statement, but for A.Keys to allowed swiss beats to put her in this position. No one made her have that party for him and go on those Vacations taking all those pictures. she could have said, “i prefer to wait before we go public until your marriage is finale. Yes he is the most at fault but i will not excuse her behavior in this.
Im not going to judge i put it in god hands. As far as alicia im going to still support her period. We do not know the whole story. When swiss and alicia speak then i hear the whole story. All i have to say about mashonda is that she should of keep it quite.
I don’t think mashonda has to keep anything quiet if she doesn’t want because it IS her business I mean he still her husband legally so he’s her business ans she’s his business, if one died tomorrow the other would be in charge of the funeral arrangements. And it is true and sad if you really like someone they can do no wrong(alicia), and if you dont they can do no right.
god forbid one dieing tomorrow.
Wow, these comments are nuts. Some are logical, some are just plain senseless!
Why is it that Mashonda should blame herself and not AK “AND” SB??? What damn since does it make to blame yourself for your man cheating on you?!! Get a grip girls! As far as being classy…eh, she aired everything out on a social website-not the best move, but the facts she stated were done in a tasteful manner!
I WAS a huge AK fan before all of this but, I am not anymore! I dont respect any woman who would treat another (black) woman in this way. Yes SB chose to leave Mashonda, but any REAL WOMAN, is going to tell this married man to handle his business 1st before coming my way. AK put herself in the middle of this, not SB! Marriage is not about a piece of paper; it is more importantly a vow to GOD! If there are any other celeb women who were out on front street as AK is now, I would feel the same! What makes it so bad is that AK is choosing to chill in the cut and not speak with Mashonda;IMO making her look GUILTY!!! Why wouldnt you (AK) want to address your married boyfriend’s Wife??? (smh, that just dont sound right) I dont care what anyone says she does owe her that! If AK is going to be with Mashondas hunsband the least she could do is talk with her concerning the safety and future plans of the child being in AK’s/SB’s care! Some may say that SB should handle that but its “obvious” he cant make valuable decisions.
I agree she should get this loser for his $$$ and go!!! She can do better! Time will heal all wounds! She needs to find herself a great support system….(and I dont consider Twitter to be apart of that system- lol)
@ RUSERIOUS
I didn’t know she was invited, but after this she should stop posting about it and move on. Because Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats will not have good luck for this, that was wrong. Something else I don’t get is this, I wonder why this isn’t on the news, if this was Paris Hilton, or if Alicia took Tom Cruise from Katie, I might get my a55 whooped for that one.
here this site goes again with earsing people’s comments again.
As i was trying to say. Mashonda can put anything she wants on the internet because it still is her business she is married to him legally,so he’s her business, and she’s his business, and god forbid but if one of them died tomorrow the other would bein charge of funeral arrangements. And it’s very true and sad that if you really like someone they can do no wrong (alicia), and if you don’t they can do no right.
*erasing
Mashonda is a fool for going public with her scorn.
Jesus Christ almighty. Go seek therapy. Get some help.
Why on this earth would I not support Alicia’s music???? I don’t know her personally, and don’t have to to appreciate her music. OMFGoodness.
People are casting stones and blaming Alicia because Swiss strayed away from home. Because Swiss decided his marriage wasn’t fulfilling. Because Swiss so happens to be dating Alicia Keys
If he strayed with an unknown you all wouldn’t give a rat’s tail about the situation except to say he was a dog, or blame Mashonda for not taking care of her man.
Cop Alicia’s The Element of Freedom coming December 1st!!!!
LMFAOOOOOO
**correction***
I don’t have to know her personally
TO APPRECIATE HER MUSIC
@Goldilox-who put Swizz off the hooks. from what i read the majority are blaming both. Listen i don’t know about you, but Mashonda gets a soul clap for not ragging Alicia, she is a woman, bigger woman than i can admit too. im singing your songs, and your in bed with my man. Dag, ya gotta feel STUPPPID!! listen Alicia keep makin hits im gonna buy or(let me be honest) download, but i do see her different. Maybe she could make a track about being the other woman so we can feel her side, better yet, naw-scratch that.
This is how real females think. If a man is taken, he automatically beomes off limits- like a family member. My homegirl man could look like Denzel, but since there is no way on earth i would be with him, he becomes fam. That’s like having a cute brother, you can acknowledge he’s cute, but illl he’s ur bro. I don’t care if she didn’t have ties to MAshonda(only lil sheisty girls make that argument), as a woman she should know how it feels to wonder where ur man or husband is. Then im looking at Swizz like, ok you head over heels over me, but will you do it 2me?? of course he would duhh!
oh yeah for the hypocrites. if it was Beyonce you would have her burned at the steak, but since its “Save africa alicia” it gotta be Mashonda’s fault, cuz ain’t flying across seas saving hiv kids.
@12345-im sorry im not memorizing them numbers lol tell em im not a fan of B, just a good observer.
@ Goldilox 10:36AM
I was thinking the same thing. A good friend would not “stir the pot” of mess, taking the other woman’s confession of love to the hurting wife. That’s throwing salt in a huge wound. Doesn’t sound like SB want to repair the marriage so her friends should help her to heal and move on.
@ Cynthinia i totally agree with u
Although I’m a huge fan of Alisha Keyes albums 1 and 2, I have noticed a lessening of her vocal range and ability in her latest projects. Having said that, I believe that one can appreciate the talents and efforts of celebrities without supporting and/or condoning their personal shortcomings. While it is true that we all are human, if this were simply a close friend of mine–and the story proved to be accurate–I would be disappointed, to say the least, and would have to let her know. One of the biggest hurdles that Black women have is our lack of respect and love for one another. Each of us knows what it feels like to be on the receiving end in a situation like this, yet we feel justified when we’re on the giving end. In terms of Mashonda’s very public response to the situation, I don’t think it was the most effective or responsible way to handle it. We need to remember the number of people who read these things. She is a mother and needs to put that first. Also, her putting AK on blast on her Twitter page isn’t going to change what happened. It isn’t even likely to change what WILL happen. All it serves to do is put her own business in the streets. If she has made peace with the situation, then she wouldn’t be listening to her so-called “friends” who tell her to go on AK’s page and read what’s written there. Her real friends wouldn’t be on the page in the first place, and certainly wouldn’t be referring her to read it. Let the past be the past. Think on this…just because AK sang about Karma doesn’t mean she’s immune to it! And Karma is a B**CH!!!
Doesn’t this need to be an open letter to Swizz?? Only he knew the exact situatuion of his relationship. The only problem I have is that I have never heard Mashonda blame him or even acknowledge his part she always just goes in on Alicia. It sounds like because Alicia won’t comment then
Mashonda is irritated by that and is trying to force a conversation. I do think that Alicia should have waited until the ink dried but Mashonda keeps saying that her and Swizz are fine and they have settled things then why keep this up especially if you want to keep it cool for the child. Alicia aint stopping Swizz from seeing his kid(s). If there is a problem with him and his son then she need to be on him about that.
@ KOKO couldnt of said it better
it is sad that this happened but i do not think that she should place all the blame on alidocia. I really do think she should place more of the blame on her husband. Like she said no one can make a man leave his wife..correct so blame your husband. yes alicia was wrong sleepin with a married man he was wrong for around on his wife he is a married man. i feel like she is blaming the woman for he breakup! she needs to blame herself and her husband. Evidenytly they were not in a good place if he cheated. But who am i to judge their sitution. GOd be with all three of them in this love triangle
@ 17150918
Of course she can put whatever she wants up, it’s a free country. I’m just saying, she is a talented, beautiful, and still a young sista. She can do better and find someone better. She doesn’t need to waste all her energy on that loser. Thats something else us women have to learn, if a man leaves us lets let him go. She shouldn’t be bitter.
I know she’s hurting right now, but she shouldn’t let this stop her from moving on.
Yes @ Koko…
I don’t understand women that don’t understand their issue is with their significant other. No one that doesn’t already WANT to leave will leave. I’ve also yet to see Mashonda be the least bit realistic about Swizz’s part in the situation. She’s angry and should know better than to make it public even as a F list celeb.
And no, my view or support Alicia’s music changes from this.
nor support*
RUSERIOUS is NOT a beyonce fan, I repeat she’s not a fan of beyonce lol!
pretty funny joke to ruserious.
(about the numbers)
While you can not blame the other woman for all together breaking the relationship up, she does play an “evil” part if she knew he was married or with somebody else.
You are a shady female (I’m being nice when I say shady female) if you pursue a guy who you know is with somebody else. I know it may be exciting for a female to think she has something more over the other female by taking her man, but please believe if a man will leave his wife and kids then he could careless by leaving you when something “better” comes along.
AK seems cool & to pretty to be dating a married man. She’s playing herself down if this is true.
I wish Mashonda & her children well. I also wish AK well. She can learn a lot from this, she’s a beautiful woman with feeling too and I pray she gathers the courage to do the right thing far as this situation is concern.
Mashonda & AK situation kind of relate to a part in my 1st novel Beautiful.
Page 30 stats off with Unique reflecting, then Kesha speaks. It reads:
You should have heard the crowd gasp. Everyone at the conference could not believe what Kesha had said, and neither could I. “My goal was to get any man I wanted, even if he was with somebody else. I knew most of the men I was with went home to their wives, but at the end of the day, I still got what I wanted, which was their time, money, and good sex.”
Storyline fades to another character. Kesha continues on page 60.
“I was confusing sex with love.” Keash told the crowd, “I thought if a man had sex with me, that automatically meant he loved me.
I became tired of not only allowing myself to be used and taken advantage of, but for also for disrespecting other women and their families.
One day I realized the family structure is to be admired and protected, not attacked and destroyed. I do not know how I fooled myself into thinking a good man was going to settle down with me when I was causing so many other women pain.” …
I’ve been in Mashonda’s exact situation before and yes it hurts like hell. But she needs to let it go. The other woman, unless she was a close friend, owes you nothing. She did break vows, your hubby did. Stop blaming everyone else for your problems. There were more than likely problems before AK even entered into the picture. Part of maturity and being married is realizing and accepting that sometimes you contributed or at fault for some of the issues. It’s never usually one person’s an angel in the marriage and the other one isn’t. I think the tweet was very immature and she should have handled her business behind closed doors. Seriously.
Mashonda followed that tweet with another saying that she will do this everyday until she gets a response from Alicia. If she does that then we know it really is not about what she is saying it is and she is truly taking this out on Alicia and not Swizz. I asked this on another post but what if Swizz made it clear to Mashonda he was moving on and wanted a divorce but she didn’t accept what he said, does he then have the right to move on?
@KOKO yein my eyes
*yes
SHE SHOULD TAKE IT OUT ON BOTH OF THEM! Neither one of them should get cut slack. keep postin tweets cuz this is quite entertaining.
I am a fan of Ak as well, so me buying her album will depend on the content and if I enjoy it as it has been in the past.
I do find it disturbing however, that there are women on her basically telling Mashonda to get over it and move on. I am pretty sure, AS SHE STATED IN HER LETTER, that they had their issues already. She ALSO stated that she has reached out to AK several times AND asked her to fall back and let her handle things with her husband. she ALSO mentions that her post was in reference to a twitter post where AK was referencing her “NEW LOVE”
I will begin by saying I have always enjoyed AK’s music and if the content is enjoyable as it has been in the past then I will purchase her cd.
I do find it disturbing that there are women on here calling Mashonda weak, ignorant,etc. First and foremost, she is a woman scorned and so many of US have been. It’s so much easier to judge and throw stones when you are not the one walking in the shoes at this moment.
Also, when a man is MARRIED he is OFF THE MARKET and should in no way be pursued. What i find to be a slave mentality is Black women settling. When you have to pursue, entertain or deal with a married man no matter who pursued who, THAT IS SETTLING FOR LESS. Unless he is DIVORCED or legally separated and not at home, FALL BACK. Mashonda mentions several times that she attempted to reach out to AK and got no response. She ALSO mentions that her letter was in response to something AK posted, so why is everyone talking like she just decided to hop on TWITTER and post this message randomly. She ALSO mentions that she asked AK to FALL BACK and let her and SB work out their issues. Even if they didn’t work them out they are still MARRIED. She has every right to work on the relationship with SB for the sake of their child and maybe even hoped at some point to reconcile. WHICH ONE OF YOU WOULDN’T? Her actions to some may seem desperate but if that’s going to get AK’s attention, “MASHONDA, DO YOU”. Women are saying if it was the average woman would she have handled it that way, if the “AVERAGE WOMAN” was posting a twitter message i’m sure she would. But at the end of the day it’s not an average woman it’s AK and though she is human she is going to be scrutinized more closely because of who she is and because WE expect better of her. WE are always tearing each other down instead of uplifting and supporting one anther.
I do hope whatever the outcome everyone learns a genuine lesson from this whatever that maybe, but another lesson that will be learned is Karma is a son of a B.I.
I think some of you females are just hatin on Alicia Keyes because she’s talented and fine! Look,a man is going to do what a man is going to do. No matter what. None of you know what it was like being married to Mashonda. Check it out. If I’m married to Ladyshawn01 and we’ve been growing apart for some time now and Antoya comes along with her fine self and I “FEEL” like steppin to Antoya? I’m going to step! Plain and simple. I’m tired of the fighting and going no where with Ladyshawn01. We both knew it was coming sooner or later. Just not with Antoya! My point is you can’t say Antoya stole me away from Ladyshawn01, because I was the one that left. No one put a gun to my head and made me leave. Swizz knew what he wanted and didn’t want. Plain and simple….ps. Luv ya Ladyshawn01!!