Melanie Brown Talks To Essence…

ESSENCE.com: Is Phoenix privy to all the gossip?

MEL B: No, I tell her what she needs to know because there are certain things that your kids don’t need to know. They don’t need to know the ins and outs of breakups. I simply give her a heads-up: This is how it is and if you have a problem with that, then let’s talk about it.

ESSENCE.com: It’s truly sad to hear such things.

MEL B: My thing was to look at the bigger picture: for a Black guy in 2007 to even go there. As a Black man with “X” amount of kids, you already have a horrible stigma attached to you. Do yourself a favor and be classy.

ESSENCE.com: Have you ever run into Tracey Edmonds?

MEL B: No, never. And if I did I wouldn’t be horrible, I’d be polite. At the end of the day, she?s in that situation and I’m in a whole different situation.

ESSENCE.com: Did you call Eddie after watching the clip of the show?

MEL B: I did. I called him and we had a really brief conversation and it went something along the lines of, “I’ll call you back”—and he never did.

ESSENCE.com: So you haven’t heard from him since then?

MEL B: I called his assistant to let her know I was going into labor and the baby would probably be born within the next 24 hours. I asked her to please let him know and she responded, “He knows.” And still nothing; not even a hello to the baby, not even a nappy (diaper) or flowers bought, nothing.

ESSENCE.com: Was Eddie ever excited about your pregnancy?

MEL B: Oh this was a completely planned pregnancy. This wasn’t some random, “Oops I fell over and I’m pregnant.” I don’t live my life like that. I’m a responsible parent and have been a responsible single parent since I got divorced. This is the one thing that really annoys me. If I wanted to have a baby I would have had a baby a long time ago. I wouldn’t have waited eight years to have another one.

ESSENCE.com: Wow. So you two sat down and decided to have a child?

MEL B: Yes, of course. As soon as I had my IUD removed we proceeded to get pregnant. It happened quicker than we expected but it was perfect timing.

ESSENCE.com: What made it perfect timing?

MEL B: Because we planned to get married at Christmas, but then we had to change it once I got pregnant and we decided that after the baby was born we’d get married.

ESSENCE.com: Why do you think he went flip mode and publicly denied his flesh and blood?

MEL B: First of all, I’m a very independent woman so if you’re trying to control me, that’s not going to happen. In any relationship, it’s all about compromise. We were going to buy a house in Malibu and move in together. Somehow things got confused along the way because there were certain things that went on in his house with his lifestyle that I wasn’t prepared to be a part of. So that became a trippy discussion, which ended up where we both refused to budge.

ESSENCE.com: What is it about his lifestyle that you don’t like?

MEL B: I have a baby with this guy so I have to be somewhat respectful. I’ll simply say that there were lifestyle changes that he would have to make if we were going to live together and do it properly. I have a house where it?s about my kids and me. I don’t have people knocking on my door at 3 and 4 in the morning. I have a very simple life—I don’t have a ton of people looking after my kids—I’m a very regular person when it comes to that because I want my kids to have a normal life as much as possible.

ESSENCE.com: Hold up. I’m confused. Were you hoping to iron out those issues upon your return from London?

MEL B: Yes. When I left for London I thought I would return and we’d finish our discussion. Instead, I returned to, “It’s over and I’m with somebody else.” For me, that was confusing. I still haven’t received closure on that because before I left, we said, “This is what I need and this is what you need.” But I got nothing. And I’m not about to go knocking on somebody’s door like, “Hold on a minute, what happened? Why are you doing this to me?” I have too much pride and self-esteem to be treated that way. Obviously, what I said must have hurt him to make him react that way because the guy doesn’t speak about his relationships, period. I didn’t want to have a rocky pregnancy, so I moved to the beach with my kids and my dogs. I had an amazing pregnancy—my labor was so easy—and I gave birth to an amazing daughter.

Check back tomorrow for part 2.

5 Comments

  1. Interesting…

    I would have recommended that she marry Eddie FIRST before taking out that IUD :lol2:

    Anyone can tell you anything! Good to know she had her children in mind when confronting his “lifestyle” I wonder if he lived the same way with his previous wife and children 🙄

    Also, how good is it for her children to have another boyfriend so soon?

    She just had a baby and that break up was up was so humiliating. I would have taken more alone time to reflect on my situation – glad I’m not her

    But, I wish her and her girls the BEST :brownsista:

  2. This is why I just cannot imagine myself without my Man. Especially when it comes to our Angel face. I would not be able to bring another guy around her. WOW!

    but his lifestyle is DL everyone knows it. It’s sad. I think his Wife at the time knew it and left him for good! That’s something you just can’t change. Poor Tracey, I hope she is protecting herself sexually with him. Good luck to Meline. I think she will be just fine! 🙂

  3. I believe Melanie about her relationship with Eddie Murphy. They were dating, had their kids around one another, she trusted him and he told her he loved her. Things went down the way she says – she found out they were over when he went on TV dissing her.

    She wants to be in a loving relationship with someone who respects her and treats her children well and the guy she is with now seems to do just that.

    But I don’t see why she answered these questions for the interview now. They broke up last year so she’s been w/o him for well over 7/8 months. She’s had enough time to move on with her life so why discuss old news?

  4. Glad that she didn’t stay with him.

    As for her being with a man so soon, well she got with a man about 8 to 9 months after Eddie. It only looks bad because she dated him soon after giving birth, but the time between the two relationship isn’t that shocking. Some people move on faster than others.

    Now about the baby, how logical is it to plan to have a child before getting married?? Had it been by accident I would have understood, but although it was earlier than they expected it still seemed that they tried to have the child before getting married!!?? I really don’t understand people.

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