Vancouver woman Bethany Storro recently stirred up a sensation in the news when she attempted to use one of America’s long standing traditions of racism invested in deep rooted superiority complexes as her explanation of why her face had been covered in acid. That being that a Black woman was jealous of her and decided to display that emotion by viciously throwing a cup of acid on her face. Bethany Storro has now recanted her story saying that the acid attack was in fact self inflicted. The attack by a stereotypical, jealous, vengeful Black woman was indeed a lie.
Deep, long, hard sigh. Now that I have that out of the way I can fully explain my frustrations with Storro and other White women who think like her. First of all, I need for everyone to come into the year 2010. Not all Black women have low self esteem issues which fuels their jealousy of White women. To be honest, many of us do not find them to be a threat at all. That is not to say that we do not see that society places their pale skin, blonde hair and blue eyes on some sort of majestical plateau. It is to say that we do not buy it. We notice that society sees White women as the pinnacle and example of what beauty is. Sure we are annoyed by it and even hurt at times. However what keeps us from ever wanting to do physical harm to a White woman due to any feelings of supposed envy is the fact that WE ARE NOT IMPRESSED. We are no longer under the spell that society and America in general has placed on us in thinking that we are second best.
With that being said, not every woman of color strives to be like a White woman. Not every woman of color sees the White woman’s face as the status quo of beauty for which to be sought. I say the following with love and in complete honesty. There truly is no disdain in these words, just pure honesty. Some us could care less about what is happening with White women, how they feel towards Black women, and have no intentions on comparing ourselves to them in hopes of one day looking in the mirror and being considered the “fairest of them all”.
What I have seen recently is that Black women are finally coming into their own. We are embracing our curves, our full lips, thick hair, plump backside and all of the other cocoa shades of the rainbow that we come in. We no longer live under the deception that White women are the only race of women to be coveted. We see that women of other races watch us, mimic our natural beauty with surgeries, implants, tans, weaves, collagen, booty pads, fat transplants, injectibles, fillers, water bras, and any other tools of transformation that they can get their hands on. Some women will risk death to attain the beauty and features that we have naturally. This self actualization is what has gotten us pass the point of being jealous of another woman because of her supposed superior physical beauty. Especially a White woman’s standards of beauty.
So when I heard the story in the news about a Black women throwing acid on another woman’s face because she was jealous of her, and please excuse my frankness, I knew it was bullsh*t. I knew that there was no way that a Black woman would be that cruel to a woman of another race over something as superficial as her feeling as though the White woman was more attractive than her. We as Black women are simply not in that place mentally any longer. We finally get it. Now society and America has to as well. Black women be proud. It took us years of pain, tears, self doubt, frustrations, inner turmoil, and self loathing to get to this place. But we are here. Embrace it.