Baby Mama Bonding

CoCo T on Baby Mama Bonding

Nivea back in 2001

When Nivea first hit the music scene back in the early 2000’s I wasn’t really a fan because her music (Laundromat, Don’t Mess With The Radio) always seemed as if it were missing something. She took a break, then came back with songs like Okay (written by The-Dream) and 25 Reasons, which I loved! Then she disappeared again. In 2007, Def Jam music producer and artist Terius ‘The-Dream’ Nash popped up and I fell in love with his music. Then I found out that he was married to Nivea. I said, “HOLD UP! Isn’t Nivea with Lil’ Wayne?” NO! Nivea & Lil’ Wayne used to date, but she’s now with and married to, and has babies with The-Dream. Okayyy.

Nivea while she and The Dream were married. Career = hott!

Fast forward to late 2009: [Nivea is now divorced from The-Dream, whom she has 3 children with (11 months apart; second set are twins). And, she along with popular black actress Lauren London (who also dated Lil’ Wayne years back) are now getting ready to birth Lil’ Wayne’s 3rd and 4th child. Is it me, or is something wrong with this picture? Of course something’s wrong here! Especially since Toya, Lil’ Wayne’s ex-wife and mother of his first born, has her own show on BET and pretty much tells us that she is indeed still in love with Dwayne ‘Lil’ Wayne’ Carter.]

In this video, Nivea reaveals that The-Dream was the one who filed for divorce, that she’s been “poppin’ them babies out” for the past few years, and tells Lil’ Wayne “I love you too!”

I was forced to write this post after seeing the video to Nivea’s new song Love Hurts. Aside from the video and styling looking extremely low budget, Lil’ Wayne played a role in this video similar to his own life with the songstress. This just makes me think these two are even crazier than I thought. Why are you painting a picture for us?…of how things went with you two, and about how much love hurts and now he’s leaving you?…Yaddi yaddi yah! You just gave birth to his baby, and your FOURTH child! Now you’re singing about it?! Girl, sit down.

I just don’t understand. It’s obvious that Lil’ Wayne is feeding these women the same pills Diddy has been grooming his stable-women on since the beginning of Justin (Diddy’s first born; with Misa Hilton). I say this because all Lil’ Wayne’s babies mothers hang out with one another, and never say anything bad about Wayne as if he’s some sort of God! Like wtf! Excuse me?! I have NEVER heard of this type of mess in the black community. Usually you’d here that each woman is after the other one, trying to burn her house down, etc, etc. But I guess we’ve figured it out. What’s the secret to keeping your babies mothers happy? — MONEY! And, plenty of it!

Toya said [In a Sister2Sister Magazine interview last June] that she does not allow any women Lil’ Wayne “talks” to, besides Nivea, around their daughter. But, in November, Toya & Lil’ Wayne held a sleep-over birthday party for their 11yr old daughter Reginae. Wayne’s Asian baby mama, Sarah (as she’s known on the ‘net) was invited…with she and Wayne’s son. WEIRD. I guess Toya reconsidered. Then for Christmas, Wayne invited all his children and their moms including Lauren London and Nivea to his mansion for the big holiday. Lil’ Wayne gave gifts (money and diamonds, apparently) to all the moms. WEIRD AGAIN. I guess neither of these women have true feelings for this man. Either that, or they have no respect for themselves. I mean really? I just had your baby less than two months ago, and I’ve already gotten over the pain of knowing that some other chick did too, just so I can come get my gift and make you happy?! — Like who the hell is Lil’ Wayne that they even care to keep him happy?! These women are nuts!

But, whatever. I know this is not my business so they can do what they feel. I’m just hoping this isn’t the start of all black women, and women in general feeling it is okay to live a life like this. I believe if a man loves you, he won’t ask, nor expect you to share! Now that is food for thought.

38 Comments

  1. i agree completely. its got to be the money that is keeping their mouths shut about this fool. I still can’t believe that he was able to impregnate this ladies all so close together. he must have some kryptonic penis in order to get away with this type of stuff cuz i don’t see any other reason for it. Even that is the case he wouldn’t be able to make fool out of me like he’s done all these ladies

  2. Smh….let us all bow our heads and pray…Cause only the good Lord can sort thru this hot mess

  3. These dayz most of the love around the world are based on material things.eg,an orge with money marrying a princess,an angel without money marrying a gheto girl.its disgusting

  4. Lawd, Nivea done had all them babies and done gone crazy just like Lauryn Hill.

  5. I think it’s awful that these women think that just because you love this man and you’re sleeping with him means you have to become pregnant. All of that body fluid being exchanged, they better be glad all he gave them was a baby. As a mother, this makes me sad. ALL CHILDREN NEED AND WANT BOTH PARENTS NATURALLY!!! NO WAY AROUND THAT!!!

  6. This my theory: L’il Wayne is king of the village and all his “baby mamas” are his wives. Of course, they would see the need to hang out because not a single one is special enough to be the one and only. If he is taking care of all of them, then they are ALL his wives. No suprise there!

  7. If this is their arrangement, then thats their choice. Who are we to judge? Obviously, he takes care of his children and why are we (outside observants) complaining if the mothers have decided to have positive relationships with each other because their children are SIBLINGS. Personally, I could care less about the relationship decisions of consensual adults but I respect that the mother’s have not allowed their “emotions” to keep them engaged in constant bickering over the father.

    What do you want – the ladies to remain angry and mad and have public arguments and disagreements so they can truly appear weak or act as mature mothers and allow their siblings to have familial relationships? Would it make you feel that they’re stronger if they demeaned Lil Wayne and the other mothers? Please reassess your logic sisters! These MOTHERS should be COMMENDED, NOT CONDEMNED!

  8. I agree with SepiaStar, in part. It’s their business…certainly not the way I’d operate, Lord willin’ were I to be caught up with a dude this way…but this also is a different world for them. I mean, take away the money and the fame, would things be the same if Lil’ Wayne were just some blue collar bloke working at a factory? I think things might be different…but at any rate, let them do what they do. Hopefully the kids are taken care of, nurtured, etc.

  9. It really is their business to live their lives as they all please. If Lil Wayne want’s to collect women have a bunch of babies and the women are all okay with it then so what. Personally, I couldn’t and wouldn’t allow anyone to do it to me but then that is me. If they want to lives their lives like the hot mess they are then go ahead and do you…all of you.

  10. @Kanyade, you pose a good question: “…would things be the same if Lil’ Wayne were just some blue collar bloke working at a factory?”

    I think the answer is yes.
    If these broads(Diddy’s females too) are foolish enough to put up w/ this arrangement just because of the fame & money, they’d be stupid and accept this ordeal as regular, broke citizens.

    I think it’s good if they all get along and allow the kids to see each other though because it makes no sense to be mad at the children or other woman. Nor should they be mad at Wayne after some time has passed because they can’t blame no one but themselves.

    I dunno, I hate talking about ppl’s situation but *shrug* I just pray that they all grow and learn from their mistakes/blessings and become close/closer to God.

  11. @ LADY I think you are right its a shame too because Nivea is a talented vocalist.

  12. Everybody talking about what the mothers and Lil’ Wayne want and whatever makes them happy. Who speaks for these children who will not get the benefit of having their father to raise them on a daily basis. It’s selfish to think that just because every holiday he reaches into his pocket, that all is well. I can’t imagine what kind of woman I would be if I didn’t have my daddy’s example of the man he is and if he didn’t put the expectations on me that he did…every day of the week! To see exactly how practical relationships work. It is impossible for Wayne to be a father in four different households and the people who make excuses for these women (who give their uteri to men before they’re aware what it is they’re “signing up” for) are part of the problem. What kind of woman lies down with a man she’s JUST DATING and has a baby. This shit right here make me angry. Some women don’t deserve to have a uterus because they just give it to anyone and do anything with it. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them, much less, have a baby with them.

  13. That’s just gross and sad. All these kids are being born but they truly don’t have a FATHER. Not a sperm donor with monetary benefits but an actual father. Pitiful

  14. Lauren & Nivea are both stupid & nasty! All of these dumb chicks sleeping behind each other, plus Lil Wayne’s other groupies.

  15. I think Nivea and Lauren’s hug looks one sided. Granted these women don’t have to act ignorant and hate one another but this is a bit put on. At one point they were sharing penis. That is sick!!! The whole situation is embarrasing! I would be cordial with the other chick but hugged up taking pics is a whole different thing. It just makes both of them look dumber than they already are.

    As far as his christmas plans were. I would have arranged to have his child over but me too, and all his other baby mothers like this is one big happy family. No! No! No! This can also be confusing to the children. “You’re my brother and that’s my brother and you two are the same age, and our mother’s are ??? to out father?? friends??” Can you imagine?

  16. I want to thank these ppl for being awesome role models for our young women & men, making Afro-Americans look good in the eyes of the world…

    …not!

  17. Brownsista Amen! Not one to judge but can’t women has a liitle bit of dignity! Sale yourself respect for money…at the end of the day they look like a bunch of fools!!!! To each is own!

  18. Yeah I think it’s shame, but how is this any different from what Black men in Africa are doing?
    Same crap, just different part of the world.

  19. I am just amazed that none of these women even thought about practicing safe sex. But I guess that is too much like right when you are dealing with a celebrity. Crazy.

  20. Now i don’t agree with Wayne havin all those kids but all that matters right now is that these kids are bein takin care of! Would you rather the baby mother’s didn’t get along and prevented the kids from seeing each other? We all know how that story ends! All i’m sayin is that it seems as if everyone is puttin negative feelings aside because it isn’t about them its about their kids!

  21. It isn’t our business, but it’s a blog & what do we do on blogs… give our OPINIONS.

    There is a HUGE difference between being civil w/ the other mothers for the sake of the siblings & being civil w/ the other mothers b/c we are ALL still getting it in w/ the ONE man we have all procreated with. There is a HUGE difference between being civil w/ the father for the sake of the child & being civil w/ the father b/c u STILL want to be w/ him, even tho he has revealed that he has many besides you, who he STILL sees & has relations with. You cannot tell me that these ladies are NOT sleeping or being affectionate w/ him in some way( well not now b/c he’s locked up). I think the problem most ppl have is that these women allow these men, like Wayne to cheat on them in plain sight & probably will STILL defend him to the death while knowing ALL of this. The fact that they all delieverd the babies very close together shows he was dipping in quite frequently w/ the ladies all @ the same time, which is not good on so many other levels( can we say HIV/STDS). The question of would this still be going down if Wayne was the avg Joe, the answer would be NO. Money talks louder than it should @ times. I highly doubt that this will become a trend for most women, the majority of us see our self worth more than to put up w/ this kind of foolishness( I pray).

  22. I totally disagree with most of what you said. First off, NOT EVERY BLACK WOMAN NEED TO BE BURNING DOWN ANYBODY HOUSE. As a Black community, I totally agree that everyone needs to get along. Is what he doing right? NO. The ladies are all young and they are learning how to deal with life as best as possible. Toya is his ex-wife. Her and Nivea know each other from way back. So they already had a bond. I dont know about this Sarah chick but she isnt ghetto to have a baby with Wayne. Obviously, he is telling these young ladies things and they believe. Anyone would be hurt over any pregnancy other than theirs. They just found a way to cope. I felt like Nivea video was just a way to show that she is human. Things hurt especially love. It’s unfortunate that everyone is so judgemental. Im with them. Keep peace as long as you are not affected. From what I hear, the only one dating him is Nivea. Lauren is doing her own thing. Sara is doing her own thing. Toya got her own thing. So whats the fuss?

  23. @SephiaStar I agree with you. I am totally disgusted that people think this shyt only happens in the black community. It doesnt. What about all these white men with multiple kids? Rich? I guess they arent “ghetto” enough to mention. Let them ladies get along. Them kids need their dad and each other. HIV/STD is real. Bad enough WE all know. Just let them sort out that relationship on their own

  24. I wish a lot of you would volunteer at a youth center for girls, women prison, abuse women and teenagers shelter. Then you would never be in agreement of these type of choices were women allow men to pollute thier bodies and mind. Lie, Manipulate, build false hope, so many of you have fallen for that and have not even experience hardships! Its time our sisters take a stand and break the cycles of disrespect. It’s so many young women out here that are really lost and this is a prime example of it. No its not anyone business but when we are women of color it becomes our business to help motivate, inspire, educate, lift, build and lead our sistas to better heights. Its to many mega million churches, sororities, mentor programs for our sisters to look at this and want to lead by this example. In the scripture Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. God please help our sisters including me I am not obselete and give me the strength to keep giving back to help our sisters be better in every aspect of thier precious lives. God is awesome!

  25. Sepiastar, that was nicely put… I agree with what u said to the fullest! Women are always bickering back & forth over men (that are still gonna do whatever they please anyway) & making themselves look silly. It’s about time the drama stops. Even if it is only for the sake of the children! I applaud each of them 4 handling THEIR SITUATION!
    (Sepiastar 3/10/10 @ 9:44 am)
    If this is their arrangement, then thats their choice. Who are we to judge? Obviously, he takes care of his children and why are we (outside observants) complaining if the mothers have decided to have positive relationships with each other because their children are SIBLINGS. Personally, I could care less about the relationship decisions of consensual adults but I respect that the mother’s have not allowed their “emotions” to keep them engaged in constant bickering over the father.

    What do you want – the ladies to remain angry and mad and have public arguments and disagreements so they can truly appear weak or act as mature mothers and allow their siblings to have familial relationships? Would it make you feel that they’re stronger if they demeaned Lil Wayne and the other mothers? Please reassess your logic sisters! These MOTHERS should be COMMENDED, NOT CONDEMNED!

  26. Blame it on the rain… you could not have said it better… I highly doubt that this will become a trend for most women, the majority of us see our self worth more than to put up w/ this kind of foolishness( I pray).

  27. This is just crazy to me. But I think it is good the get along??? I Gues???? I just dont know what to think???

  28. I’ve noticed in the comments that people are trying to point the finger at other races. This site is called brown sista. hinting the article is about black celebs. so this is about the black community only as of now. Yes many cultures have their problems adn faults and its up to us to own up to whats been done. Yes theres baby mama drama in EVERY ethnicity. We need to just own up to it and either help or shut up. stop pointing the finger. my view on this matter is that its disgusting and the girls are nasty. Im not blaming wayne cuz they all KNEW/KNOW all of this but dont care and yea this happens in regular life. Shame

  29. Situations like these happen every day… it’s not as uncommon as people think. Y’all keep sayin how they should have both parents… umm they do… he’s a superstar so his situation is a lil different. He doesn’t work a 9 to 5 and then come home. As far as his baby mother situations, he takes good care of his kids and that’s all that matters. End of story. I’m glad they all get along. Who wants to see black women arguing over a man, it’s petty and childish. Kudos to them.

  30. Goldiggers are not looking for love. They are looking for a luxury retirement plan. Its not about Lil Wayne as much as it is about these greedy materialistic self serving women who are cashing in using their body. Its a disgrace and an outrage but for the sake of the kids, them getting along makes for a nice life of brotherly/sisterly love for the kids. I wonder how this will all affect Reginae’s look at relationship and love. Will she be a rich mans baby mama to keep up appearances of a certain lifestyle? SMDH! When Lil Wayne goes broke…

  31. They can do better and get ur own money..Stop having babies from a nicca just for his status or money! Yes we agree its their business! We all just stating our opinions and it don’t mean a hill of beans! LOL My brother is in the same both as Wayne..4 baby mamas and 2 kids are the same age! And he aint go no money,just well known round the hood..SMDH To each its own!

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