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When Nivea first hit the music scene back in the early 2000’s I wasn’t really a fan because her music (Laundromat, Don’t Mess With The Radio) always seemed as if it were missing something. She took a break, then came back with songs like Okay (written by The-Dream) and 25 Reasons, which I loved! Then she disappeared again. In 2007, Def Jam music producer and artist Terius ‘The-Dream’ Nash popped up and I fell in love with his music. Then I found out that he was married to Nivea. I said, “HOLD UP! Isn’t Nivea with Lil’ Wayne?” NO! Nivea & Lil’ Wayne used to date, but she’s now with and married to, and has babies with The-Dream. Okayyy.

Fast forward to late 2009: [Nivea is now divorced from The-Dream, whom she has 3 children with (11 months apart; second set are twins). And, she along with popular black actress Lauren London (who also dated Lil' Wayne years back) are now getting ready to birth Lil' Wayne's 3rd and 4th child. Is it me, or is something wrong with this picture? Of course something's wrong here! Especially since Toya, Lil' Wayne's ex-wife and mother of his first born, has her own show on BET and pretty much tells us that she is indeed still in love with Dwayne 'Lil' Wayne' Carter.]

In this video, Nivea reaveals that The-Dream was the one who filed for divorce, that she’s been “poppin’ them babies out” for the past few years, and tells Lil’ Wayne “I love you too!”

I was forced to write this post after seeing the video to Nivea’s new song Love Hurts. Aside from the video and styling looking extremely low budget, Lil’ Wayne played a role in this video similar to his own life with the songstress. This just makes me think these two are even crazier than I thought. Why are you painting a picture for us?…of how things went with you two, and about how much love hurts and now he’s leaving you?…Yaddi yaddi yah! You just gave birth to his baby, and your FOURTH child! Now you’re singing about it?! Girl, sit down.

I just don’t understand. It’s obvious that Lil’ Wayne is feeding these women the same pills Diddy has been grooming his stable-women on since the beginning of Justin (Diddy’s first born; with Misa Hilton). I say this because all Lil’ Wayne’s babies mothers hang out with one another, and never say anything bad about Wayne as if he’s some sort of God! Like wtf! Excuse me?! I have NEVER heard of this type of mess in the black community. Usually you’d here that each woman is after the other one, trying to burn her house down, etc, etc. But I guess we’ve figured it out. What’s the secret to keeping your babies mothers happy? — MONEY! And, plenty of it!

Toya said [In a Sister2Sister Magazine interview last June] that she does not allow any women Lil’ Wayne “talks” to, besides Nivea, around their daughter. But, in November, Toya & Lil’ Wayne held a sleep-over birthday party for their 11yr old daughter Reginae. Wayne’s Asian baby mama, Sarah (as she’s known on the ‘net) was invited…with she and Wayne’s son. WEIRD. I guess Toya reconsidered. Then for Christmas, Wayne invited all his children and their moms including Lauren London and Nivea to his mansion for the big holiday. Lil’ Wayne gave gifts (money and diamonds, apparently) to all the moms. WEIRD AGAIN. I guess neither of these women have true feelings for this man. Either that, or they have no respect for themselves. I mean really? I just had your baby less than two months ago, and I’ve already gotten over the pain of knowing that some other chick did too, just so I can come get my gift and make you happy?! — Like who the hell is Lil’ Wayne that they even care to keep him happy?! These women are nuts!

But, whatever. I know this is not my business so they can do what they feel. I’m just hoping this isn’t the start of all black women, and women in general feeling it is okay to live a life like this. I believe if a man loves you, he won’t ask, nor expect you to share! Now that is food for thought.

Shaunie O’Neal, wife of Shaquille O’Neal, is prepping for the debut of her new reality series “Basketball Wives.” The budding TV star recently sat down for an exclusive interview with Essence Magazine and finally sets the record straight on what really brought about the demise of her marriage. Shaunie held very little back during the interview and squarely places the blame for the failed marriage on the shoulders of Shaq and Miami groupies, whom she says are the most “aggressive” she has even seen.

Excerpts below…

Shaunie on when things started to go bad in her marriage: [Shaq was traded to the Miami Heat] “Miami is a great city. It just wasn’t a great city for our marriage. I know they say L.A. has its groupies, but Miami has a different mentality. Even going to the games, the whole environment is so different. Girls are practically sitting in their bra and panties in the arena. When you’re trying to keep your husband, that’s a lot to take. It was a whole new lifestyle I wasn’t ready for. Apparently we didn’t have a strong enough foundation for Shaq to withstand that type of temptation.”

Shaunie on finally confronting Shaq about the infidelity rumors: “He would deny it sometimes, and other times he would ask, ‘You got pictures? Video? If not, don’t come at me because you have no proof.’ “He’d say, ‘Okay, you’re mad. Now what? You’re not going anywhere.’

Shaunie on being accused of cheating on Shaq with her personal trainer: “I worked out at home- with my trainer, my sister, her husband and my girlfriend. I was a good girl. I wouldn’t even entertain a man flirting with me. I was that conservative. But when those rumors came out, I felt I was so small and Shaq was so big that it didn’t matter what I said; nobody was going to believe me. All I was thinking was, How could this happen to me? I had no idea how I was going to pick up the pieces. I was just done.”

Shaunie on the state of her relationship with Shaq today: “We are becoming friends, and it’s nice because it’s something we really lacked in our marriage. I enjoy being able to talk openly to him, and I think we both learned a lot from each other during this time.”

Excerpts and scans by Sista.

Kelis has unveiled, via her official Facebook page, a promo shot from her upcoming “Flesh Tone” album. The photo was taken by British photographer Rankin and showcases the singer sporting a glow in the dark look very similar to this one. Kelis’ new album is expected to be released on May 4th and “Acapella,” it’s first single, has already gone #1 on Billboard’s dance chart.

Updated with a few more shots…

The long awaited video for Teairra Mari’s “Sponsor” single has finally arrived. Featuring Gucci Mane and appearances by Soulja Boy and Vanessa Simmons, the video finds Teairra doing what young female singers do today- staring seductively into the camera and hoping this will make us go out and buy their record. I admit Teairra is lovely to look and can definitely sing- however, this is just not enough in today’s over-saturated pop and r n’ b field. “Sponsor” is a catchy song and is worthy of air time- the video however it not. It is cliché and worst of all it is boring. Videos like this is the reason the singer’s album has been delayed well over a year now and still has no official release date.

Sorry Teairra- we like you but not this- or any of your videos.

Life is a journey that leads us down various paths. And no one better can attest to that fact than R&B star Monica. Monica will be the first to tell you that her path in life has led her to some real turmoil and some real life pain. Monica will also be the first to tell you that through it all, she’s still standing.

Classy, beautiful, and talented are just a few words used to describe this sista who has touched so many lives with her music. Never the one to shy away from sharing her real life experiences in the hopes of helping others, Monica’s genuine appeal has never gone unnoticed and it’s easy to understand why the girl from “ATL” has amassed a legion of die-hard fans that truly love and support her.

Monica has indeed come a long way since the release of her 1995 debut album “Miss Thang.” With well over a decade in the music business under her belt, Monica continues to deliver great music that separates her from the rest.

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