I can’t get enough of Mrs. Obama. She looks glamourous while gracing the November issue of Glamour Magazine. If you ever wondered how she and President Obama have such a solid and strong foundation in their marriage well it’s no need to wonder anymore. Mrs. Obama gives some great dating advice in this issue we all can use. Here’s an excerpt, “Cute’s good, but cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s who are you as a person. Don’t look at the bank book or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. When you’re dating a man you should always feel good. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who dosen’t make you completely happy and feel whole.” Be sure to pick up this edition of Glamour. 
A who’s who of Hollywood stars, as well a few who’s that, all showed up for the New York and Los Angeles premieres of Michael Jackson’s “This Is It” film. Tracking estimates for the new film vary widely but early predictions have the movie taking in anywhere from 36 million to 62 million in the first five days of release. Whether the film will open at #1 is obviously still up in the air. However, the soundtrack to the album will definitely debut at the top of the album chart next week. Early projections suggest the “This Is It” soundtrack will sell between 300,000 and 350,000.
Jackson already owns the year’s best-selling album with his 2004 hits package “Number Ones” — 2 million and counting. Additionally, his 1983 blockbuster “Thriller” is the year’s 11th best-seller (1.1 million) and 2005’s “The Essential Michael Jackson” is the 15th biggest (986,000).
“Thriller” marked his first No. 1. The follow-ups, “Bad,” “Dangerous,” “HIStory” and “Invincible,” also hit the top.
The “This Is It” album contains 14 studio recordings of Jackson’s hits like “Billie Jean” and “Beat It” and two versions of the from-the-vaults title track, which plays over the film’s end credits. It also includes three demo recordings and a spoken word poem titled “Planet Earth.”
The “L” word. Exactly how important is it for your partner to say that they love you? Also, how often should one expect it to hear it? When we embark on our dating experience we are not given a handbook. Sure, some might be lucky enough to have a few individuals around to assist them along the way with some words of wisdom but the final decision rests on the individual. Personally, when I become serious with a guy and we have reached the point where love is a part of the relationship I like to hear it not only because it makes my little heart feel good but also because this is a crazy world. People leave out to go to work and never come home. I at least want you to know how I felt about you and you I with no doubts. However, I have been told that I was loved and never actually felt it through the persons actions. Which brings me to the concept that love is not only a four letter word but an action.
With that being said, is it essential when dating someone for an extended period of time that they tell you they love you? What if your partner is afraid to say it first? Some feel as though they loose a sense of control and are submitting to another person when they say those words. Some cannot handle being that emotionally open. I know because I use to be one of those people.
Ladies, do you put a time limit on when you should hear it? If a person never says it, do you stay with them? I have a friend who dated her man for over a year and he never once said the four letter word to her. She would call me upset and hurt not understanding. I asked her “does she think he loved her?” She would say “yes”. I said “why?” She responded “because he shows me. He is always there when I need him and seems devoted to me.” I replied with “maybe he feels he is showing you his love. Isn’t that enough?” She paused for a moment and replied with an honest “No. I need to hear him say it.” I had to agree with her. If I was in her position, I would want to hear it as well. It simply is not enough to guess or assume how a person is feeling these days. Plus, the actions that she considers love could just be standard boyfriend actions for him.
In the same aspect, some people take love to an extreme a’ la’ Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odum and are in love after dating two weeks and married after a month. I don’t want to judge but eff it, that type of love doesn’t seem sincere to me (guess I am judging, oh well). How can you love me when you do not know me? The first few months of dating everyone is on their best behavior. It is only after year or so that people start to let it all hang out even in small doses. What about when I am on my cycle and my moods are less than desirable and I want to lay around the house in my duck pajamas and scarf eating Almond Joys? Will you love me then? Or when I am on the toilet and I am having a “Al Bundy” moment and am in need of a roll of toilet paper? Will you love me enough to bring me one? Sure it sounds brash but I am trying to prove a point.
Love unlike so many of the other four letter words should not be taken lightly. With that being said, if you do love someone then there should be nothing stopping you from showing it and saying it. They compliment each other. Truth be told expressing it with words is just as important as expressing it with actions. Without those three words, how can a person be certain?
Written By: LJ Knight
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Actress Taraji P. Henson attended the 13th Annual Hollywood Awards Gala at the Beverly Hills Hilton in California. She wore a strapless dress created by designer,Rachel Roy. I usually love Henson’s look she always looks ultrafab. Unfortunately this time i’m not so fond of it. Her makeup is horrible. The thick layer of white powder under her eyes is killing me. It looks halloweenish. As always I need your help. Did she look Glam or Slam?
Brownsistas such as Fantasia, Jasmine Guy, Tasha Smith, and Monica attended the 22nd Annual Thurgood Marshall Scholarship and College Fund Gala. The anniversary dinner was held at the NY Hotel and Towers, last night. I was surprised to see Actress Jasmine Guy and it’s sad to say she looks as if she’s been through some rough times. Sheree Whitfield was also in attendance in an interesting dress. Oh and singer Fantasia well let’s just say i’ll let you be the judge. Nevertheless I still have to give them all credit for taking time out to support a beneficial cause.
Actress, singer and new mommy, Tisha Campbell-Martin, recently did a guest stint on Lifetime’s “Rita Rocks”, where she, along with series regular Nicole Sullivan (Mad TV), performed an amazing version of Beyonce’s hit single “If I Were A Boy.” As many of you may know already, Tisha can sing her behind off and before joining the cast of Martin back in the mid 90s, was probably best known for her roles in the hit movies “Little Shop of Horrors” and “School Daze.” Tisha sang in both of those movies and even recorded an album (Tisha) back in 1993 that produced the modest hits “Love Me Down” and “Push.”
According to Universal Music Group, Beyonce will repay Lady Gaga’s guest appearance in her upcoming Video Phone video (and possible remix single as well) by appearing on an upcoming single from Lady Gaga’s “The Fame Monster” album. The track, entitled Telephone, was reportedly produced by Rodney “Darkchild” Jerkins and will be the second single from the singer’s album.
No doubt Beyonce will again return the favor and appear in Gaga’s Telephone video as well.
I guess the Sasha Fierce era will continue on well into 2010.
Newly married actress Essence Atkins has landed the lead female role opposite “Everybody Hates Chris” actor, Terry Crews, in the upcoming TBS comedy “Are We There Yet.” The small screen version of the 2005 film that starred Nia Long and Ice Cube, centers around the newly married couple of Nick Persons and Suzanne Kingston, who move into a new home with Suzanne’s two rambunctious children. Filming for the show has already started and will reportedly air in early 2010 after TBS’ Tyler Perry comedy “House of Payne.”
Last Week I recieved the latest issue of seventeen magazine in the mail. Flipping through the pages I saw an article entitled the Body Peace Project, I thought was very inspirational. Seventeen Magazine asked some of your favorite brownsistas what body and self image issues they struggled with growing up and how they overcame it. Their responses were very interesting.
Platinum- Selling R&B artist Ciara discussed with seventeen about her insecurities with her masculine legs. “I was very insecure about my legs I thought they were too muscular, too strong, I wasn’t comfortable with them, now I love my legs they are one of my favorite body parts, I’ve learned to love them they won’t change, I’ve learned to except that.”
American Idol winner Jordin Sparks discussed her weight. “When I was younger I wasn’t part of the group that guys thought were cute, I was a lot taller, bigger and thicker than other girls, I was always wishing, Why can’t I be like them? The first time I got over that was when I did a modeling shoot for plus size girls, I realized that I could wear cute clothes that fit my body, I love my curves. It’s a daily struggle to wake up and be like. You know what? I’m okay with myself today. But if we all looked the same, everything would be so boring.”
Former Destiny’s Child member Kelly Rowland also discussed her weight. “I was uncomfortable in my own body, one of my body insecurities was being really really skinny. I remember all the guys wanted curvy girls and I wasn’t that. Beyonce’s mama Tina helped me get passed that, she would pull me to the side and say “girl you better love your body”, and now I do.”
R&B Soulstress Solange also discussed her previous weight issues. “There’s a lot of focus in the media on weight, I remember growing up being a double zero. Actually I was a double zero until just recently, I was picked and teased on while growing up. You have to learn to embrace yourself as you are.”
Whether you realize it or not we all have flaws, imperfections, and insecurities. It is our imperfections that make us beautifal inside and out. Nobody’s perfect we have to start embracing and appreciating ourselves. Stop complaining, life is too short. Every morning remind yourself no matter what I’m beautiful. Visit Seventeen.com/breakthrough for more celebs Body Peace Breakthroughs.