TMZ reports, Kelis is asking the judge to order Nas to pay spousal support, child support, all pregnancy-related expenses, and one-half of all medical expenses after the child is born. She also wants $3,500 for the baby nurse after the child’s birth, and $20,000 for strollers, cribs and other baby supplies. Kelis says she’s entitled to maintain the lifestyle to which she became accustomed during their marriage — they have five homes, fly first class, go to fancy restaurants, and on and on. Most interesting — “There were many expensive pieces [of jewelry] such as a princess-cut diamond tennis bracelet that was recently appraised for $190,000. My engagement ring is an approximately nine-carat cushion-cut diamond solitaire. I have numerous watches…such as Cartier, Rolex, Frank Muller and Chopard“My survival is based on [Nas'] will at this time. If he does not want to pay for an expense, it does not get paid.”
“If he does not pay for an expense, it does not get paid.” Really? I hope she is not being literal. If so, I have some deep concerns for her. She has placed herself in a risky position. I tend to wonder if through her demands is she punishing him for some elicit crime. Hmm. Also, I want to say that in no way am I denouncing love and the idea of living happily ever after with a man. It does still happen and when it does it can be beautiful. I also have no problems with a man assisting a woman financially or the two of you working as a team financially. I also understand the point of spousal support in some cases. However, I do not feel that any woman should create an environment for herself where she is placing her sole dependence on a man. As if without him she would completely crumble financially and be unable to care for herself. There should never be a time where if he decides he wants to leave you and have nothing else to do with you that you are penniless. Your pure survival should never be 100 percent in the hands of someone else. I feel that that is the role that Kelis is trying to portray. Now the depth to the reality of this, only her and Nas truly know, but either way, the thought of being in that position frightens me. To know that one person, male or female could decide that they do not want to have anything else to do with me and I would be shit out of luck financially as my mother would say.
Lastly, one could say that she is accustomed to a certain lifestyle. I disagree. They have only been married for about 4 years. She is not that damn accustomed. Now, for the people like Denzel Washington who have been married to their wives for 20 some odd years, yeah she is accustomed to a certain lifestyle. She also put in work. So, the idea of life long spousal support might be more acceptable.
Damn Shame
I also, do not have a problem with my husband having his own account outside of the joint one as long as the household is cared for first and foremost by us both.This should not be something that is kept a secret from the spouse. No functioning adult, and by functioning I mean not mentally or physically handicap should put that much dependence on another individual. Men or woman. Now, some may think that this is taking the faith in your marriage away. I disagree, I think it is securing one’s future. A job that is technically your own. Survival Skills ladies.
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I read about this elsewhere and it kinda saddens me because it leads me to believe that she MIGHT BE BROKE.
And to that I’m like, huh? HOW?
I don’t understand celebrity…I don’t get how it just changes you, takes away common sense so that you can’t think a year ahead and make sure you’ve put money in the bank for those times your records or ticket sales aren’t selling. But maybe I protest too much; maybe she’s just asking for dough to ask for it……
And I really like Kelis. As a matter of fact am fiending right now for a new release. She posted on her Twitter that her album’s almost done so I guess she’ll be in full force after the wee one is born. I read also that Carmen, Nas’s first baby-mother, had to fight tooth and nail to get an increase in child support for their daughter….which she didn’t receive. I can remember Kelis talking about it in an interview, about all the things she and Nas had together, houses, cars, etc. and also how they were working through this issue with Carmen and support for the daughter.
Maybe she’s striking now instead of later, but to get back to the point, OP, I agree with you. Why expect another to take care of you forever? Just because he’s “God’s Son” doesn’t mean you have to be reliant upon his money? This goes against her whole image, or what I glean from it given her four studio releases. She seems independent…
I don’t know… Good luck to her and Nas in getting through what looks to be a messy divorce; messy, messy, messy, messy! :???:
That is why that marriage liscense is not joke. If he was the main bread winner and provided for everything she will get a lot of what she is asking for. She didn’t play house she became the wife and those are the laws. And he shouldn’t want his child to live any differently than he does.
I absolutely do not believe in relying on your guy to take care of you and vice versa. I believe couples should definitely have their finances together as both a couple and individually. Have your own money! To sit and faithfully hope that your spouse will keep you fed and kept can’t be a good feeling. I feel its way too much power to give to another person. In that, you are absolutely right. It’s sad really.
Now, Kelis is perfectly capable of taking care of herself and being stable financially. Her problem seems to be lifestyle choices. You can’t eat diamonds and babies don’t need 20 grand worth of bottles and diapers. Get over it. Especially with today’s economy. That aside Nas still needs to try to keep things going well for his kid and his ex-wife. It’s called being responsible. He shouldn’t have to support Kelis forever, but let her get on her feet (and she needs to get moving soon) before you pull out like you never knew her.
“However, I do not feel that any woman should create an environment for herself where she is placing her sole dependence on a man. As if without him she would completely crumble financially and be unable to care for herself. There should never be a time where if he decides he wants to leave you and have nothing else to do with you that you are penniless. Your pure survival should never be 100 percent in the hands of someone else. I feel that that is the role that Kelis is trying to portray.”
YYYYEEESSSS arrggghh this almost makes you wanna pull your hair out. I KNOW females like this. It’s like you are an adult…female or male SO WHAT YOU ARE AN ADULT. And as an adult I think you should learn to be self-sufficient. Every dime you need to have to go to someone else it’s crazy. You’re supposed to be an adult what’s wrong with you. To an extent how do you put yourself in this position and then get mad when he doesn’t want to pay for every single thing. Nas should support the kid for the rest of his life or well for everything he needs at the very least what’s legally required but not taking care of hers for the rest of her life. After alimony that should be it and if she can’t take care of the kid on her end then let the child stay with him or something living with Nas… child support don’t equal child and spouse support to me.
Eh even if you’ve been married for 20 yrs I feel like you only should get spousal support for only as long as you were married. 20 yrs married = 20 yrs alimony. If she want him taking care of her too after 4 yrs well that sucks ’cause she should’ve been saving for a rainy day.
I read about this earlier…A man is suppose to take care of home period….meaning his responsibilities (The baby) who is not here yet and he needs to make sure Kelis is being taken care of to the fullest if he wants her to have a healthy baby. I think women are always suppose to have a PLAN B no matter what…I agree with having YOUR OWN account outside of the joined account, because you never know…thats what you call a “Secret account” she messed up with that one…smh. NO woman is suppose to depend on a man b/c people will fail you quickly! Im sure Kelis isnt dead broke but I heard she’s counting her chippers… so Nas being a man and soon to be father needs to help her out and be there for her until she gets some type of income flowing back in or better yet homegirl better pawn that damn ring…damn that! SELL some of your things baby doll!!!!! All the jewelry she has and exspensive bags and jeans that she doesnt really need or never wore, Im sure she can get some BREAD for that. Women around the world do it everyday to feed and clothe there children. This is everyday life for most people, she better wake up and smell the coffee…you cant but your child Gucci teddy bears and diamond toys I know she cant live off of that but Im sure it would definitely help her oout alot so as long as she’s healthy safe and taken care of she needs to be happy, most women dont even get that! Anywho I wish Kelis the best of luck and I really hope that Nas will step up to the plate and make sure that his family is taken care of.
Oh well, I have always been more of a Nas fan anyway.
Co-sign. I’ve always felt that Nas could have and should have done much better than Kelis. She has never been a classy woman IMO. ($20,000 for BABY STUFF? Girl, sit down..)
On the other hand, it is sad to see that she is so dependent on his money. Better get to selling all of those Rolex and Cartier watches because there is no way she is going to keep up that lifestyle with her record sales..
I agree but when you’re in love, you don’t think all of those things matter :sad: I feel bad for Kelis!
I didn’t read anywhere that Kellis was asking for spousal support for life. Where did she say that? If she did get spousal support, it would be for a limited amount of time equal to, or less than the length of their marriage, which was for a few years.
I agree that she should have created a nest egg, especially b/c she saw her marriage going down hill for a while now. I certainly see greed in her eyes, but at the same time, she does deserve child support… and maybe spousal support for a year or two until she gets back on her feet. In the meantime, she better work on creating an album that will bring in some money. It looks like she’s going to need it and there is no excuse for expecting $20,000 for a stroller and other small items.
NAS is showing to be a sorry excuse for a man. Yes some of the items are a little expensive for no reason, but he is refusing to help her support this child at all. I don’t know what kelis was thinking, not having something on the side to make her so money. Entering into a marriage in the hollywood spotlight, you HAVE to know that they don’t always last. She definitely should have had a backup plan. But that is no excuse for the ways Nas is acting. like a straight up N!99er, just like the name of his last album. I have lost so much respect for him because of this. Its just not a good look to try to punish your child because you and your ex arent getting along
:smile: Listen Brown Sista I totally agree with you and everything you said about a woman having her own even during the marriage.
Speaking from personal/current experiences I am going through my own tumultous divorce as we speak and despite the fact that my other half at the time made the majority of the money to care for our household expenses, I still worked and made my contributions as well. My belief is that a husband is the head of the household and should be able (Key phrase is “be able” ) to take care of his family financially with or without the contribution of the wife. Should they decide they want more it needs to be a mutual understanding/agreement.
I left my situation alone and financially I’m fine b/c I did my part. I got “accustomed” to a certain lifestyle during the marriage but that was all material stuff and peace of mind is FREE & PRICELESS!!!! So no spousal support is even being requested from me!!!
Ladies let’s learn to become more interdependent and not solely dependent on our men b/c history has taught us that at any given time they can leave us hanging in more ways than one and we are the ones that stuck with downfall of it all.
I completely agree with what you’ve written here, LJ. I believe that a relationship exists so that each person receives emotional support, but the new age has mutated that to include financial support. I disagree. I believe that each person in a relationship should be able to support him/herself financially, while relying on the other for love, sex, and all the things that money can’t buy.
I wish the best for Nas and Kelis in this situation. I would be hard-pressed to believe that all of Kelis’ ranting is falling on Nas’ deaf ears. If anything, his refusal to retaliate to her public outcries suggest that he is trying to think of a way to end this relationship in a civil manner, while taking care of the child. We’ll see what happens. We don’t know him, and we don’t know her.
Not really surprised at all just another celeb couple that marriage did not last :roll:
Teeda they like buying cribs that are like 3,000 a pop and extra expensive baby stuff where you know celebs like going to buy their baby stuff.
Meh and He takes care of his daughter so don’t see why he wouldn’t take good care of the newborn….. taking care of his child for the rest of it’s like makes more sense than taking care of her for the rest of hers too.
:twisted: I know this sounds kind of crass, but why, oh, why did Kelis decide to file for divorce right now with the state (physical and financial) that she’s in?
Dividing up assets is a chaotic enough experience, but add to that the fact that she has a baby on the way – may god bless it with perfect health – there are always “hidden” expenses when children are involved. And because of her impending due date, it puts a ticking clock on the divorce proceedings. The added pressure which I don’t think will be that favorable in her negotiations.
I just wish she had rode out the marriage for a while longer.
@Kjen- its hard to speculate what’s going on in someone else’s marriage. I wondered the same thing. Why did she wait until now to file for divorce? There are obviously some things that are going on that we don’t know about. Filing for divorce seemed like an act of desperation. Things must have really been bad. Maybe he cut her off financially while they were still married, and she thought taking legal action was neccessary to get money. Maybe she had a baby to try and save the marriage and it drove them further apart. Who knows? I really would like to hear Nas’ side of the story. Either way, I stiil expect him to take care of that child.
I agree that when a person is together, they still should think about saving for a rainy day. I am not surprised that she wants all that she wants. It is like this, if you are with a person, you decide to deal with their issues, then when it is over, it is like they say, oh well, your choice, so get over it. This is why I don’t recommend anyone even get into a relationship period without having a plan b for themselves. It can be good while it lasts, but when it is over, then we have to be able to carry on without leaning on the other person. We have to be wise these days. Love is love, but we still can’t be blinded to do something that will hurt us in the long run. I really feel sad to hear about their divorce. I wish both of them the best, though.
Didn’t this bish make her own money with her own CD’s before Nas entered her life? Is she an accomplished artist in her own right?
WOW! Reality check ladies, once he starts taking care of you, your locked in, like a prisoner mentally, I say be free and make your own money.
@Baron so in a marriage if one of the parties becomes ill does that mean the other person should abandon then because they can’t take care of themselves anymore. Those vows are more than just a poem or words they mean something. This man married this woman we don’t know what the circumstances are that drove them to that divorce, but, this is a pregnant woman who will be off of her feet for atleast 6 weeks after the pregnancy assuming and God willing there are no complications.
The reason alot of marriages don’t work is because people spend more time planning for their divorce more so than the marriage.
“The reason alot of marriages don’t work is because people spend more time planning for their divorce more so than the marriage.” <—– So on point it's flat out ridiculous.
I am so over Kelis and her “I am broke” attitude…save it! I already let this chick have it on my twitter page…lol
chynawes-I agree! Kelis should have been staking paper for some years now (oh well) :cry:
I feel bad for her and him, and the unborn child that has to be born into this madness. I have been part of a messy breakup before, and it can be life changing. I wish them all the best.