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Though there are many couples that are Black and married with kids, it is evident that over the years, the dynamics of the Black family has changed; an overwhelming number of Black single mothers are now the head of their household. What do you think needs to happen to change this?
well a series of things need to happen. Number 1 BIRTH CONTROL on the part of both parties. In this era there really is NO excuse 4 not protecting one’s self. Number 2, get 2 know the person that u are abut 2 have sex with. Do a social background check and ask 4 recent heath papers. Number 3 if u become an would-be parent do ur BEST 2 be the best parent that u can, man or woman.
Young people today need to learn that there is a consequence to every action and they should be held accountable for those actions. In the case of single female head of household, young women need to understand that they hold all the cards in a relationship. They need to love themselves first and they don’t need a man to tell them that they are acceptable in society. Young women need to stop believing the hipe, they are not just shorties or some clique’, but princesses of the black community. If they demand to be respected it will come to them, they are more than just pleasure objects for some ungrateful man who is to sorry to make a committment.
What do you think needs to happen to change this? Self esteem is the key to everything low self esteem is destroying us, and people need to stop drinking the cool aid ill elaborate later on
Women need to follow one simple rule before they have children… BE MARRIED. Most children today are coming into the world with only the benefit of the mother. The men are often gone before the children even enter the world. Don’t bring children into this world unless you have something to offer them and the most important thing you can offer them is a stable home with a mother and father.
It is really that simple.
I believe the major driving force behind this is that many women in todays society are losing focus on their strength as a woman. They should never have to drop the bar for any man! if a man wants you he will pursue you no matter how high the bar is lifted and those that don’t are obviously a waste of time. Many women too should realise that their is only one man that they should rely on that is their creator a man should have to seek the Lord first to find the woman well hidden in Christ this is the most important of all. God will provide he has made a specific man for each and every one of us and we do not have to drop the bar. HOLD IT HIGH LADIES!!
@ Voice is right! I often analyze the problems that plague our community and I know if we loved ourselves more, if we were able to hold our heads high, and have the self-esteem to know that we are worthy and we deserve the best, then maybe, just maybe, we could eradicate some of our social ills. But here’s the dilemma. I know for a fact that too many of our women suffer from low self-esteem, but how can I or how can we help uplift them and help these women feel worthy? In a sense, it’s like combating years of self-hate.
Black women don’t feel valued or beautiful in general. I think too many of us think we aren’t worthy of being loved or treated well because we don’t see many people who look like us being loved or treated well. Because of that I think we sometimes cling to the first man who comes along, even if he is a bad man. Men who want to share the phone and cable bill but not their last name. I don’t think this issue rests solely with women, we have to tap the brothas too. Brothas must show they value the women in their communities or I feel things will never truly change.
If only the problems in the Black community were that simple.
I’m totally in agreement with JBL. It is sad that we have replaced “my spouse” with “my baby’s daddy” or “my baby’s mama”. I really shake my head when I hear people referring to the relatives of their live-in partners as “in-laws”. Excuse me? People need to get married, and do the real work of communicating and respecting each other.
Men who want to share the phone and cable bill but not their last name.
JBL, you speak the truth! :thumbsup:
I think to start BW should start by making better choices in men they have sex w/ and get into a relationship with you gotta get there IMO before the baby-making. Start by making sure you know who you’re getting involved with.
Coco is right…there is no formula…marriage is not the answer if those too are failing left and right…seriously,my best advice as a single mom is get youself together first …go to school,see the world,give back to ur community..then pursue love and marriage..no one knows what the future holds…there are women who become single parents after 15 yrs of marriage…lets not generalize..i know many people who r products of single parent homes who r very succesful…like i said there is no formula…black people as a whole are in a very bad place forget the degrees and the cars u drive…strip that all away and there is alot of self hate and corruption in our communities…yes even the suburbs..the change needs to start within..for both black men and women