You’ve found the person that you can’t wait to settle down with but there’s a problem — he/she isn’t. You spend countless hours attempting to understand why. You spend even more time trying to figure out where to go from there. As great as you two are together, you can’t understand what your lover is missing that would make them shy from a commitment with you. You’re everything that he/she is looking for, so what’s the problem?
In a perfect world, two lovers would always remain on the same page but many times you’ll find that people are in different chapters of their lives. While you may be ready to commit the time and effort that a relationship takes, your person of interest may be far from that place. So what should you do? Should you wait for them to turn around or should you walk away?
It all boils down to one word, trust. Trust your gut and always trust your observations of a person. Whether you believe it or not, you’re judgment is usually accurate. However, many times we choose to believe what we want, even after a person tells us their truth. Ask your lover why they aren’t ready to settle down, take note of their behavior, step back and trust your first instinct.
Men and women will give you a million reasons for why they don’t want to settle down but at the end of the day if you left them standing alone and they truly felt you were the one for them, they’d find a way to make it work. They’d find a way to meet you somewhere and it wouldn’t feel like a chore or an obligation.
Sure, women and men give in to love once, have their hearts broken and have a difficult time trying love again. Sure, people are hurt and scorned. Sure, people are in graduate school, pulling internships and working full-time jobs. Sure, people have a child or two and barely have time for themselves. Sure, people are working a 9-6 and grinding after work trying to follow their dreams. Sure, people are starting their own businesses, working more than one job, taking on more than they can handle but at the end of the day—those people are full of you-know-what and a little bit of themselves.
If you’re willing to meet that person more than halfway and that person is still pulling away while still trying to keep you close, let them go. Don’t wait for them to see how great you are. Most likely, they already know but people have become so accustomed to their selfish way of living and thinking that they don’t think anything of it until they have to.
You shouldn’t want to be with someone who thinks putting you on hold is a smart solution. Men will never have a perfect financial situation and women will always be emotional about something and if your lover doesn’t understand that, then there is much for them to learn in life. Don’t waste your time hoping that any given day will be the one where they wake up and smell the coffee.
Know that you are great and there is someone out there designed to love you at the most inconvenient time.
A wise quotes reads, “Don’t make someone a priority when they only make you an option.”