Sistas vs You Know What’s

I know.  I know.  It’s not nice to refer to a woman as a you-know-what and I won’t, however, I do think that there are lots of you-know-whats out there.  What’s a you-know-what?  It’s a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person; usually a woman.

At the end of the day, people can do what they want to do but I really can’t stand women who pride themselves on being a you-know-what.  While what they intake doesn’t affect my digestive system, their actions are enough to get my blood boiling when they misrepresent women in general.

As a sister, a godmother, a cousin, a daughter and a friend—I can’t stand to see any of my favorite guys fall for the wrong women.  As a woman, it seems so easy to see a you-know-what coming but it seems like good men become dazed by whatever and get caught up in their mess.

While it may be vulgar and offensive to some, no one defines the difference between a sista and a you-know-what better than Jay-Z.  Now, that doesn’t mean that Jay-Z and men like him should be glorified because they know the difference, especially since I believe that some women become you-know-whats because of their past experiences with men.  It does mean, however, that when a you-know-what is identified, you should promptly lead her to the exit sign.

Now don’t get it twisted, sistas can have their you-know-what moments but at the end of the day a sista ain’t a you-know-what.  A sista is going to support you not belittle you.  Motivate you, not enable you.  A sista is going to respect you, love you and protect you. You-know-what’s are selfish and self-serving.  Sometimes they’re cruddy, irresponsible and untrustworthy.

Some you-know-what’s can’t be saved and good brotha’s shouldn’t waste their time trying to.  If you meet a you-know-what who’s more interested in your wallet, your car, your house, your stock portfolio or who you know – bounce that chick like a bad check.

There are plenty of good sistaz out here who don’t carry the baggage or the drama.  Women like Michelle Obama are great examples of a good sista that you may want to make your wife.  Don’t think those types of women exist anymore?  Well, I know a lot of great women who are looking to build a legacy with a great man.  Black love is beautiful.  Plain and simple, love is beautiful.  Treat these sistas like queens and we better our chances of fewer you-know-whats.

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  1. Bitches are simply women who want a little more outta life and aren’t afraid to get it by any means necessary.

  2. Reality Check you are funny but true. We all have those moments when we can seem overbearing and obnoxious, but that should not define who we are a whole.

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