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What Are We Gonna Do When I Get There?

Wamuiru said:

Ladies, don’t you just hate this question when a guy gets ready to come over? I haven’t been asked this in a few years though because I only deal with mature guys now, but when they did ask the question, I’d tell them don’t even bother to come over. To me, this means that you’re looking for something other than watching a movie or just eating dinner.

So He Doesn’t Open The Car Door For You…

sistas, does that mean you will stand outside, next to the car door while he’s getting in on the other side or would you open your own car door and get in without raising hell over it? Fellas, what would you do if a woman did that? Almost as though she’s wanting you to catch the hint that you “forgot” to open her door.

Bedroom/Seduction No No’s

LadyGodiva24 said:

Ladies, fellas too, when it comes to your lover’s bedroom/seduction techniques, what are some things that you just absolutely won’t allow? What are some things that will make you put a brother (or sista) out?

1. I can’t stand a brother who wants to seduce me with a t-shirt or socks on.
2. I can’t stand a brother who puts on a Magnum, and he really needs a Smedium.
3. I’m not into brothers who whines or begs for the coochie!
4. I can’t tolerate a two minute brother.
5. My biggest pet peeve is when the brother has sweaty balls! I had an encounter with a guy like that and I put him out of my house!
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Ever Take Back A Cheating Mate?

LoveLetters said:

A girlfriend of mine just found out that her boyfriend of 3 years cheated on her. Who knows how many times he’s actually cheated, but she had photographic evidence of his latest little trist. He did the deed in his apt in the same bed he lays in with my friend. Now, my friend was upset of course, but I was shocked by her response. She said that she could deal with the cheating and that she pretty much expects every man to cheat. She said every man in her family has cheated. But what bothered her was that her boyfriend said that he slept with the woman for basically no reason. He told my friend his cheating was not a result of any shortcomings on her part and that is what bothers my friend. She feels like if she is the “perfect girlfriend” and he still cheated, then there’s no way the two of them can progress. Call me an idealist, but I still cling to the notion that it is quite possible for adult human beings to be faithful and happy. Ladies, what are your thoughts? Do you expect men to cheat? Have you ever taken a cheating man back? Is it possible for men to be faithful to one woman for an extended amount of time?

Keeping A Relationship Interesting

MrsCutiePie said:

Well I feel I know everything there is to know about keeping my hubby wanting more and more and more of me… never wanting another woman. I make him his favorite meals when he gets home from work to wearing only panties, no bra around the house. I sometimes call him at work with my sexy voice and ask him out on a date… yeah a date still after 5 great years. I wanted to hear about what you many of you brothas and sistas do for your mate to keep the flames burning in your relationship… ? I may pick up a few more pointers!

If A Man Loves You, He Will Spend Money On You

Jeneen says:

I was reading a women’s magazine last night that said if a man does not spend money on you then he does not care for or really like you. I quickly jumped on the phone and called my Grandmother and Father who both verified the above statement to indeed be true. I later on hit up a few female friends who swore up and down this was not true and proceeded to make all types of excuses as to why a man would never spend money on a woman he claimed to care for. For the record, I believe the above statement to be one hundred percent true and I’m not buying that “maybe he is broke” excuse either. People spend money on things they care about, be it themselves, their home, their children, their car… whatever. Broke or not, a man with any interest in you at all is going to find a way to materialistically show you that he cares.

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Today’s forum topic of the day is a pretty heavy one, but as many of you know sometimes we here at Brown Sista step outside of the celebrity gossip box to talk about issues that affect Black women and this is one of those issues. Below is a topic I posted sometime ago on our official forum, The Cocoa Lounge, and with the R. kelly trial going on it has been on my mind again.

The Sexual Abuse Of Black Women

Some years back the topic of sexual abuse was brought to the forefront and surprisingly quite a number of sistas here admitted to having been abused as children. I bring this subject up again as I plan to tackle it on a future show and I want the input of the women here.

I wish to know how many of you here were sexually abused, by who, and what… if any scars do you feel the experience left you with?