Let’s talk about the emotions that are really behind the words: hater, haterade, hater tots, and hater status.
  1. Envy. The fixation on what someone else has and deeming it better than. Envy is the result ofhabitual comparative thinking.
  2. Jealousy. The act of being in a “envious state” and is a one two punch of envy and insecurity. Jealousy is connected with poor self worth and can be combined with revenge, vindictiveness and malice.
  3. Resentment. The belief that you are unlucky in life and that others have it easier. Resentment is a perpetual belief system that builds and gains momentum over a significant period of time and is a dangerous emotional cocktail of anger, envy, jealousy, petty thinking, blockage, inferiority, frustration, and bitterness. 
Now GT wont’ lie. I’ve had more than my fair share of all three emotional cocktails. Some all at the same time.(*Winces and Cringes*) But it wasn’t until GT had a “riddle me this?” moment three years ago that I realized that at my core of core’s I felt small and unlucky
GT Living Quality Philosophy:  See in yourself what you are willing to see in others.
So speak Brown Sistas. Is GT the only one? Does life seem to favor some people’s lives over others? Can people be born lucky? What triggers your envy, jealousy or resentment?


rinse and repeat.

Will Smith in “The Pursuit of Happyness”

After reading all your comments I thought this would be appropriate to discuss.

The Wet Mop Syndrome:  A condition of mind rot where some people believe that person’s outside of themselves are responsible for their unhappiness. Usually the wet mopper converses with other wet moppers or other sounding boards to get their endless points across. Synonyms for wet moppers are: blame shifters, consistent complainers, gripers, and unfounded scathing criticism. 

No shame here. GT was most definitely a wet mopper and the most saltiest of haters. When I decided to tell myself the truth I asked myself the following questions:

  1. Do I want a life of endless could’ve, would’ve, should’ves? 
  2. How many opportunities have I blown simply because I was not prepared for them?
  3. How long will I blame others for my unhappiness? A year? Five? Ten? Twenty years?
  4. How many years am I willing to wait before I take action?
  5. Am I afraid that people will see me as I truly believe myself to be which is inadequate?
  6. Will blaming others get me what I want? Or will it keep me right where I’m at?

As the Brown Sista Lifestyle Writer GT is here to tell you that you could have all the reasons in the world why you can’t have, do or be what you want. But when the smoke clears, and life progresses on, you will be the one who feels the rub of your own inaction.

When in need…Rinse and Repeat those questions as often as necessary.

Number 2 rings the alarm for GT.  Which question resonates with you most? 

Get Togetha.