Tameka Foster: Essence Interview

Tameka Foster, better known to world as Usher’s fiancé, sat down to talk to Essence Magazine about the innuendo, speculation and out right un truths that are often printed about her and her relationship with the much younger singer. Tameka pulls no punches and answers questions openly about her former husband, where her children are and if she really was the cause of Usher firing his mother as his manager. Click over to the next page to read the first part of the interview and do check back tomorrow for part two.

Essence.com: Bloggers worldwide have criticized your relationship with Usher. You haven’t responded until now. Why?

Tameka Foster: Friends tell me about some of it and we’ll laugh, but honestly, I don’t pay attention to the gossip on the day-to-day. However, things have been said about my ex-husband and about me and my relationship with Usher’s mom among other things, that I would like to clear up. I am not speaking because I feel the need to validate our relationship. We’re good.

Essence.com: The media has accused you of being “difficult,” “manipulative” and “crazy.” Is it tough to hear these assertions about your character?

T.F.: I’m probably one of the most down-to-earth, non-Hollywood people you’ll ever meet. I’m real, not plastic. So you’ll never see me smiling perfectly in every picture or waving my hand for the cameras like a princess on a float. If anything, I’m always trying to avoid taking pictures. I’m shy in that way. The spotlight is Usher’s lane.

Essence.com: Let’s address some of the rumors. Were you creeping with Usher while you were still married and he was still dating TLC’s Chilli?

T.F.: No, it’s not true. For the record, I was legally separated from my husband, to whom I was married to for five years, not ten as many have reported . He knew Usher and I were dating, and he was dating other people. It was really the photographers who were creeping. Usher and I went to St. Bart’s to celebrate my birthday in December 2005 and partied for five days straight all over the island. We weren’t hiding! We didn’t even know we were being photographed until we got back to the States. The funny thing is, my ex-husband was on vacation with his date in the Bahamas and having a good time. We were all chilling.

Essence.com: So Usher is not a home wrecker, as the tabloids suggested?

T.F.: Absolutely not. He was on tour when my marriage was officially over. He had nothing to do with what happened between my husband and me. Between my hectic travel schedule and our personality differences, my ex and I grew apart. There are no hard feelings between us. He is a wonderful father. I don’t have any regrets or anger toward him. We have great, smart, well-rounded children. It’s the media that wants to make it appear as if we have this big nasty beef with each other, and we don’t.

Essence.com: When did your relationship with Usher blossom into romance?

T.F.: In November 2005. What people don’t realize is that Usher and I were friends for nearly seven years and I worked as his personal stylist for five years. I was the only female friend he felt he could talk to. Because I was older, he would often ask me questions to help him understand the mentality of an older woman. He was really into Chilli. And when things began to get shaky in my marriage he was there to listen to me as well. But I want to make this clear: We only began dating when Usher was certain that there was no chance of reconciliation between me and my ex, because who wants to be known for breaking up a family or for sharing a woman?

Essence.com: Are you and Chilli friends?

T.F.: No, we’ve never hung out. I haven’t seen or run into her in nearly four years. The media tries to say his album Confessions (which explores the themes of infidelity) was about me, but it wasn’t. The album isn’t even about Usher’s life. But when you’re an artist and sing certain lyrics they’re often taken literally.

Essence.com: Bloggers have also reported that you are pregnant with some other man’s child, possibly your ex-husband’s, and that Usher has promised to raise it. Supposedly you two broke up and got back together in February when he found out you were four months pregnant. True or false?

T.F.: That is ridiculous. No, I am not pregnant with my ex-husband’s child. If that were the case, the baby would have been born already. Yes, we had a brief split for about a month, but just to reassess and figure everything out.

Essence.com: Okay. Well, are you pregnant with Usher’s child?

T.F.: Yes, I do plan to have children with Usher. This is the man I love and plan to spend the rest of my life with so why wouldn’t I want to share that bond of bringing another life into this world with him.

Essence.com: Do you two live together now?

T.F.: We just bought a home together, but we don’t officially live together. I still have my house that I bought, and he has his own house. I really hate that people are labeling me a gold digger. I’ve always had my own business, my own life. It would be hard to think a woman is just with Usher for his money. He’s gorgeous, not to mention he’s charismatic, sweet and gentle. There are women all over the world who want to be in my shoes.

Essence.com: You clearly love him—and so do millions of fans. How do you deal with fanatical loyalists and groupies?

T.F.: Oh my goodness, women don’t even see me when we’re out together. They say things to him like, “I love you! Call me!” Half the time, I’m dying of laughter and just shaking my head. I think it’s flattering. I’m like, “Wow, they love my baby!”

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13 Comments

  1. Good that she cleared all that up. We can’t judge by what we see and hear, cause we don’t know a damn thing. As for her and Usher’s mother, I believe her, cause believe it or not, the media loves to put women against each other and are quick to label them “crazy”, “manipulative” and “competitive”, only because it’s more believable (when all those behaviors don’t even depend on gender) and makes a good story to sell. We had no evidence of all those accusations. As for her kids, I ALWAYS thought she wanted to protect them from the public.

    And I’m tired of folks saying that she’s not pretty enough for Usher, first off, she’s the “good looking one” in the relationship. Second, looks aren’t everything. You can’t spend your time getting caught up in somebody’s outter beauty cause IT FADES! If they’re gorgeous, good, if they’re not, so what? As long as they’re beautiful inside. I just hope it works out for them and that Usher really matured as a man.

  2. Thank you Chante. Tameka definitely put fools in their place. People have totally created their own little image of this woman based on what the gossip blogs say. I am at least glad Brown Sista hasn’t followed suit, and I agree that Tameka is a very pretty woman. She may not always take the best photos but that is normal. The camera loves some more than others but she is still pretty and does look a bit like Chilli. They both have that mixed Indian look going with the smooth black hair.

  3. Tameka is having to answer her Black female critics. You women complain when brothers take up with other women but when brothers get a real Black woman other Black women are some of the first to call her ugly and a gold digger. I have seen you all do it with Dwayne Wade’s wife and a whole lot others. You women are busy hating because she has a man you all want but can’t get. Females silliness at it’s finest.

  4. Tameka showed poor judgment by even responding to the foolishness posted on gossip blogs. It’s crazy the power these site have now. As long as Tameka’s man is happy she should be happy. I would hardly let what the public’s opinion of me affect my relationship. I would be too busy basking in the warm arms of my man to care what a bunch of online losers thought.

  5. It ain’t just women talking ish, men called Tameka an ugly manly looking h** who cheated on her husband and a bad mother too. I’ve heard and seen on blogs men talk ish on Kanye’s current woman while making fun of Eddie Murphy’s ex-wife. Calling ANY woman getting with a rich man a golddigger. It’s no secret that men talk ish too and are on blogs as much as women, I mean Brian from Concreteloop, a male, even co-runs the site.

  6. Rodney Jerkins latin wife dated Derek Jeter and that Rodrigues player, the really cute one before she married him. Rodney is a fat arse dark skin Black man. You can’t tell me after dating two men like Jeter and Rodriguez she really liked Rodney. She is a singer and he was a hot producer. She married him for money and tracks and I ain’t never heard her or any of the other White and non Black women who marry Black men referred to as gold diggers.

    Oftentimes Black women have their own goals and aspirations and are doing their own thing. Look at Puffy’s girlfriend and Big Boi’s wife and Snoop’s wife. These Black women own their businesses and are blazing their own trail. They ain’t just picking up a paycheck.

    Tameka had ends before she met Usher so why the gold digger label? I swear folks kill me with that ish 😡

  7. Mad props to Usher for dating a ‘regular’ black girl. It just goes to show black sugar is just as SWEET. he could have chosen some light skinned arm candy, because he can get any woman he wants. He is dating inside his race because he finds black woman just as beautiful. Tameka is a round the way girl who people hate because she is dating one of the hottest guys in the game. Usher is number one in my book. If he was dating a white girl would everyone be riding his butt?

  8. Of course we all are glad she repsonded and let us in a little but some things just don’t add up. I don’t think she’s a gold digger or nothing, but I do think the both of them came in between relationships. It’s just funny how both of them had each other to rebound on. In all it’s cool, there happy and that’s all that matters…… 🙂

  9. I agree with RAWLO AND DAWN!

    We get mad at brothas who only want biracial or light skinned trophy chicks on their arm, then when we see a black man with a real natural looking brown sista every one dogs her out…I personally don’t see anything wrong with Tamekia or they way she looks…Her Essence pictures look cute…And what makes her a gold digger? She has always been a business woman who was married to one man who fathered all of her children..Anytime a normal person marries a rich person they will be seen as a gold digger.

    Looking at all of these of these dumb color struck negros and athletes, I’m proud to see Usher with a brown sista…Unlike every one else maybe he’s marrying for love and not looks

    :thumbsup:

  10. Black people will not be happy until they have totally destroyed themselves. I predict that all this bad press surrounding Usher and his woman will result in bad sales for Usher’s new album. As it is, while Usher was away, Justin Timberlake has come up and in him white folks see all they need. A white boy with Black style and sound. This alone will cause the mass media to ignore Usher when he comes back because they don’t want any competition for Justin. Black folks are foolishly helping this along and don’t even know it. We often help in the demise of our Black stars and then we claim they were wack or washed up.

    Tameka Foster is just a woman engaged to Usher. Why do Blacks hate her so much? What has she ever done to any of you or to Usher or anyone else that you all know of that makes you detest her so much? Usher wants and loves her and that is all that matters. Those two people have decided to love and cherish each other and at no time should we try to destroy that simply because our lives are so dull and boring.

  11. [quote comment=”8975″]It ain’t just women talking ish, men called Tameka an ugly manly looking h** who cheated on her husband and a bad mother too. I’ve heard and seen on blogs men talk ish on Kanye’s current woman while making fun of Eddie Murphy’s ex-wife. Calling ANY woman getting with a rich man a golddigger. It’s no secret that men talk ish too and are on blogs as much as women, I mean Brian from Concreteloop, a male, even co-runs the site.[/quote]
    But it is the women who started the hate and keep it going. Even you all don’t like her because you think Usher could have done better if he had a pretty lighter woman. Black women judge other Black women on their looks and even to you all you think the whiter they look the prettier they are. You women don’t really love yourselves and you are behind the insecure feeling so many sisters have about their looks.

  12. Quote, you have truly said the smartest thing I have heard about this subject in a long time.

    We did this same stuff to Hammer, Janet and countless other black celebs that slide by the wayside. We are so self destructive. That is why I would prefer artist like Rhianna or media diva Oprah continue to cater to a pop/white market because black people do not respect or love you no matter how great you are or what you try to do to please them and help others.

  13. This woman just can’t win. She might as well just ignore the haters and go on with her life.

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