Nia Long, who recently costarred opposite William Shatner, Candice Bergen and James Spader in the acclaimed ABC drama Boston Legal, is having a girl moment. Dressed in gray leggings, sheâ€™s curled, kittenlike, in the corner of her overstuffed sofa, in front of a fire, sipping red wine and estimating the number of pairs of shoes she owns. â€œUmm,â€ she says, squinting her eyes, â€œI guess, 60?â€From across the room, her longtime girlfriend CBS Paramount TV exec Abra Potkin laughs. â€œHa,â€ she says, â€œyou are so bad at math!â€
The figure, it turns out, is closer to 150, each pair lovingly arranged in a floor-to-ceiling closet in the corner of Longâ€™s airy bedroom. Shoes, Long says, are her passion, falling somewhere on the list below her career, her girlfriends, her son and God. And thatâ€™s precisely why the widely circulating rumor about Long losing her shoe while running from a street brawl she was allegedly involved in seems so, well, absurd. But surprise, surprise: The gossip is partly true. Senior writer Jeannine Amber visits Longâ€™s Los Angeles home to dish about men, shoes and what a nice girl like her was doing at a throwdown like that.
Essence: Last summer everyone was talking about how you were involved in an ugly scuffle at The Grove, an upscale shopping mall in Los Angeles.
Nia Long: I know! It was all over the radio and it was really blown out of proportion. They said after the fight, I was running around looking for my shoe; they kept calling me Cinderella. But come on, you see my shoe closet. I love my shoes; there is no way Iâ€™m leaving one behind.
Essence: So there really was a fight?
Nia Long: Yes. But I want to get this straight: It wasnâ€™t my fault. I didnâ€™t start it; I didnâ€™t throw any punches. It was one manâ€™s ego against another manâ€™s pride. It was all about them.
Essence: But how do two grown men start fighting at a mall?
Nia Long: What happened was, Iâ€™d gone out to dinner with my son and a friend of mine. This was the first time Iâ€™d ever brought my child around someone I was dating, so it was a big deal. After dinner, my sonâ€™s father (to whom Long was previously engaged; the couple broke up when their son was a toddler) needed to pick him up, so I told him to meet me. Really, I had no intention of introducing him to my friend right then, because my life is my business. He knows Iâ€™m a good mother, and thatâ€™s the most important thing. But he got to the mall a lot faster than I thought he would. Itâ€™s like he put on his Batman wings and flew (laughing).
When I saw him I thought, Okay, this is nothing to get excited about, and I introduced him to my friend. They shook hands, and then I guess my sonâ€™s father just got emotional, because he basically punched my friend in the face.
Essence: He shook his hand and then popped him for no reason?
Nia Long: Words were exchanged, but Iâ€™m not going to repeat them. Really, I donâ€™t think that fight had anything to do with me. I think it had to do with our son. Men are very protective of their children, and ours is his first and only child. I think my childâ€™s father was like, â€œThis is whoâ€™s around my son?â€ and just kind of lost it. Then they started fighting, so I walked off because I didnâ€™t want my son to get the idea that this is appropriate behavior. Thatâ€™s when the mall security came and broke it up, and the police were called. (Longâ€™s ex did not return repeated phone calls from Essence.)
Essence: How did you explain to your 6-year-old son why his father just hit a man in the face?
Nia Long: I told him his father got emotional and lost his temper, and he didnâ€™t use his best judgment.
Essence: Did the friend you were with happen to be 21-year-old first-round NFL draft pick Reggie Bush? Because thatâ€™s what I heard.
Nia Long: Iâ€™ve never even met Reggie Bush! Actually, thatâ€™s not true. Just before he signed his contract (with the New Orleans Saints) I was at an NFL party in New York, and this man comes up and asks if his boy can take a picture with me. His boy is like, â€œHi, Iâ€™m Reggie.â€ We shake hands, thatâ€™s all, and the next thing I know, Iâ€™m his girlfriend. After the fight, everyone was calling me, asking, â€œDid Reggie Bush beat up your childâ€™s father?â€ And I was like, What?
Essence: So who was the guy at the mall?
Nia Long: Nobody famous. Just someone I was dating. Weâ€™re not even seeing each other anymore. The thing is, where I come from, having spent some of my youth in South Central and part of my youth in Brooklyn, this wasnâ€™t that big a deal, except that Iâ€™m famous, and it really isnâ€™t a good look. Do you know Iâ€™m not even allowed to go to The Grove for a year? Weâ€™ve all been banned! But, whatever. They donâ€™t have any good shoe stores there, anyway.
Essence: Did this change your relationship with your childâ€™s father?
Nia Long: (Pausing) I was pissed. But it wasnâ€™t like I stopped letting him see his son. Thatâ€™s the gangster in me: No matter how crazy things are, you have to maintain your cool. Anyway, he apologized to me, my son and my friend. The bottom line is, heâ€™s really a good fatherâ€”an amazing father. The only thing I demand is that he speak to me with respect and that we maintain healthy communication.
Essence: Speaking of dating, I see thereâ€™s a giant vase of long-stemmed red roses on your kitchen counter. Who are they from?
Nia Long: My friend.
Essence: Oh, really? Just a friend?
Nia Long: Actually, I think weâ€™re changing into more than friends. Weâ€™re exploring the possibilities. Heâ€™s soooo nice. For my birthday he sent me a giant flower arrangement and all these chocolates.
Essence: What does he do?
Nia Long: I guess you could call it a form of entertainment.
Nia Long: (Giggling) Iâ€™m trying to be protective of it because I donâ€™t want it out in the open.
Essence: You were on Third Watch and before that The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. How are you enjoying being back on television?
Nia Long: The writing on Boston Legal is so beautiful, so layered and full of life, and Iâ€™m working with the crÃ¨me de la crÃ¨meâ€”true professionals who take their craft very seriously. So itâ€™s been challenging, but in such a great way. Of course, thereâ€™s the constant struggle to find the balance between work and motherhood: You know, dealing with my sonâ€™s school and school plays and the bake sale and the million things mothers do.
Essence: You have played the love interest of a fantastic array of men: Cuba Gooding, Jr., Ice Cube, Will Smith, Larenz Tate, Martin Lawrence, Taye Diggs, Mekhi Phifer, Jude Law. Who was the best kisser?
Nia Long: The most natural chemistry was definitely with Larenz. But Will set the standard for leading men. He really knows how to make a woman feel special. He likes to cater to a woman, and you donâ€™t need to be his wife for him to do that. If you are his costar, heâ€™ll take care of you.
Essence: Black male actors have been getting great opportunities to showcase their talents. Last year Jamie grabbed an Oscar, and this year thereâ€™s buzz around Will Smith, Forest Whitaker and Derek Luke. Black women donâ€™t seem to be getting the same chances to shine.
Nia Long: Itâ€™s not just Black women, itâ€™s women period. Many times weâ€™re cast in supporting roles; meaty roles are few and far between. Also a lot of Black men are branching out and doing mainstream films that donâ€™t necessarily have all-Black casts. And they arenâ€™t really giving those same opportunities to Black women. Theyâ€™ll cast an ethnic woman, but she wonâ€™t necessarily be Black. But I canâ€™t really get caught up thinking about the situation because itâ€™s depressing. Personally, I tend to mind my own damn business. Iâ€™m on a great show and I have two films (Premonition), opposite Sandra Bullock, in March, and Are We Done Yet? with Ice Cube, in April]. Iâ€™m happy. I have great friends. I have my mother, my grandmother, my sonâ€¦.
Essence: And your shoes.
Nia Long: Yes, my shoes (laughing). Every single one of them.
Nia Long: In Her Shoes
Black Americaâ€™s sweetheart Nia Long never batted an eyelash at the pesky rumors about her personal life until the gossip about a date that turned disastrous took on a life of its own. Now, with a recurring role on a popular television show and two films on the way, Nia takes time to clear her good name.
By Jeannine Amber
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