The Phenomenon of Soul Ties

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For the past two weeks, I have been researching and reading up on the phenomenon of soul ties for a presentation I’ve been asked to give on relationships. The teachings of soul ties are beneficial to anyone who has ever felt abandoned, neglected, angry, bitter, and/or confused while involved in an intimate relationship. To be honest, I’ve been following the phenomenon of soul ties for several years and have been able to contribute many of my struggles to the ties that I have developed, with men, over the years.

If this is your first introduction to the occurrence of soul ties, let me help you understand what happens when you are experiencing an unnatural relationship. A soul tie is exactly what it sounds; it is the knotting together or bonding of one soul to another. In the spiritual realm, when one is sexually involved with an individual who is not their husband or wife, those two parties become spiritually bonded together as one although not legally bonded, which causes unwarranted feelings, behaviors and actions that have been adopted from one person to another.

Have you ever felt a rush of jealousy, or feelings of anger or aggression? Perhaps, you weren’t a jealous person before you became involved with your mate, but you’ve observed that he or she may have some jealous traits. You may be asking yourself, “when did I become so jealous; so angry; so aggressive? To answer your question, it is due to the entanglement of his or her soul to yours; you both have become one, spiritually. If you are sexually involved with a liar, then you run the risk of adopting the same lying attributes. If you are sexually involved with a cheater, don’t be surprised when you suddenly feel the urge to cheat.

The entire nature and development of soul ties is contributed to the reason why it is truly important to know who you are involved with, and the spiritual nature of that person. There are some souls that should not ever become familiar with one another; because it may disturb the purpose and the calling one has over their life. Have you ever forced yourself, or forced a relationship to “work”? Perhaps, your attempts to make a relationship work felt unnatural, strange, or contrived. The reason you may be feeling such opposition within your relationship is due to the fact that your soul is fighting to detangle an unnatural bond with a soul you continue to entertain.

If you feel that you are currently experiencing an unnatural or ungodly soul tie, ask yourself these questions to help confirm your intuitive thoughts:

1. Does my relationship feel natural or contrived?
2. Am I spiritually growing and developing with this person present in my life?
3. Does this person make me feel loved, happy, valued, etc.?
4. Can I see myself marrying this person in the future?
5. Does this person add to my life a significant amount of substance?
6. Does this person believe in a higher power and actively walking in his/her calling?
7. Do they unselfishly give the very best of themselves to me and those I love?

Of course, we all have an intuitive spirit of discernment that we either ignore or take heed to. If there are any doubts in your mind regarding a relationship you have found yourself entertaining, I am sure you know what to do. If you are a spiritual person, you may want to pray and seek answers from your higher power as to the steps you must take to detangle your soul tie. Even if you are no longer with the person you have ties with, yet you are “haunted” by memories of being with that person, or you simply “can’t let go”, you will need to pray and seek God’s answer towards your deliverance.


Kara Warner is an upcoming author, blogger, and educator from Omaha, NE, by way of Hammond, IN. She has placed much emphasis on supporting, and becoming an advocate for women and youth who struggle with self- esteem, image, and perception issues.

In 2009, Kara founded a program entitled, ‘Beauty Is Skin Deep Movement, Inc.” in order to reconstruct the perception and image of women of color in American society. She has conducted classes for the YMCA, Urban League of Nebraska, Middle School Learning Center, and Girls Incorporated of Omaha.

Kara is currently working on a book titled, ” False Feelings Appearing Real”, a compilation of experiences and stories by women who have, throughout their life, struggled with understanding their feelings and are now learning how to cope with them.

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  1. What a great topic! I learned the hard way about soul-ties. We’re taught to live a passion-filled life, your job reference is a great example. Even soul-mates are questionable because of where we are at the time. Because people look for soul-mates, it’s easy to them confused with soul-ties and for things to get twisted!

    Sometimes people come for a reason or a season in our lives. I once heard Alfre Woodard state she didn’t believe in soul-mates but kindred spirits.

    I hope more people write and speak about this topic.

    Great article!

  2. Thank you, Cynthia! Not many people are savvy to the condition of soul ties but it’s so very important that we research it and become more aware of who and what we entertain. Again, thank you so much for reading and giving us your experience with soul ties!
    God Bless!

  3. Wow, Great Article Kara.
    I am very spiritual, as well as being spiritually sensitive to others around me. If someone male or female comes in my space to befriend me or just talk, I almost* automatically know that we are not even meant to be friends, as I feel disturbed by their presence (Sometimes to no fault of their own). Some people actually make me feel “off”. Some things I watch on television disrupt my way of being and disturb my mental state, i.e. most reality or negative shows. As for relationships, I’ve been in situations where your mind is saying yes move forward, but my being is rejecting the coupling by making me sick. It’s only when my mind realizes what my body is telling me, I then move on. You cannot force anything, as I feel certain people/spirits were meant to dwell together, whether it be for a short lesson, friend, long or short term relationship. People sometimes go in and out of each other’s lives for a reason; good, bad or indifferent. It’s all a part of our journey. We just have to be aware enough to recognize the signs the spirit world is sending us. If someone is adding nothing to your life, don’t be afraid to let go.

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