Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, are all popular women of today who achieved a level of fame through either a sex tape or letting sex be their moniker. They each also snagged a successful brotha under the guise that they are not whores but rather exotic beings with a past. Can I be honest? The truth is that White woman can be whorish, do slutty activities and yet still be placed on a pedestal. They can also still reach a level of success through the vessel that is ho-business. Doing this while never losing their virtue. Somehow their past does not completely tarnish them and they can have a successful career after wards and be taken seriously. I’m not knocking their hustle rather questioning the system that is in place.
Why doesn’t that same theory apply to Black women? Why is it that we are not allowed to go all out hoe and receive a reality series afterwards, a successful brotha on our arms or be paid thousands to show up to events? I may not have the exact answer but I do have a theory.
White women are already seen as “special” or exceptional by society. They are the standard of beauty. This is a standard that has been in existence since the dawn of creation. Black women are seen as second best, not as beautiful as White women. Sometimes we are not even seen as “real” women in comparison to our White counterparts. So, with this system in play, society reacts to our decisions and actions with a contrasting reception. A White woman has to do something extreme to lose her virtue and even then she never faces the chance of being kicked from her pedestal because at the end of it all, she is still… A White woman. That is something that does not change and is always taken into account even when she makes mistakes. It is what makes the repercussions for her actions so lenient. She always has that to fall back on. Think of it as her “in case of emergency stash”.
Black women do not have that luxury. We have it the hardest in society over other races of women by far. For one, we never reach that same pedestal or hierarchy that White women do. That place of significance is never offered to us by society. Regardless of our beauty or achievements. This makes it much easier for us to slide down into oblivion if we make a mistake or God forbid, do some hoe-s**t.
All of this plays into how brotha’s see White women versus Black women. This is why a successful brotha like Kanye West, or Reggie Bush will become involved with a woman like Kim Kardashian, or Amber Rose. They have been affected by the system at hand. They see that they can still become involved with this type of woman and it not be a problem because she still has her pedestal. There never was a threat to her loosing it despite her stripping, giving out blow jobs on tape etc.. She is a White woman. Brothas see that society still sees them as being privileged White women but now they come with a twist. Now because of their illicit backgrounds they are more “exotic”. If they were Black women they would no doubt be considered tarnished and deemed useless but because they are White they still keep their prestige with an added flare of sexiness. Now they know she is a White woman who has a slutty side and that is something to celebrate according to the brothas. That is something that peeks their interest. He wants to be the one championed as having “tamed” her and now reaping the benefits of all of her sluttiness. Suddenly her sluttiness isn’t so slutty. Suddenly it is “sexy” and “alluring”. What a lucky bastard that brotha is having all of that all to himself.
Plus when all else fails he still has a White woman on his arms. For some brothas that alone is enough for him to be proud. He can feel as if he has accomplished something. He has won the coveted prize. It doesn’t matter if this White woman is fat and unattractive; she still is a White woman. They are to be cherished and adored. Despite their flaws, hiccups in life, and through their slutty behavior they can always fall back on the fact that they are the highly desired White woman.