It’s one of those old sayings that you really only understand once you’ve gotten some experience under your belt, enough wisdom to get you by and a little hair on your chest (well maybe not). It’s a saying that’ll take you down memory lane and will leave you wondering about the knowns and the unknowns of your life.
I guess if it were Christmas in July and the ghost of my past offered to take me on a journey that resulted in my having a conversation with my younger self, I’d take her up on it.
What would I tell myself? Simply four words. Live. Learn. Laugh. Love.
You have to live life to experience any part of it, good or bad. You have to learn when to move on and when to stay. You have to laugh daily because it truly is the best medicine. You have to love for it’s the only way you’ll be loved.
When I look back at my life I can easily point out decisions, moves or actions that I could have done differently. Like not standing up for myself when I was adopted and fighting to hyphenate my name instead of dropping it altogether. Or even on the other extreme, burning gas, time and money on a boyfriend who I knew I had no intentions on marrying. #Regrets.
It’s odd because most people suggest that you should never have a regret in life. I actually beg to differ. I believe people are entitled to have regrets. If used properly, regrets can become motivators to do and be better.
Had I no regrets, in the conversation with my younger self, I couldn’t tell her those simple four words.
What’s so important about live, learn, laugh and love? Everything.
You ready to know why? OK. Lets go.
Ashley. Listen. Pay attention. I’m only going to say this once because age and life have made me a bit impatient. And lets make this quick before my blackberry buzzes.
Far too often we limit the ‘l’s’ of our lives because of expectations, perceptions, rules, restrictions or just plain ol’ what other people will think of us. We trap ourselves and have a difficult time returning to the days when we just didn’t care—if those days ever existed.
Live according to your own rulebook but be smart enough to listen to your gut. It’s amazing; the gift of intuition that we have in our spirits. Trust it. Work hard, yes. Study hard, yes. But don’t let life pass you by because you never know how many days you have left to live. Find a balance in life.
Learn from every moment. There’s a lesson everywhere you look. When you touch a hot stove once, be wise enough to never touch it unprotected again. Fool me once, shame on you…you know the rest.
Laugh. Did you know it takes more energy to frown than to smile? Spend most of your life laughing off the nonsense and celebrating the good times.
Love is the anti-drug that can’t be sold, bottled or commercialized. When it’s real, you know it. Be authentic in your love life, it’ll take you a long way.
A few last points. Invest in Apple stock. Don’t date the guy after this relationship. Never take a day for granted. Always make sure you make time for those you love. Don’t let your bestfriend go. You might already know your husband and lastly…just have fun.
That’s the conversation that I would have with myself. What would you and your younger self talk about?
The “l’s” are cool but don’t be afraid to get dirty! Feel free to tell yourself off or pat that PYT on the back for a job well done!