I have to address the ladies on this subject mainly because that’s where I have noticed most of the issues. Why do women hold on to relationships when it is blatant mistreatment going on. I have heard the excuse “we have been together for X amount of years” too many times. Since when does the amount of years justify why your self pride, self worth and value are discredited? Ladies you have to stop making excuses. Stop holding on to a person that is clearly not for you; or waiting to wake up one morning and see a changed person. Why is all your energy focused on saving something that isn’t worth or will not change. Kissing a frog and he turning into a prince is only in the fairy tales. For arguments sake let’s say at one point this man was your knight in shining armor and one day he changed and hasn’t been that person since then. Well clearly his feelings about you changed, whether you did something to make his feelings shift, or he just isn’t interested in the relationship anymore. What about the idea that maybe he just was that way to hook you, cause really who is a jerk from day one?
Let’s give some examples of mistreatment or abuse (in my opinion). Obviously physical abuse would be the number one example. I’m waiting for the answer to the million dollar question why would you stay with someone that treats you like a punching bag. What about verbal abuse. Calling you names that are demeaning; whore, bitch, slut etc. Add the adjectives stupid or fuckin in the front of those words and it makes it ten times worse. How can you forgive some one for that would belittle you in such a way. If another woman or person that owes you nothing called you that on the street you would be ready to fight. But a person that is suppose to love, cherish and respect you says it and it’s ok. Ok he says sorry he didn’t mean it he was just mad. FORGET THAT what you say first is usually your true thoughts. Of course we all say things that sometimes we don’t mean, and in the heat of the moment, but when it’s continuous let’s be real. When the relationship has gotten to the point of horrible and cruel insults that is not healthy. The deniel needs to be shaken off and you need to look into the reality of what’s in front of you simple and plain.
Thanks to Brown Sista for allowing me to be a guest blogger. The above post is an original from my blog Ask Y and X, www.askyandx.blogspot.com, where I feature relationship issues. I created Ask Y and X for people to socialize with freedom of expression, and give their own stories or opinions.