It’s always puzzled me and has always lead me to wonder where in the world are women finding all of these bad black men. Is there a particular neighborhood where they hang, a state where they dwell? Where are they? I can’t imagine they flood the streets like cars during rush hour because well I just haven’t run into enough of them to complain.
This past weekend, I attended my best friends wedding in Orlando and it helped solidify my belief that there are a good amount of good black men out there. Her now husband is an Alpha and the weekend was full of college educated, professional Alpha brothas. I sat at a table with about six of them and had I been in the market for potentials, I would have had a difficult time picking just one. They were all exceptional men. They weren’t all dimes in physical appearances but how they carried themselves and what they represented was so positive and powerful that they looked like dimes to me and half of the bridal party. These guys had good jobs, didn’t have children, didn’t smoke and were open to the idea of marriage, if not now in the future.
So what more could you ask for? Or I guess a better question is, what do women want? And once you run down your “Chilli” list, I think women have to ask themselves what do you need?
If a man will not find perfection in you then maybe you shouldn’t expect to find the perfect package in a man.
-Ashley Charisma is the author of School of Black Love. For more info on Ashley Charisma and the novel visit www.ashleycharisma.com.