Turn on any entertainment channel during prime time and I’m sure you will find a plethora of drama-filled cat fights featuring the latest selection of wives, girlfriends, aspiring models and video girls. The main ingredient that keeps reality shows on the air is drama. Without that crucial element, ratings will likely plunge. Although we enjoy watching women fight, berate themselves, and call each other names on national television, it kind of makes you ponder why we are so enthused by these profligate displays. Art certainly imitates life in this instance, because in the world which we live in women find solace in tearing each other down and stepping on the toes of other women in order to reach the top. This has got to stop. I’ve encountered so many women who claim that they “don’t get along with females.” I stop them dead in their sentence and ask them if they’ve ever asked themselves why? Often times the familiar response that I hear is that other women are “haters” and are jealous and catty. Be that as it may, we must learn to put our differences aside and look at what we have in common. I’m not advocating that every woman turn into a bra-burning, man-hating member of society, but as women, we need to learn to stick together. Support our fellow females out there who are paving the way for us today.
Many women in our society are equally worshipped, hated and criticized by the general public. The negativity that I hear spewed out when it comes to public figures such as Nicki Minaj, Halle Berry or Michelle Obama is obfuscating. No one is perfect; it is easy to point the finger at women in the spotlight or women who we may feel threatened by. This is a way that we may mask our own insecurities. But this is not the solution. As women we all experience the same hardships and pain although the situations may vary. We are all on the same team.
Women are so afraid of complimenting other women; it is easier to hate another woman from afar than to admit that you admire certain qualities about that woman. We are not in competition. When I see a woman that I find beautiful, charismatic and successful, I examine what exactly she is doing and I use that as inspiration. Instead of looking at what you hate about another woman, try to see what you can learn from another woman. Women in this country are second-class citizens, who are often objectified through media outlets. The bitchiness needs to stop. We could be such a powerful force if we learned to use our powers for good instead of against each other.
Janice Gassam is a graduate student currently getting her degree in Industrial Organizational Psychology. To contact Janice her email is email@example.com
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