You all know me as Fashionista101, but let me really introduce myself. Hi, I’m Shanteé, and I wear weaves — both sewn and glued. Yes, fashion is my forté, but I was really inspired to do this post because of the way a lot of [black] women react to other black women’s hairstyle choices. For some, hair is an accessory, so I believe do with it what you please. It is yours after all. So, whether you prefer your hair relaxed and straight, or kinky, that’s on you. It’s pretty annoying hearing some women’s comments toward weave-wearers:
“I don’t wear weaves, my hair’s already long.”
“Typical. Black woman and a weave. Perfect match!”
I mean, sometimes I have to laugh. Like how the hell is that typical of me?! I personally have a nice length of hair, but I wear my weaves long, approximately 14 inches, and I love it! Because of heat breakage, not chemical, my hair began to break off about 2yrs ago. So, I got it professionally weaved to give it a fuller look, and it turned out great! Everyone, including myself, loved it.
Since then, my hair has grown back, but I won’t even let anyone see my real hair. Why? — Because I don’t feel like it. I like the way I look with 14 inches of hair flowing down my back. I like how manageable it is, and I like being able to put it into a quick ponytail when I’m hot. LOL. As long as my hairstyle looks tasteful, what’s the big deal?
Some, like Solange on the Oprah Show the other day, spend and think you have to spend tons of money on hair extensions. If you want a really good looking one, yes you’ll have to shell out some cash. But, isn’t hair care expensive PERIOD? I personally wash, set, relax, weave, and style my own hair. So, monthly, I’d say I only spend about $50-60 on my hair (that’s including my weave). A wash and set at the salon these days cost at least $30! So, no. I’m not one of those baby mommas spending formula and rent money on fixing my “wig”.
I usually think very highly of black females, but in the past year I’ve noticed how it’s black women that criticize other black women the most! I’m from New York, and in my town hair like mine is considered “normal”. Straight and relaxed. Not kinky or “nappy” hair. Not unprocessed hair.
Before you speak, and give your own critique, I think you should at least be a bit educated on hair weaving and hair extensions, because what you all may not realize is that white women probably wear extensions more than we do! So why does it look so natural you ask? — because the secret to having an amazing hair weaving experience is to have the right type/amount of hair to blend with the extensions. Sometimes Beyonce’s looks REALLY natural, but that’s because she has a nice length of hair already. I bet most of you also didn’t know that Kim Kardashian, Hollywood’s top Armenian princess, also wears weaves. Even her oldest sister, Kourtney Kardashian, was caught on camera getting her weave hooked up the other day. I also watch as many episodes of the Wendy Williams Show as possible, and on each show she asks her guests (mostly white) if they’re wearing hair extensions, and I don’t believe any of them has ever said “No, this is actually all mine.”
Actress Joy Bryant, who some were shocked to find out wears a weave as well, recently posted an article to the Essence Magazine blog, titled The Tracks Of My Weave. In the article Joy admits to wearing weaves and loving them. She also states that she was not moved at all by Tyra’s “Going Natural” hair segment.
>>National Real Hair Day? I missed that one…In fact, on National Real Hair Day, I was calling Extensions Plus in L.A. to make sure they had enough of the 20” “relaxed roots” texture hair that I love oh so much (and that keeps selling out like crazy!), and making an appointment to get my hair, I mean, my weave, hooked up. I loooooove taking new hair out of the bag, combing through it with my fingers, holding it up with my two hands, and burying my face in it. Mmmm, mmmm, mmm! Nothing like a new batch of zig-zag curly to get your self esteem out of the dumps! With long brown tresses and a tan, I’m Pocahontas, ’cause I got Indian in my family. With easy waves, I AM bohemian rhapsody goddess personified. And now that I got blond highlights! What!? I know I look like Beyonce! You can’t tell me nothing! Uh oh, uh oh…
Not everyone is blessed with having gorgeous hair — Just like some aren’t that blessed in the looks department, and choose to wear makeup. Who’s pressin’ you about that? Or the ones who LOVEEE to rock grey contacts KNOWING it does absolutely nothing for you! Oh, oh, and what about push-up bras for the less fortunate, and high heels for the height challenged? So basically cosmetics in it’s entirety should be ruled out [for black women]?! I think not! As a matter of fact, the next black chick I hear talking smack about another black woman’s hair weave, I’m gonna snatch her outta her 6-inch heels, and run her under some hot water and soap. We’ll see how NATURAL she is!
So, for all the women who’ve “gone natural”, yet still use hair dyes and still get their hair pressed, THINK AGAIN! That my dear, is NOT natural. Natural is letting it alllll hang out, no matter what. So cut out using gels and all that other extra stuff too. Just do it like they did it back in the 1800’s. I, on the other hand, will continue to rock my 14-inch jet black Yaky hair. Hmmph. Maybe next time I’ll try out that 16-inch!