Mary, Mary, Mary. I somehow thought that with all of the growth you exude that you had come farther than What’s The 411? Sad to say that Mary and her temper that she was once known for early on in her career have struck again. There is much speculation as to why Mary struck her husband recently but my point is that who cares what he did. It is never okay for anyone to put their hands on their significant other in a violent manner. Especially if they do not want that violence reciprocated. Let’s be real, most women do not want the violence reciprocated and I am sure that being a previous victim of abuse, Mary would not have wanted that either. Some men will allow their woman to hit them repeatedly and refuse to hit her back. Then there are some women who are not that lucky. Mary has admitted to being in violent relationships in the past. She has even admitted to seeing her Father beat her Mother. Perhaps there still is some debris left from her past that she needs to handle. At any case, resorting to violence is usually never a solid decision. I’m not taking any a** whoopings so I’m not giving out any.
What is interesting is that when females comment about Mary hitting her husband they do it in a jokingly, triumphant manner. Similar to “girl she knocked the s**t out of him” or “Girl, I bet he won’t pull that s**t next time unless he wanna get the shit smacked out of him”. It is as if her behavior is somehow being excused by women because one she is Mary J. Blige and her primary target audience is women and two she is a women. I’m seeing double standard written all over this. If that same violence had been demonstrated on Mary from Kendu chicks would be rallying up for the million woman’s march for Mary. Are we really that limited and immature in our thinking that we will make excuses for Mary’s behavior when we know that if the tables were turned the same leniency would not be applied? How many of you laughed at Tiger Wood’s wife attacking him raise your hand?
I know that double standards exist in our society but domestic violence is so serious because all it takes is one wrong hit or punch and you could possibly injure the person for life or cause other irreversible consequences like… I don’t know.. Death!
I understand that sometimes some men can be simple minded. Trust me I know. Lord knows I know! They can also make foolish, avoidable mistakes HOWEVER, that should not warrant you the right to violence. Same as it does not warrant him that same privilege. I am a fond believer of the do on to others as you would have them do on to you principle. So I try my damnedest not to put my hands on anyone, man or woman unless I am prepared for the possibility that they might put their hands on me. Chances are, if it is a man, I won’t be too thrilled about it. In fact in most cases, unless I know Jujitsu or Karate he might cause me more bodily harm than I would cause him.
What say you ladies? Is it ever acceptable for a woman to smack her man around? Or does the threat of you knucking and bucking depend solely on the offense he committed? If a woman does strike first then should she expect for her man to strike her back at some point? If he does then is he in the wrong? Just wanted to spread some food for thought. Think about it and EVERYONE- Play Nice.
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