A-Coon-A-Mattatta, for the rest of your days! Its a KNOWLEDGE FREE philosophy! A-Coon-A-Mattata! It means NO WORRIES for the rest of your days! A-Coon-A-Mattata! This is the mantra that our young sistas and brothas are subscribing to. This mantra is a self destructive one that many fail to see in themselves because they are adapting to what they see their peers do. Coon behavior is any behavior that is self destructive and further prolongs the illusion that Blacks are ignorant, shucking and jiving individuals who opt to indulge in foolery. This message is for the young sistas to receive and also for the older sistas who “get it” to pass on.
First of all, when I write about the images and behaviors that I see my sistas do that are unhealthy please recognize that I am not trying to make myself appear to be better. I am not suffering from the house negro syndrome. I simply feel that Black women are some of the baddest chicks on the planet. We have incomparable beauty, strength, intelligence, endurance, faith. I can go on and on. Literally. Simply put, we are too bad (bad meaning good) for these antics. So, when I see us behaving in foolish ways, that might decrease our natural bad chick aura’s, something must be said. The behavior that is being embraced by the younger generation, my younger sisters in particular is becoming outrageous. They are forgetting how special they are and it is becoming more and more apparent in their declining behavior.
I recently came across this video on the site youknowyoudeadazzwrong. It shows two young sisters dancing in a extremely sexual manner. My issues are that they both look young as hell. Young sistas do this to get attention from guys not knowing that they really do not want the attention that will come from this behavior nor do they need to deal with the dudes that enjoy seeing these images. Why? Those same dudes who are watching this are looking at them like they are a walking vagina. Nothing more. Young girls are not thinking that deeply in most cases because… hell… they just want the attention. They want to feel desirable. This is the manner in which they see others achieving it so they follow suit and it creates this distorted domino affect. They think this is the only way. They do not get that this attention may be unhealthy unless someone TEACHES them. I do not think that this thought process is even on their minds. They are living in a worry free zone where their actions will not have a consequence. There is no concern as to how they are being portrayed. Whether they appear foolish, whorish, desperate. They just want to achieve the goal of feeling desired. I’m looking to my older sistas to teach our younger sistas that it is not cool to portray yourself as a mere sexual object. Nor is it necessary. They do not even have an idea as to what is sexy is at this point. As I mentioned earlier, Black women are some of the most beautiful, charismatic, naturally sexy, women who have a certain bounce in our step that other women only can attempt to imitate with all types of surgery and treatments. Yet, it can never be fully imitated. That being said, there is no need to put yourself out on a platter like this for men.
I often get comments as to why don’t I speak on White women and their antics as much. I have an easy answer to that. I don’t care as much as to what is going on with White women or how they are perceived. Nope. Society generally puts them on a higher pedestal. They are often valued more. I will leave it to someone else to assist in their inner growth as women. In most cases Black women are judged more harshly. So my focus will always be on looking out for my sistas first and foremost. Assuring that they know it is perfectly fine to portray yourself with lady-likeness, class, and natural sexiness. If no one else will comment and try to lead them then I will. I do this through my writing and my actions.
Youngin’s, this is not how you go about being sexy. To top it off you put it on you tube for the whole world to see it! There is nothing wrong with a woman getting her sexy on for her mate, significant other or whoever she significantly gives the goods up to. I am not judging how you do your red light special. However, showing the world all of your antics is not a good look nor is it sending out the depiction that you deserve. The question is where does this behavior stem from and how can we prevent it from spreading further? Suggestions?
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